How to Trust Someone in a Relationship and Get Over The Fear of Getting Hurt

Learning how to trust someone in a relationship and trying to get over the fear of getting hurt takes effort. Trying to get over trust issues after being hurt in relationships takes time. The more insecure your attachments to those you loved as a child, the more distrusting you will be as an adult. Trust is a blend of faith and fear of hopes and old wounds. When we trust someone, we are hoping this person proves to be trustworthy. When we are untrusting of people in our relationships, there may be something going on below the surface we need to be aware of.

Learning how to trust someone who hurt you depends on how able the other person is able to make you believe they understand just how deeply hurt you were by their actions. It is not easy to trust someone who lied to you, cheated on you, and who caused you deep pain. You may want to trust someone even though you might have trust issues. Wanting to trust someone begins with learning to have trust in yourself and in your ability to know you will absolutely set boundaries in a relationship if you have to.

Rebuilding faith after infidelity is sacred work. It requires tremendous patience, vulnerability and willingness to talk openly about the cheating/affair. Learning how to trust someone you love and who has cheated on you, is more difficult when you are already someone who has a difficult time trusting people in general. The more wounded you are as a result of your childhood, the more difficult it is to trust people in relationships today.

The good news is, you can learn to overcome your fear of being hurt and learn to be more honest and vulnerable with who you are and what you deserve!

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[tigerpriestess]

Lisa, 2 years ago I was in an abusive relationship with a sociopath. I was on anti-depressants and honestly on the verge of death, I didn't know how I would die but I could feel it close. I discovered your channel and I can honestly say that not only can I attribute me getting out of that relationship to your wonderful videos, but you also helped me kickstart a whole healing process that has transformed me and my life. I love you for everything you have done for me and other people who are in desperate need of help. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Dear One xoxoxoxox

[Man]

growing up my parents were the least reliable people i ever met. they never met my needs or invested in me. we were all social outcasts and i was bullied and cheated on multiple times. dumped by the one girl i loved. now i’m in a relationship with someone that truly unconditionally loves me and wants to marry and i really am struggling to trust her even though she’s shown me i can. i’m thankful for this video and your advice. much love

[yvonne]

Wow, so now I know why I shut down and push people away when they disappoint. Talk about self fulfilling, yes I do this too.

[gillymac]

Because I was taught growing up I couldn't trust myself (having my reality denied etc.)I'm relearning to listen to my gut though🙏🏻😊💓
Love & light🌻

[elizabethserocki]

This is crazy. I was literally writing in my journal last night that I still have issues trusting people and I dont let people in. And I open YouTube to this video. Spirit truly speak through you. Thank you for being the gem you are 🙏

[irmalair]

I never had a relationship with a boy/guy/man, and I currently I have no friends. I always thought I couldn't talk to people etc because I thought that was a lack of self-confidence. But now I suddenly realized that it's because I'm just worried/scared(?) of letting anyone in my space, of having to care for someone, of having someone knowing any tiny little thing about me, of getting hurt after investing in a relationship, and definitely scared of having an open-trusty-vulnerable and comfortable relationship because I'm just sure it can't possibly work out

[RayJay]

From a very early age I was made to care for myself. I was a latch-key child of an alcoholic father and a very codependent mother. My dad was also emotionally and physically abusive towards my mom. He didn't show love or affection to anyone. I never felt safe protected or loved, suffering from fear anxiety and horrible nightmares. I am learning now about how my childhood has shaped my personality. I am now working to heal myself and my relationships. So happy I found your channel thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[thethgift]

You are not only conscientious, smart and knowledgable.... you are also very beautiful ... its a pleasure to be taping into your wisdom, Lisa!

[timdetmers]

Lisa, you are the BEST. Your videos are really helping me in so many ways. I'm 68 years old and finally dealing with these issues. What's scary is the amount of anger I feel, but I think that is a good sign. At least I'm angry at the people who done me wrong and not myself! My parents are both dead now, so the past is the past and cannot be undone. I hope to be able to just find some peace, to let go of the anger, and maybe, just maybe, find a little happiness before I die.

[HooLeeYo]

Everything you've said is the very reason I am unable today to be in a relationship with anyone. I stay to myself, and keep everyone at arms length. I allow no one inside and don't know how to get out of it. I will die alone and I've embraced that.

[jeffnak]

She's got it down to a tee, especially the mother issues. My mother left me with my father at 5, probably the best thing that could have happened, and she told me, "she couldn't handle me." I did find love in high school but that feels like it has completely ruined any chance of trust I have in a relationship. The problem for me right now is that I really really want to build my own family, and I know that will take me finding a woman to put my trust in to be my partner and teammate in raising children and living life. I dont talk to many people and feel more comfortable depending on myself. I want to trust myself that I can do this and build a relationship with a competent woman.

[robinmurray]

I'm going thru this now on several levels. Very difficult.

[thegrassisgreener]

These black subtitles are so helpful thank you so much

[naturalS]

Too feel trust and know when it's ok too trust those not trusting themselves. Too feel comfortable enough to not be used or baited to be used...to know when someone is a friend and not a manipulative manager of your personal needs and space...when someone crosses this line, I abandon their ship very quickly...I cannot return to their madness of demands and compromise rescue to be canned later...just can't.

[nfcboys]

Thanks Lisa. I’m a combat vet former marine and as crazy as this sounds I felt at ease in extreme situations. After getting out of the marines I went on to build a very successful business, all while struggling terribly inside. Eventually, I started drinking/horrible choices and found myself broke, hopeless and just numb. Slowly, I’m getting the healing I’ve needed for so long. God has blessed me with an incredible wife and children and I’m thankful. I still struggle badly at times with bouts of incredible depression (in bed level). All this to say, your channel has been such a huge help to me. I appreciate your transparency and humility. Thanks again Lisa

[baljinderbhopal]

I passed on my unconscious mistrust of my mum to my daughters all a flood of fear over which I was powerless. Can women be healthy mothers while it's all patriarchal values? I was an un conscious feminist so busy being an activist uptight and angry. Only after 20 years of codependency recovery have I got it and can be vulnerable with my daughters. So please keep doing your work. It's fantastic.

[KatrinaAglipay]

On point. Everything you said is true.

[faithybyfaith]

This is so encouraging and gives me hope to learn to develop healthy attachments.

[kimberlyfredericks]

I cannot trust my own decisions. My mom always made decisions for me. I know she is a co-dependent and needed me and everyone else to need her. I always looked up to her as a god. So fearful if I didn’t think or do what she would think or do I would be shamed so, I lied a lot to her. She is 86 years old and I still catch myself avoiding telling her the truth about something. I feel so scared and outside of myself b/c I don’t know how I will manage my life when she passes. It’s like a love/ hate feeling for her and I feel soooo guilty about feeling that way b/c she has done sooo much for me. I’m just sooo stuck and don’t know what to do. On one hand I need her and the other hand I don’t want her. I don’t know me. I want to heal so badly and would love to take your course. You have opened my eyes to what is wrong with me but, now what do I do ????

[kwpk]

My goodness you are so accurate with your descriptions of this trauma. I am thankful you are using your experiences to uplift the rest of us who also endured these experiences 💙. May you be blessed forever and always.