What's it like to have ADHD? 🙄 Where do I start.....

I often get asked what it feels like to have ADHD. I can only speak from the perspective of an ADHD woman, but I'm also sure that my experience is different from others. In this video, I share my personal experience managing adhd and what I do to optimize for good days and midigate the bad days.

What do you tell people when they ask you what it feels like to have ADHD?

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00:00 Introduction
00:49 ADHD feels like on a good day
02:40 ADHD on a bad day
05:18 How I have more good ADHD days
08:11 How I manage bad days with ADHD

[theblackdogandme]

Despite knowing all the things I must do to stay on the good side of ADHD, I still spiral into meltdowns. Total overwhelm and anxiety. I can't seem to consistently take good care of myself. It is so much work to stay healthy. If I falter one day, my world falls apart.

[ellebelle]

Lol a friend of mine, who loves movies, asked me to explain ADHD to him. I said that on a good day, I feel like one of The Avengers - I'm getting things done, I've got great energy, I feel bright and optimistic. But on a bad day? I feel like the cow from Twister, lol.

[trudiroach]

Caren, this is priceless! I started my journey into my possible ADHD because I found myself sitting in my perfect office, in front of a 'perfect' plan, and staring at the wall....for days. AND it was impossible to explain WHY to myself or anyone else! Now I know, thank you 🙏🏽

[Alyssa_makesit]

My bad days make it feel like the universe is working against me! When really I’m so scrambled that I forget things or make careless mistakes because I disassociate so bad on those days.

[carmencolita]

I'm so happy I found your channel. Its so helpful. I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD earlier this year at the age of 30. This video is so relatable because everytime I've tried to explain to people what its like for me living with ADHD, they'll say "Oh, well I do that too", then I'll respond "No, its not the same.", but I can't put it in better words, so you really explained it perfectly.

[suzannehutnick]

This is EXACTLY my experience of ADHD. I didn’t realize there were so many things I could do to pull myself up on the bad days (which is ANY day without Vyvanse). Thanks for sharing.

[jenniferakes]

I learned a breathing technique I use when I am feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. I take a deep breath in for the count of 4 then hold for a count of 4 then release it for the count of 4 and then wait for a count of 4 before taking my next breath. It helps me refocus allow my energy to just concentrate on my breathing and I find when I am stressed out and concentrate on this it helps sooth me. It also works well at night if my mind is racing and not allowing me to sleep I will lay in bed and do this to slow down my heart rate, monitor my breathing and it will usually only take a few times doing this to shut down my mind and allow me to finally go to sleep. I have also been reading about how Hyper mobility has been linked to ADHD and is genetic. I had an aunt that had hyper mobility and thought well maybe I got that from her. But she like myself often had similar issues with staying focused. Your channel has been so incredibly helpful and for the first time in a long time no longer feel so incredibly alone with this. I have been picked on a good portion of my life because my way of processing information is a little different than most and after listening to your channel am realizing there isn't something wrong with me I have just been approaching life differently than most of my friends. Now I get so much more done and am very proud of myself for all I have accomplished from the tips you have shared in your videos. I just wanted to say thank you.

[Thewoolywonderknits]

So happy I found your channel :) you have some great ideas. Love the low capacity tasks. One thing I find helpful is to “allow” myself an hour on the down days to just throw myself a pitty party. After that I try to put it behind. Doesn’t always work but does validate the feeling and set it free.

[swedacashregisters]

its so good to have this youtube im a younger guy adhd you help me alot it dum ways only a adhd er gets that I suck at puncuation and anything that requires much, , , funny i seen this because today i had big plans had it all worked out in my head down to every freaking detail and one of them stupid triggers happen from a call that should of been pleasent well all that switched me to the bad days then now night time i get angry for falling in that again this adhd life is definatly full of adventure I have no clue if any person can read this rant of a obviously failure in english but im trying i really am

[stefunnykim]

These videos are super helpful. I’m a late diagnosis…actually I’ve never been to the doctor because for about a year I keep forgetting to call the doctor 😂

[yoyom]

Boy can I relate. Loved the practical tips. On my low energy days I listen to upbeat music and care for my beautiful plants.

[ohm]

Caren, I love your channel; I feel like it's the best out there! Thanks for making it real, and accessible. This good day/bad day concept is spot on- and it's exhausting!

[michelleb]

This is so relatable, validating, and helpful!

[helenalovelock]

I genuinely think I have adhd. My brain is wired I obsess terribly over things rediculous things that people think I’m a bit crazy. Most people just make decisions I can’t do it. All over the place chaotic. Ruminating over things over and over. Like choosing paint or health things anything obsess so badly over things in minute detail, cannot organize or focus on things. Thinking about so many different things at once. My brain hurts it’s exhausting. I can only do little short tasks get bored very quickly and want to do something else. Never read a book cover to cover 😬. Conversation flit all over the place people can’t keep up because I’m thinking about the next thing whilst they are still on the last. I have to practically force myself just to only empty the dishwasher before moving to something else. Cooking and cleaning is a train wreck half jobs Helena is my nick name. Sometimes I’m sociable but it’s exhausting and just want to not see anyone at all. Too many people around me talking stresses me out. I find it hard working in an office if there are other people there just want to work on my own. I like being alone a lot. Get agitated and irritated by people. Feel on edge highly strung a lot of the time. Talk a lot or just go quiet and need to leave the room to get away. Find it hard to just chill and relax. Neurotic and on edge worrying a lot or sometimes not caring as it’s all too much to do so don’t bother because it’s just too much and overwhelming. I turn mole hills into mountains at the moment I’m just planning to decorate my hallway but anyone would think I’m responsible for decorating Buckingham palace that’s what my boyfriend said. Most people would just walk into a store chose a colour take it home and paint not me is a huge rocket science project I’m worried about and can’t make a decision worried it will be wrong and I won’t like it. I waste so much time on things not important things and don’tactually do the important things that need doing. Christ knows how I keep my job. But I’ve made sure it’s a simple job otherwise I couldn’t cope with it. I over complicate things. Start making a cup of tea and completely forget as I’ve just thought oh I’ll hang the washing out whilst the kettle is boiling half hang the washing out and see something in the garden that needs moving and think oh I’ll do that before I forget then forget the washing is only half hung out let alone the cup of tea I said I’d make for my boyfriend. I find it very hard to keep the house tidy. I feel like a hamster on a running wheel. Then there is the burn out where I just need to stay in bed and do nothing then feel bad about doing nothing when there is so much to do. I don’t have a diagnosis just for depression and anxiety for which I’m prescribed meds. Been in and out of mental health for 20 years but I know I was suffering with something since around 13 always overly tearful and extreme emotions. Suicidal because I just wanted emotional pain to end and once hospitalized. But in and out of different therapy for extreme lows over something relationship breakups affect me extremely badly like it’s the end of the world. I don’t feel normal of like everyone else. Blagged it and faked it through school and university only passed because my boyfriend helped to do my essays and course work. When I had children things got really bad I found it really hard to cope with the responsibility of a job children and house. Watching many of my friends do things perfectly and calmly Amazed me I couldn’t understand how they did it all and enjoy life and be so positive I was always down with some issues or worries over something not being right or good enough guilty and felt useless hated myself wished I could just do things normally without having to stress or overthink everything. I’m tired now but just wanted to try explain how I feel if it resonates with someone because I’ve never met anyone like me before I feel different people say I’m unique and a bit strange never met anyone like me I’ve been told that a few times especially by partners that spend a lot of time with me and actually get to know who I am and what I do or how I think. Other people I pretend and kind of keep distance so they don’t get to know the real me.

[fbysljc]

I will watch this as often as I need to.

[shellyt]

Thank you for this. This entire video resonates with me. I’m a new subscriber and I find your content is authentic and spot on! 🤯

[bonnieblackmagic]

Wow... Soooo helpful! I also own/run two businesses & am constantly in a perpetual juggle struggle (work, home, relationships, priorities, sanity!) Definitely planning on implement some (if not all lol) of your strategies 😊 Oh & because you asked for comments/ feedback, I thought it may be helpful for your viewers with ADHD if you linked that video you referenced earlier on at the end as well. It took every bit of self control I had to finish this video first before watching that one & forgetting to come back to this one lol. You rock sister 🤘 looking forward to watching more of your content!

[tomfilipiak]

For me, if I had a date with friends, even on a low energy day, I would go. It would give me the motivation to get up and get going. Besides, I never have enough contact with friends, so I would go, go, go.

[badabing]

For me I don't know any different, as I have had it my entire life. Where it shows up is when I am doing things which are not interesting to me. Like a filter. Also, when I get a lot of information thrown at me and I struggle to compute all of it. Difficulty planning is a big one.

[Cecijustakid]

Thanks for sharing, this is really useful, may I ask for your advice whether or not to get diagnosed and get medication for ADHD?