The Narcissists' Code 457- What makes a Narcissist angry? What things could set a toxic person off?

On today's episode I talk about some of the things that might make a narcissist or toxic person angry. How at the core of most narcissists anger is jealous and/or envy

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[krich]

Getting blindsided, when they underestimate their victim.

[KikoSolaris]

"they condition you to be scared of the potential of anger" ... 💯 🎯 🙏🏻Thanks for this insight!

[Fleefromsin]

I rebuke all forms of mental oppression and afflictions. I declare soundness of the mind in Jesus name!

[mightymouse]

They have fake empathy...anytime something bad happens to words have empathy but his eyes sparkle and show more delight the compassion....

[robinlateef]

The jealousy is REAL with toxic types...stay awake!

[livinmylife]

This makes sense now. My ex had a major anger problem. Everything made him mad. So much so it physically shows on his face. He has a permanent anger face. I was in the process of moving and he lived with me after being released from jail…yeah jail 😟. I told him I wasn’t paying the internet bill anymore. He would play the game for 8 hours at a time. He flipped out as a result. Tore the house up. I waited outside until he was finished. I still didn’t pay the bill once his tantrum was over😂 I eventually kicked him out! He is a felon and can’t really live a free life, at least not mentally. It’s been a year and 2 months no contact. Thankful for these videos because they helped me get through that situation. P.S. I’ve seen recent pictures by default of him…the ugliest guy I’ve ever dealt with😂

[wendynashbonaventure]

My investment banker ex narc was angry at me for not finding clients for him to build his portfolio. I was a teacher working full-time and raising our kids. Ridiculous to even suggest I could do this. I get it now - he was angry for not doing well at his job and jealous that my life looked easy. It wasn't easy but I was at peace with what it was. Lots of things set him off and one day I just realized that it was within my own power not to respond and give his outbursts any importance. Around this time, he ingested foot fungus oil, thinking it was oil of oregano and laid into me, blaming me. I kind of woke up then and wasn't even afraid of the stupid outburst. I think I was just tired of it all. That's when he left me for his new supply. Big discard - and again I let the divorce just unfold, knowing it would be difficult and long. I didn't beg him to stay, didn't react to anything - and it wasn't what he expected. I didn't do it for revenge, I did it for my own well-being but my actions turned out to be the best revenge.

[kellithomas]

Spot on! I remember my ex called me after I made a fb post about my Dog supply business I started and I was saying how I’m so glad I made it, I’m glad I didn’t give up, I’m glad I’m able to bless my friends and family, etc. it was a genuine post of me talking about my business and the plans I have for it and helping those along the way when I do make it. This fool called me and I could tell he was very angry. He said “Why you post that? I feel like you are looking for attention. I hate when people make posts like that. You can’t be doing that because it’s a lot of people out here watching and preying on your downfall” somewhat true, but he was so angry and annoyed over that little post. He also said one time “Not everybody wants to start a business. Some people make enough money they don’t have to do that” Lol! He makes more than I do and I feel like it was some shade. I think back on all the times when I was a bit younger and more in shape, of how when we were out and guys would look at me and he would always say “Why everybody keep looking at you like I’m not here and like you’re too good to be with me” 🤣 Omg I have so many stories. It finally makes sense! Whew! I knew I wasn’t crazy but he did a hell of a job making me feel like I was. Damn I miss the younger me in my 20’s. I was so full of life and genuinely happy. Some days it’s hard to be that way with so much disappointment I’ve experienced over the past 11 years. It’s made me stronger for sure, but definitely weighed me down in some areas. Still trying to get back to the old me. Love and light to everyone who experienced any form of trauma. Healing is not easy, but it’s worth it. Self love is my focus now. 💕

[Amazingme]

"They condition you to fear their anger" omg. That's true. And that's when you walk on eggshells.

[callmeishmaelk]

So right and I totally believe as you say you are a recovered narcissist. All of this is true and cudos to you for getting therapy. You're giving valuable information.

[PhantomWanderer]

My husband would silently rage about things, I can tell he did things to test me. He would play fight me, I told him to stop because I will be triggered and I will defend myself. I always ended up subduing him and he didn’t like that. We would have “debates” and he said he didn’t like the fact that I didn’t just fold. He hates being wrong. He’s jealous of the fact I speak a second language, have a positive relationship with my mom. He would get upset when I left him with all the kids to go to the store or go to work. He was envious of the fact that I am self employed and found a way to make money in my craft.

In our last argument he said that I don’t listen, because I didn’t just blindly follow his impulsive leads. I don’t want to move to a new state with literally no money or resources and 4 kids. He didn’t like that I was extra cautious about stuff like moving and finances but a pushed him without caution to pursue music(even though I told him to be careful who he works with).

He essentially hated the fact that I would fight back against any form of gaslighting or manipulation after a while. I was actually working on myself and I guess that was threatening to him?

[brandyannschroeder]

My narcissistic family conditioned me to be afraid of them as a child growing up.

[LisLara]

It got me soo frustrated when I saw him mad out of nothing. At the beginning I tried to appease him, but my behavior empowered him, and he stonewalled me till I started to emotionally distancing and left him alone living his tantrums

[jenniferc]

Many times they are angry if they dont feel respected, if they feel ashamed, if they dont feel worthy, if they feel less than, if they feel inept, if they dont feel intelligent, if they are not appeased, the list goes on and on and one and ...if they dont know why they are angry but you are the closest thing

[callmeishmaelk]

You're doing good, and thats something you can be actually proud about.

[mizzd.]

Thank you for this informative content! I have a friendship with a narcissistic person. My friend recently nearly lost his life 3-weeks ago! You informed me of what I’ve been dealing with for over 7-years when I found your platform three months ago explaining narcissism! At that point 3-months ago I finally walked away! However, my friend fell ill/died but was revived! The compassion in my heart made me go to his aid but just assisting with business that only I could finish. When I walked away I left everything/everyone as is… disappeared no contact! Yet his illness bought me back but only temporarily! Today he called me cause I haven’t called since taking care of business! He thinks I’m going to stay & is up to his same mental play but he doesn’t know I’m not having it! I pray his full recovery, he has adequate care but still NOT satisfied, cause I’m not there anymore as I used to be. He said over the last 3-months that I showed him I don’t need him! I was thinking WOW! You were so ill but you actually realized this? Long story short, even in sickness this person is still trying to use manipulative methods of control to keep me around! UNBELIEVABLE!!! Again, this is strictly a friendship NO ROMANTIC INVOLVEMENT HAS EVER BEEN BETWEEN US!!! However, other’s would think so, because I’ve been (stupid) absolutely to nice, simply because I’m a real friend! Something u don’t find very easily! The friendship relationship has been unbalanced for over 7-years! I give, he takes only giving just enough to keep me around as a friend, with those manipulative words! Brother, although it’s been extremely frustrating YOUR platform of HONESTY has enlightened me tremendously! Thank you!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! 🙏🏾

[sds]

What makes a narcissist angry? Everything. Literally everything.

[xeenha]

I feel like they never know why they're mad at you because it comes from such a deep dark place

[aiylishiablossom]

Exposing them, seeing through them, and calling them out for their narcissistic behaviour?

[DONTWANTCHANNE]

How well do you you think Elton John's I'm Still Standing fits NPD:
You could never know what it's like

Your blood like winter freezes just like ice
And there's a cold lonely light that shines from you
You'll wind up like the wreck you hide behind that mask you use

Once I never could've hoped to win
You're starting down the road leaving me again
The threats you made were meant to cut me down
And if our love was just a circus you'd be a clown by now

You know I'm still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid
I'm still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind