Disarming Anger & Resolving Conflicts // Pastor Jimmy Evans

If our marriages are going to remain pure and intimate, then we have to have an effective system for processing anger and problems. A good marriage isn’t a marriage where there is never conflict. A good marriage is one where anger can be processed and conflicts can be resolved.

Watch this special sermon from Pastor Jimmy Evans that will give you biblical understanding of how to deal with anger and how to resolve conflicts so you can have the pure and intimate marriage that God wants you to have.

SERMON HIGHLIGHTS:

THE 4 “DON’TS” OF DEALING WITH ANGER:

1. DON’T DENY YOUR ANGER
2. DON’T JUSTIFY SIN BECAUSE YOU ARE ANGRY
3. DON’T GO TO BED ON YOUR ANGER
4. DON’T GIVE THE DEVIL A PLACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

THE 4 STEPS TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE:

1. CONFRONT IN A LOVING AND POSITIVE MANNER
2. COMPLAIN AND DON’T CRITICIZE
3. LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSE AND BELIEVE THEM
4. FORGIVE AND LET IT GO

GOOD MARRIAGES AND GOOD PEOPLE HAVE ANGER REGULARLY TO DEAL WITH

IF YOU HAVE ANGER AND NEED TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS BETWEEN YOU NOW, THEN COMMIT TO DOING IT RIGHT AND GIVE YOUR SPOUSE THE RIGHT TO COMPLAIN AND BE HONEST

IF YOU CAN’T RESOLVE IT – GET COUNSELING UNTIL THE ISSUE(S) ARE DEALT WITH AND YOU HAVE THE SKILLS TO DO IT IN THE FUTURE

[TheQueensheeba]

It’s not my husband, it’s me😢. I appreciate all of your messages. I am a God fearing woman and I have a short fuse, but I have the Holy Spirit. He speaks to me and He humbles me and He sends me back to him and tells me when to open up and calmly discuss where the offense rose up from and My Dather constantly comes to my rescue because I Love my husband and I know that He Loves Me. Your messages Bless me. Thank you

[marygarrett]

I’ve been nailed OUT of the house, with my 8 year old son!! That man has since met the Lord. He had to explain himself😊

[incognitoriaanonymousita]

I can't tell my husband ANYTHING that he does wrong....he takes offense immediately and wears the anger all day...I walk on eggshells and wonder if we are going to be normal the next day.

[Ashley-idcb]

Excellent message! I love the complaining and criticizing example. ❤

[incognitoriaanonymousita]

Yep...I get all of that: criticism, shame, anger, attacks, rejection, ignored

[eileenevans]

Excellent Message!
Thank you Pastor Jimmy.
💕💕🙏🏻🙏🏻

[incognitoriaanonymousita]

My husband is that bomb....he is also passive aggressive and likes to stonewall and gaslight

[incognitoriaanonymousita]

23 years of marriage and my husband has apologized on his maybe twice...

[bethmckee]

Can I just say....l came from the same family dynamics you describe that Karen had. I had a red volkswagon beetle and I once poured a drink over a guys head. Are Karen and I possibly related? 😂 of course, all that happened when I was very young!

[ResurrectionHumans]

Theres a lot of good general advice here but its general. We do not live to please each other. We live to please Christ. Making peace for the sake of peace, repenting for something you didn't do, false forgiveness, is building your marriage on lies. I think marriage only works if both people seek to please Christ and believe in the gospel, i.e. we are both sinners who are saved only because of Christ and the grace of God. The gospel is the foundation and the power of God for salvation . I heard nothing about that unfortunately...

[reneheshion]

Jimmy, a word of caution to you brother. You are very wrong in your involvement to Joni Lamb and her children!! You have sanctioned an adulterous marriage to Joni and her new husband. Obviously you think you are above the Lord and His Holy Scriptures. Please repent and tell Joni and the world you were very wrong in this! I also heard what you told Johnathan about to submit to the voice of God through her!!! Brother you need to repent immediately!!!

[rachaelwalvatne]

After the beatdown you and Joni gave her son and daughter-in-law, it’s obvious you have no place teaching on resolving conflicts and managing anger. You have no business teaching others.

[MarkAdams-vbwr]

Arguments were settled in the Bible, by crucifying Yeshua, Peter, cut off head of Paul, stoning Steven… read your bible… they were thrown in prisons to…