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My Ex Never Contacts Me First | How Do I Get My Ex Back?

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Love Advice TV's Coach Adrian talks about communicating with an ex after a breakup, and addresses those who ask us in the comments section, "My ex never contacts me first, what should I do?"

If you say, "My ex never contacts me first, but replies to my messages and calls," don't take for granted the fact that your ex responds to your messages and calls in the first place. Many clients can't even get a response from an ex after a breakup. They are totally ignored, or are blocked everywhere.

The fact that your ex is responding to you is a good sign because it means you have a platform to prove to them that they made a mistake, and that you two can interact in a light-hearted way, without drama or negativity. You need this platform to get your ex back.

Many times, your ex doesn't reach out to you first because they want to make sure they convey to you that things are different. It's their way of setting boundaries and making sure they don't get your hopes up. You need to understand their mindset so that you don't get frustrated or push too hard.

Even if they are not reaching out to you first, it doesn't mean they don't miss you, it doesn't mean they're not thinking about you, it doesn't mean you don't have a good chance to get your ex back.

We encourage you to take a step back and to analyze the types of messages, contacts, communication that you've been having with your significant other. Is it forced? Is it flat? Or is it more engaging?

Are you able to inspire them?

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[amberdrake]

My ex would not reach out first and we ended up back together. Just don't push too hard and they may come around.

[xCandyxx]

I just wanna say that coach adrian is my favorite coach....he is so sweet. I wish I could afford a session with him.

[twobullz]

This community is so badass .. everybody helping when they can with advice .. Our wonderful coaches being active in the comments ... it makes things a lot easier . Thanks everyone 💜

[ilovemichaelbublex]

I’ve taken all this advice and after 1 month of ya breaking up we got back together.

[soundofsilence]

My current situation brought me here and even to some of your love advice videos, I like you most among others because most of your advices leave us hope and to never take for granted the chances no matter how little chances it is which I'm holding right now.
You are the type of coach I needed right now because I'm the type of person that don't listen negative advices in my negative situation.
The best coach, the best adviser, and the best coach to comfort broken heart.

[katerinalampropoyloy]

It is very difficult when you see someone that before sometime feel for you love and now doesn't feel nothing to act like this if.. Maybe someday come back.. I prefer to forget him as he do and act like stranger for the good of myself. If you try 3 years to do all that you can to see what he loose and doesn't care it's better to go forward and never speak to him. He ask me to see him as a friend and if I don't do that he said to me not sent him never again... OK as he wish!!

[SnenhleNjapha]

So my ex sent me a weird text ( I say weird because he was acting off and didn't want to entertain anything relationship related). He said, "we're gonna work it out". I started becoming emotional and he said we could chat about it face to face. Asked for a lunch date but hasn't said anything since I acted emotional. He sent an "okay" gif (a child with that jeez ok look on her face) and I've said nothing for 2 days, he hasn't reached out either. Not sure what to do now.

[KevinSH]

Im currently in this boat, it has taken 2 months to get to this point though so I am thankful. She responds to my texts usually with an hour or so, and we have talked on the phone a few times. Things are looking up, but i still initiate 90% of the contact.

[nutelladora]

He always response to my close questions (I’ve never start the open conversation) but trying to be just friend. And now he is in the rebound(started 4 months after our 7-yr-relationship break up).
After I knew about his rebound(via signs on facebook and call him “in peace” to confirm that he is dating). I feel upset about his feeling to me. It is like he is a stranger to me and our memories aren’t real. Anyway, I still miss him so much.

[annika]

Thanks for the advice! I will create space and see what he does. Any tips on ways to overcome fear of losing them? The fear is what tempts me to text/call. But deep down I want balance in communication i.e. me not always initiating. I know he met someone but they are not dating. We facetimed and he said "don't get the wrong idea, but you like really nice" and also that he really enjoyed our conversation. Do I still have a chance?

[macys]

Can you please do a video on how to recover from my ex's family and my family not getting along with each other's families? How can it be fixed? We got back the 2nd time around but my family dissed my ex and his family and my ex broke up with me again and can not forgive my family. My family also does not want to apologize. Thank you

[alilpetty]

I love when he said "Use Ur Brain' really bc Ive become so sad, I stop thinking, in total insecurity. Use YOUR Brain. I KNOW this man, I KNOW him. He answers my calls, he answers my text, he met up with me once to talk... E CAN BE a wall when he wants.. I need to use my Brain "INSPIRE" the joy, the fun the likes.

[mikewolfzorn]

My ex replies. Tells me she sad a misses me and my kids. But then says we got to stop this. It is done!!!

[madelineperez]

I’ll text my ex and he reaches out but he doesn’t engage in messaging me first, should I pull away?

[moisesramirez]

What if I get a response saying leave me alone etc is that still good? Lol wow I sound like a damn fool

[alexvarela]

First and foremost thank you for the video I watch all your videos religiously. Many people do mistake begging and really have a hard time trying to maintain contact. I have done the very worst and let me tell you it’s bad. So far after stop caring or simply worried about a persons life and just myself it has helped me dramatically. It is both of us reaching out for each other and I think there is a path of going back. Being that said I don’t know it for sure since she is always saying if it’s good I’m moving on cuz she constantly wants to know how I feel about her and we still have intimate moments and touching. Please make a video about that. I digress but when u give yourself some space and not contact your ex it gives you time to evolve. Just stay strong trust me it’s better for the long run everyone.

[bigajay]

Was in a relationship with the most beautiful person I ever met. For 1 & a half year. A divine connection made. Showered her with affection she was so easy going & we made great memories which haunt me. But got too comfortable. Took my eye off the ball. Broke up in July just gone for a month & worked my ass off to get her back, went to therapy, she was proud of me, she relented and gave me a chance then one night at a wedding which was a month after we rekindled I let my hair down too much, mingled too long with friends I don't see often & left her too long, she didn't really know my friends, caused an argument then back at the B&B I lost my shit on mixed drink we were both drunk, she said I'm leaving you & it brought back how I felt in July & completely lost it like a mad man, scared her by bringing back her childhood issues of her father being verbally abusive. Big no no for her. Cops were called & escorted her back across the country home. That was it. Strings cut & I lost my soul from that day. I kick myself to death over it. 3 months later, seen her pictured with a guy she met off a dating site. Unsure if their actually going out together or just a one off date. The thought of her having sex with any other guy brings me to my knees as if my soul was screaming and burning to ash! But I've no hope. I begged and pleaded. Sent a tonne of Christmas presents personalized for her along with a few pages long letter to show how sorry & determined I am to put it all right. No effect. It was so rare for me to lose my head like that. Drink is the devil! Too much love for this girl. I fear it'll drive me over the edge & kill me. How can I win from here when she thinks I'm a red flag no go zone who can lose his shit like that. But I was drunk, wouldn't have happened sober, why couldn't she wait till morning to say it to me. I'll never forgive myself for what ive done. She's lost all love for me & couldn't care less about all I said to her in the pleading.

[nyfinest]

After being in no contact for 117 days I have decided to block my ex girlfriend and cut communication and she broke up with me. It was mostly me that was contacting her first and that wasn’t good because the conversations were mostly dry and boring low interest. And also I was holding onto hope that we would get back and i wasn’t healing. I rather have her blocked so I can focus on myself and heal and becoming a better person.I don’t have her blocked on everything and if she really wants to contact me she’ll find a way.

[bartvantiel]

And what if she just replies to you because she thinks you are friends? (we have mutual friends)

[KrisM]

My ex is very responsive but doesn't reach out first. He is extremely busy with work (2 jobs and opening a new restaurant) and cancelled plans to meet up (after 7 weeks of no contact) due to work, and said he has free time in a month. I got upset that he wasn't finding time for me and said if he wanted to make time he would. (for reference- he ended our relationship bc he was depressed and I pushed when he pulled back, he was still working through his divorce where he was devastated, BUT we dated 14 years ago and were best friends then and found our way back to each other and he called it our "love story"). He brought up proposing and moving in nonstop, but then stopped when he realized it was getting real. He was initiating contact when we first reconnected, but stopped after he cancelled plans. Do I back away or continue to initiate with quality messages?