Steps You Need to Protect Your ENERGY and Create a Positive Life | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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In this episode, you’ll learn how to deal with other people’s #toxic moods and bad behavior.

Plus you’ll get strategies to help you dial up your own #positive #energy.

You will always have negative people and situations in your life, but you don’t have to let them drain your life force.

This episode is packed with six super easy science-backed strategies that will help you create an impenetrable force field against bad energy while you send your good vibes back out.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you'll learn:
00:00 Intro
02:41 Jumping right in with Veronica’s question about emails that ruin her day.
04:10 You probably have your own stories of entitlement like this one.
07:05 This technique I use when somebody’s mood is getting all over me.
10:12 The “ snow globe” works best when you’re getting attitude.
13:37 I know this about people when they explode into a tantrum.
16:28 Science explains why our bodies stress when we’re around bad moods.
18:32 Work in a toxic environment? You have these two choices.
23:54 Dealing with a curmudgeon? I got you. Use the law of reciprocity.
25:22 Here’s how I melted the ice when I became a legal analyst with CNN.
32:33 Gossip is bad for your brain and body. Here’s why.
33:30 Here’s the #1 strategy to stop your gossip today.
35:40 Once you see triangulation, you’ll look at your relationships differently.
38:42 This one simple strategy can brighten someone’s day right now.

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[melrobbins]

Did you enjoy this episode? I know I did! If so, please drop a like and comment below what you are going to do to bring more energy and positivity into your life!

[sues]

I, as a long time waitress can back you up 100% on treating difficult people with the most kindness that you can. What we do when we are kind no matter how hurtful they can be is fill a void in their lives. Most of the time, when people are hurtful it's because they don't feel important to anyone. Don't take a difficult person's attitude personally. It's not about you. It's about what's missing in them.

[JenJ]

This woman has the most amazing life. Imagine helping so many people without even meeting them. Thank you.

[tiffanykelley]

Small minds discuss people,
Average minds discuss events,
Great minds discuss ideas.
- Eleanor Roosevelt

One of my favorite quotes since high school!

[Maxhindle]

Protecting your energy is vital . I use meditations and boundary setting to ensure I lead a happy and fulfilled life. Spending time in nature helps too

[denises]

Love this…”Don’t talk (gossip) about people that aren’t present.”. Perfect. ❤️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Magnificent_Mustang]

Thank you, Mel. I am an extremely empathetic and reactive person and I’m aware I need to protect myself from other people’s trauma/drama/negativity because it decimates me if I don’t protect myself. I’m coming off of 2 1/2 weeks of yet again curling up in a ball to hide from life because I was depleted by other people.The snow globe image is genius and I will absolutely be utilizing it. I am aware of the power of the breath routine and I need to implement it consistently. My health was dramatically affected yet again in the past two weeks and I need to take care of myself. Thank you thank you and have a fantastic Monday!

[truthwillsetyoufree]

Be willing to offend others, to keep your boundaries and good energy 🙏

[rosereporter]

This episode could not have come at a better time for me. I am very similar to Claudia from the "difficult conversations" episode. Because of my childhood family culture, I have spent my life avoiding confrontations at all costs. But I realized that I was not protecting my peace, nor was I treating myself with any respect and love. But then I heard these two episodes, which helped me tremendously. Fast forward to this morning. I teach a fitness class for seniors. I love it, and I'm good at it. I can confidently say this, because I see the joy on my participants' faces and regularly hear how much they enjoy my class. But this morning I got an earful from one cranky old lady who complained about the dumbest things. Now granted, I welcome criticism. But this was petty. Three petty things. But more than that, she came at me in a very rude and disrespectful manner. The old me would have allowed this to suck the life out of me and question myself. But today I simply saw a spoiled child having a tantrum in a snow globe. Her toxicity stayed right in her little globe. I politely addressed her concerns, but then told her that we cannot accommodate everyone's preferences, so if she is not happy in my class, she is more than welcome to find another class that suits her needs. She huffed away, and I stood tall, with my peace and confidence in tact. I have never, ever stood up for myself like this in my entire life. It felt amazing. Thank you, Mel.

[elizabethlasseigne]

LOVE THIS! The snow globe and the policy of not talking about people unless they are in the room is going to change my life. THANK YOU, MEL!

[emmy]

I just started watching your videos and podcasts and all I can say is, I am so grateful for you and the positive energy along with great wit, you share with your followers. I am 80 years old and have spent the majority of my life working on myself through seminars, therapy, retreats and now, in the comfort of my home, I get to see a wonderful soul called “Mel.” Thank you for the love and light to bring to all. ❤️

[Bestlast]

I am struggling at work with some grownup bullies to the extent that I spend my days off paralyzed with depression & just stay in bed pretty much, , finding you on utube today couldn’t have come at a better time, , you always seem to have the answers! Love you !Thankyou!

[BKDAYZ]

I’ve been a front desk agent in New York City and the nightmarish entitled things that people slammed workers like myself with were incredible. I know exactly who this woman is. I appreciate this video!

[denises]

Growing up with abusive parents has made me hyper aware of others moods, it’s hard not to try to appease the rude person to prevent further escalation. I get the snow globe thing, but it’s hard to ignore the tantrum.

[ginahernandez]

You sound like my dear mother ❤ She raised us to always share "joy and sunshine" into everyone's lives. So very true.

[sues]

As someone who has always served in one shape, form or another...my best tip for shakin' it off is to remind myself that I have to deal with this person for x amount of time. I go home to a happy home...they go home to each miserable other. I don't feel bad about me. I pity those kind of people.

[WorldWideWebObserver]

Hello Mel! Thanks for addressing the serious and terrible issue of gossip. So many people’s lives revolve around this pettiness. Gossiping adults act like grade school bullys who refuse to grow up. They’re teaching their children that this is acceptable behavior, and it’s never ending. Let’s all do better!

[cc]

I am energy, I give it, I receive it. I'v just received some great energy from you Mel. Love You Mel, thank you.❤ Have a beautiful day.

[AliceWhitty-hhiw]

You are amazing, Mel!!! This podcast found its way to me today because of the stresses at work and how I have been sick the last few days. It's from absorbing all the negatively happening at work, and I work on the front desk and love my job!!!! Our manager is a beautiful soul but too much is falling through the cracks. This podcast has actually bought me around and I will be skipping on the gossip and mean things being said in my prescence!!! Thank you for being my light today!!!!🎉✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️❤️❤️❤️

[YogiLaree]

I remember the moment I decided to stop gossiping and IMMEDIATELY I felt so much lighter. Just from that decision. And yes 100% if they do it with you they’ll do it to you