Signs of Internal Transphobia!

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[Laeven]

thank you, dr z.... i realize that my own transphobia was a big reason why I've only come out at 55.

[alanaspurling]

I’ve directly confronted my internalized transphobia via a very good therapist who guided me into the deepest well of my own feelings. I harbored self hatred towards myself even years after I started transitioning. I was raised to view people like me as purely taboo. Thanks to this therapist I was able to draw this poison out. Am I fully cured, no. But I have been able to confront and overcome it. It’s a process.

[pinkflamingo_]

I don’t have transphobia for others but I know I do for myself. It usually comes in the form of “I’ll never be pretty enough “ “I’ll always look like a man” “it’s all in my head “ and so many narratives pushed by people who say these things about trans people. It sucks to deal with but things will look up soon I think. I’m out now which means I can have the freedom to explore my identity and figure out what’s right for me.

[Kira-zmvy]

My internalized BS was so bad that it took me decades to even begin to overcome it. I'm still working through it as I get further into transition. It just sucks that certain social media personalities are being seen as representing all trans people.

[Shalanaya]

The first time I transitioned as a woman born in a male body, I did not want to be around other trans folk despite my gender therapist recommending me to be around them as it could be beneficial psychologically, I couldn't, I wanted to be around cis women. I detransitioned a few years later largely due to fear and self hatred, it took me years to find love for myself as a trans person while not going through transition, and at first I started gradually finding so much love for other trans people that I just wanted to be around them so much, I had tears in my eyes when I saw them or met up with some of them, I felt almost like I was home around my family that I have abandoned a long time ago, that is when I found courage to re-transition 13 years later, and without dealing with any internalized transphobia anymore, perhaps I needed to take this long journey to reach this point, my re-transition was empowered by the smile on my face instead of tears, fear or hatred. I found myself.

[lovisakevatdottir]

Aaahhhh I hate it >_<. It’s still an everyday battle. Internalized transphobia. I swear that’s one of the keys blocking myself and many people to first being honest with ourselves. More than just saying it but owning it. You can’t come out to others if it’s not to yourself first.

[DummieDumbNoa]

I have such a fucked up internalized transphobia that I decided to force myself to spend the rest of my life closeted

[emilystarret]

i love all trans people and ill support them no matter what i don't spread hate in my own community I spread only love

[TwinFalls]

On Point ! Thank you for clarifying this. So wise.

[rinkuraku]

This kind of thing stopped me from transitioning when I was still young. I knew I was a girl since as long as I can remember. But that sort of thinking led me to spend key years desperately trying to deny who I am so I could have a "normal" life. Even when I accepted I am trans, it still led me to deny it to everyone around me. It only resulted in self hatred, depression, and shame for something I shouldn't be ashamed of. It made my journey to be the person I really am so much harder than it needs to be. Despite recognizing it in myself, it's still a struggle to overcome it and stop that kind of thinking from holding me back in my goals and from judging others.

[biancawilloughby]

I often do the opposite and often think I wish I could look light that especially if they are very young. Trans envy where I guess I direct transphobia towards myself and often comes with deep dysphoria.

[Franz]

The way i started to overcome this was to hangout with more trans people and stop avoiding and cringing out on the inside. It’s awkward at first but it gets better. Us trans people need to support one another 🙂💛

[robertwarren]

I struggle with this all the time😢 I know it’s wrong thought process and I’m learning to accept myself by accepting others as they are. I’m 42 years old now! and have this behavior deeply rooted with in, it’s just going to take time and effort to permanently remove. 😊

[FrozEnbyWolf]

I'm nonbinary and a gender abolitionist, so my transition goals are to be gender ambiguous. I don't fit neatly into predesignated categories, so I don't want people to put me into those categories. I want them to look at me and go, "WTF?"

[isabellerror]

Yeah no there’s basically a miniature TERF in my head who never shuts up, that’s the extent of my internalized transphobia

[wandringgenderhuman]

Wow this resonates! This was something I suffered from early on in my own gender journey. I would attack myself because of it, and even being around other trans folks in my early days made me deeply uncomfortable. I had to challenge this shit, in the end though my own internalized transphobia came from the fact that I hated myself at the time for being "me". This is my own personal experience, and years later I've grown and dealt with my own shit and hopefully better off for it.

[Jane-ozpp]

Well, I disagree with one point.
No other trans person does, can or will define me as a trans person. That's not internalised transphobia, that's me respecting our individuality because there isn't one singular way to be trans.

[philiphanan]

I admit, it’s very difficult for me to see some people as Trans until maybe a year into their Transition as I will still see them as their birth sex until they look different enough that they look like the opposite sex they were born as. I don’t treat them badly and use their preferred pronouns, but find it hard to look at them as a different sex until their body changes enough on HRT. I certainly don’t see myself as a Transwoman a week on pills. Maybe in six months to a year.

[Stick_and_stone]

My trans friend says there's hugbombing within trans communities and that people say everyone passes, even though they claim some of those people who are told they pass don't pass at all, according to my friend. Is that internalised transphobia or realism?

[Gamergirlplaysroblox]

My friend is transphobic and I’m really scared because my aunt is trans and many people I know are and I’m scared she won’t accept me for being Pansexual