Building A Self-Sufficient Life with @WarriorPoetSociety

Sponsored By: Good Ranchers

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YouTube: @WarriorPoetSociety

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Chapters:
00:00 - Intro
02:00 - Lovell’s relationship history
09:55 - The Lovell’s mission trip experience
15:00 - The current state of marriage in our society
20:39 - Good ranchers $20 off + free chicken
21:27 - The false narrative being promoted
29:14 - How to find a good community outside the home
36:20 - How the Lovell’s got into homesteading
39:59 - The importance of community with a shared worldview
45:48 - Take that time back with your kids through homeschooling
49:24 - Content pushing back the cultural narrative
55:02 - Need for real Men in the church
1:00:52 - What are women's roles and responsibilities
1:04:55 - Roles that need to be filled during dark times
1:12:45 - Making self-sacrifices for your family
1:26:02 - Wrap up

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Find Nick:

[zin]

I've been binge-watching all the atheist intellectuals on youtube for weeks and it's like discovering an oasis in a desert listening to the four of you. I didn't realise I was so desperately thirsty for goodness, truth, kindness, sanity and Christ-like values. Thank you.

[fukguigel]

These are the men I want leading our country. These are the men I want leading our society. These are the men.

[overwatchdesigns]

The fact that Nick and John know each other gives me hope for America.

[gunsgalore]

As a teenage homeschooler, I can confirm what they said about homeschooled teens. We are very low-maintenance. Here are the basic differences between us and public school teenagers.

Pros
-We don't have much of a "rebellion" factor. While we might disagree with our parents on some stuff, it's usually not very much, and we can recognize that even if there is a real problem, we are indebted to our parents, and thus we do not make the rash judgements against them many public-school teenagers do.

-We don't get worked up over crowds, social life, etc. We mostly have casual friends we meet in organizations like 4-H, church groups, co-ops, etc.
-We don't care a whole lot about what other people think of us, especially not our peers. If we seek approval from anyone, it is from someone we are indebted to, such as our parents.
-We don't have much of an ego, because egos are jokes.
-We get along fine with almost anyone.
-We are capable of sitting still and enjoying honest conversation on deep and serious subjects for hours at a time - our attention spans are about 10X longer than average.

-We are capable of striking up conversations with anyone, because we have no ingroup. At almost any social function, we are flying solo, and so we're just having fun getting to know different people, regardless of that person's age, social status, race, or sex.

Cons
-Most of us don't have really close friends like public schoolers do, who make their friends through constant, daily interaction with the same group for a period of several years. That being said, with the loss of serious school friends, family bonds become tighter. For instance, I have a brother who's a little more than a year younger than me, and we are absolute best friends - we do almost everything together and we could probably make it through a zombie apocalypse together if we had to.

-Social cues, trends, slang, and other things that seem obvious to public-schooled kids are often lost on us. It can be difficult for us to understand what our public-schooled peers are getting at unless they dumb what they're saying down, because we almost speak two different languages. If you want to understand an extreme caricature of what I'm talking about, watch Crocodile Dundee. There are times when the Outback guy doesn't understand what's going on around him - he thinks he's just having a friendly conversation with a woman when in actuality the woman is a prostitute trying to get him to bang her. Homeschooled teens are like that. We might miss cues that are obvious to others. A more moderate example would be a homeschooled kid having to ask his public-schooled friends what slang terms like "rizz, " "that's fire, " etc. mean.

Just trying to get the word about homeschooled kids out there so parents know what they're actually getting into.

[gabe]

As a 21 year old man I’m very appreciative to have role models like you gentlemen

[azurephoenix]

Its okay to be young, married and poor. It teaches you to go through hard things as a team. I've done laundry in the Bathtub, and kicked up a couple of packs of ramen into a family meal for 6. It does build character, and you get to do that together. That's a blessing to us.

[CriticalThinkr]

As a guy who got married later on in life (late 30's) to a beautiful woman who had 2 young kids that we added 3 more onto, the BEST Thing about the "struggle periods" is that it can build TRUST between us...

That Trust between Husband and Wife is where God sew us together making the two into ONE. Then when "new" problems arise, (and they will!) You KNOW your God, Your partner AND what they are made of... So that you are fighting against the World, NOT Amongst ourselves!

[bonechillingtales]

I stand in awe at the absolute love and happiness this couple exudes! I am not a Christian, however after watching these couples, I should be! The zeal for life, wisdom and happiness is something to be admired, especially nowadays. I just had to comment on this video, thanks for sharing this!

[imcat-holic]

1:18:51 "THE SLAVE MASTER FIRST SHOWS UP AS CONVENIENCE, ONLY LATER IT'S COERCION."
VERY TRUE.

[ROBLANG]

Thank God for people like this. These are quality men and quality women. They are voices that we all need to hear. We homeschooled all four of my children because we determined it was the best option for a real, true education. A few of the side benefits we experienced was more direct contact with our children all the time. Our kids, as we got older, did not think we were weird or odd. We all had all of this real access to each other and just spend time and invest in each other. We also knew what our kids were exposed to, and we controlled it. My kids watched lost of good, old stuff on DVD (Little House on the Prairie, Hogan Heroes, I Love Lucy etc.) We as the parents have the responsibility to care for and protect our children. What they really want is us - Mom & Dad. Stuff doesn't matter.

[MattDonkin]

Train, prepare, stockpile, buy land if you can, or make friends with like minded people that have land, learn how to farm, hunt, shoot and most of all learn to live without luxuries and in hardship. HOMESCHOOL. Don't let your children be lead into the paths of evil by those that mean to harm them.

[BethanyNZ]

LOVED this!! I’m a Christian mum to 2 young boys and a little girl over in New Zealand. I swore I’d never homeschool. You guys changed my mind 😂 I’m beginning this year. You’ve given me awesome tools to help raise mighty, godly warrior boys and a feminine, brave girl- that are individual, critical thinkers. That stand on truth, goodness and beauty as their foundation. With Christ at the centre. I am incredibly grateful for both of you wonderful couples!!

[climberdad]

Just the way that Becca looks at John, makes it worth watching the entire video. Very wonderful to see.
The message is great also

[brentmiedema]

I did public school in Illinois. Behavior Disorder class, meds forced into me, brainwashed parents that went along.... later addicted to cocaine and booze and got a DUI and lost my liscense. Now walk everywhere I go.... Tina nailed it. There's a war against boys in public school and im a casualty

[nickmatthews]

Nick Freitas for President...from a South African. 😊

[jessicabetkey]

Great marriages have God as the foundation. The thing that makes me love my love even more is the fact that he is the head of our family & makes it a point to sit down on Sunday & we all read from the Bible & talk about God. That is the biggest blessing for our kid's in my eyes. That & providing a steady marriage showing no matter what we show up for each other & our kid's. So blessed & love seeing other blessed marriages.

[aaronsoutherland]

To watch John and Becca look at each other while talking you can see their love and adoration towards each other, it reminds me of talking with my wife about our 24+ years. Praying for your families keep it up?

[woodandwheelz]

Even when my kids went to public schools, the government didn't own them. I took every opportunity to teach them at home about what the school was not teaching. Or, correcting what the school taught. I know that I have done a lot of un-teaching. Now my kids see what the system looks like. Now, as for me, being a product of the 70's and 80's (graduated in 86) I fee that I was blessed to have good teachers that actually taught the truth.
As for Community, my wife works at a Christian school that is largely Slavic (Ukrainian, Russian), and these people are all about community. They know what the "American Freedom" is supposed to be about. People who understand what America is supposed to be. It's awesome.
Also, being a 100% disabled Veteran, I often think about what will happen when that stops. When they try to take control that way. Self-Sufficiency is a goal and has been for a while.

[DanB-eibr]

I loved the beginning where you guys were talking about meeting your forever afters. I too met my wife in in church. In my case, I was visiting a friend's church and saw this girl sitting in the back of the church and I was trying to get my buddy to introduce me. Blonde hair, blue eyes, and tanned from a cruise she just got back from and I was toast. Afraid she would leave before he got around to introducing us, I took a chance and walked back to her and said "Hey there beautiful, my name is Dan. Wanna get married??" She looked at me and said, "Sure. Why not!". Next year we celebrate 43 years together. Like you all, God and ministry have been at the core of everything we do. We too have served in missions and now semi-retired we are working on our self-sufficient homestead.

[lexpox]

I had a 14 month engagement and I would definitely not recommend, as a guy who was abstaining until marriage, after I made the decision to marry her (and she said yes) it was like why are we having this close relationship without that certain part?!?! But I will say that gave us time to work through a premarital book and really helped us have conversations about some things that would never have come up without prompting. Especially expectations of household responsibilities, sex, and communication. Been married for 12 years this year and going strong with 3.9 kids (due any day with #4).