5 Things To Know When You're Triggered - Childhood Trauma

In this video we cover: triggers, cbt, dbt, tools, therapy tools, conflict, vagas nerve, self-regulation, toxic, toxic family systems, boundaries, truth, childhood trauma, inner child, inner child work, c-ptsd, ptsd, toxic parents, narcissistic abuse, healing, abusive parents, emotional abuse, childhood ptsd, repressed memories, hypervigilance, narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive parents, child abuse, narcissistic father, childhood emotional neglect, abuse, narcissistic mother, alcoholism, scapegoat, genogram, siblings, dissociation, trauma

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
5:40 Connect With Me
6:29 About Being Triggered
13:21 #1: Think of how it's typically going to go
14:51 #2: You don't have to respond or react if you're wired for that
17:06 #3: You can take action and respond if you're wired not to
18:41 #4: Think of what the trigger takes you back to?
20:47 #5: Think of how you're safer now in the present
23:43 Final Thoughts
24:38 Outro

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[cloud]

"Its nice to get to a place where you're even sick of your own trauma narrative...". A well-put moment of clarity.

[initialcreation]

How are your videos always so on point? 🤯 You're the most helpful person on the entire internet. Are you an angel, caring so much for people? I've been marathoning your work here, because it feels like the most safe place I can get to mentally. I get to learn about myself from a therapist in America, who doesn't know me 😄 Aside from my own therapist, you help so much with understanding things for what they are. Not only do you know things, you've also been through things. And honestly, you're are really tough guy Patrick. Tough yet gentle hearted. That's an outstanding value in this world. People should strive to be like you, please continue your work 🙏

[margaretlovecchio]

90% of our trauma responses are from feeling that we’re not being seen 👍 trauma is from being disconnected, healing comes from being positively connected to ourselves & healthy others ❤️ & that’s at less than 4 minutes in! So much knowledge & wisdom thank you for sharing & caring about us by sharing all your videos

[artemis]

I'll tell you guys about this trigger I have. When I was young, my dad used to work during the day and come home during the evening, riding his bike. The moment he walked through the door, my mother would pounce on him and start complaining about literally everything. She complained about me, about her chores, about money, just everything. And the two would fight till nighttime. I am 28 now, and the sound of bikes during evenings still gives me intense anxiety... Man, some people, like my parents, should not have kids.

[ArcanumMysterySchool]

I am so grateful for the internet and online therapists. Finally, I am starting to heal after watching and listening to you, Anna, and a few others. $134/hr for a therapist was allowing me to only have one session a month. I really wasn't getting far that way. Thank you for all that you do. I hope you know how many lives you are changing. 💜🙏💜

[christybecnel]

For those who stay upset for days after a trigger… I learned through DNA health testing that I have a non-functional COMT gene, meaning, when I get a rush of adrenaline, my body cannot process and get rid of it, so that feeling lingers for DAYS.
Thank you for your insightful videos. I have learned that KNOWING is a lot of the battle.
When I feel that RUSH, I now know I need to talk myself down quickly so I’m not stuck in that mode.
You are always SO on point!
You get it.
Thank you ❤️

[spookygiggles]

Oh my gosh when you were talking about how your mom would gloomily unload everything to you when you were younger instantly made me realize that my mom used to do the same exact thing. I never realized how much it affected me. I always find myself learning something new about myself when I watch your videos.

[onedarkgypsy]

"Drowning in the trigger" seems to be what usually happens to me. As always, thank you for sharing your info and helping us heal.

[bumblebeetuna]

Been to therapy so many times, taken meds and the only thing that has helped me heal has been your videos... no therapy, no meds... just your videos... thank you

[mariahchantel]

Thank you for sharing this. When you said "lawyer mode" I literally laughed because I do this a lot.

[cathywestholt]

I have been a night owl since birth. Fortunately for my mom, she was, too. Even though my sleep cycle was in sync with hers, she was the traumatizing factor in my childhood....and really throughout her whole life.

My ex was always upset with me for being a night owl.

It took me to get into my 60's before it happened, but I finally got a second shift job! 😊👍 I also now work with the most loving, supportive, wonderful people. At 67 I have no desire to retire.

[alisondunning]

Great timing. I got triggered late on Friday by demands from someone senior at work. It ruined my weekend. But, for just about the first time ever, I responded, rather than shut down - I told them their request had been overly heavy-handed. This was a step forward for me.

[pelletier]

So important to learn to regulate when a trigger for action is dominating any semblance of self control because overreacting can bring deeper shame later. It can be really overpowering.

[KBiernacka]

"aware of the trigger, not drowning in it" - clearly and concisely put :)

[christinag.]

A massive trigger lead me to this channel. When it happened it was like a shot was fired into the air and my brain took off running. It did not slow down for three days! The person that caused the trigger was a parent. As you described, I went into self- righteous mode but something seemed to break free as I realized blaming the parent was getting me nowhere and I would need to be “fixed “ from the inside out.
Your work has given me so much clarity on the origins and mechanisms of these emotions and make the truth of my role undeniable. In some ways it’s very liberating! You have a gift for making this complex topic less complex and more understandable.🙏

[alexiayearty]

I like to think of triggers as mental allergies: over-the-top reactions to otherwise mundane events in a misguided attempt to defend the system.

[j.m]

Thank you for your honesty. I am not a morning person especially if I am going to work early in the morning . But when I am off I don't have any anxieties I am more relaxed. When I was a child we were woken up early to do chores before school and as a grown up I hate being told what to do because all my childhood was being told what to do and we were not allowed to talk back.So now I speak up.

[yveqeshy]

I really appreciate you describing the limbic system as the part where our triggered inner child resides and the prefrontal lobe as where our loving adult resides. This paints a clear picture and gives one a road map on where they are and want to be when they're triggered. Something I have gathered from you is that parenting is essentially knowing how to guide a child on how to make sense of a situation, comfort them, make them understand what is within their control and what isn't and see them through the process of how to act/react appropriately to situations progressively and for those of us with cptsd this didn't happen for us so we unfortunately have to go through the process either with a therapist or a safe friend or partner or by ourselves as we heal from our trauma and hopefully get to a place where we act appropriately or reduce the time we spend activated by triggers

[Ichneumonxx]

When I get triggered it helps me to go into dialogue mode with myself by asking questions: What am I feeling? Why am I feeling this? What does this remind me of? How is it different? What is the worst thing that can happen? etc. It makes me, more aware of what is happening, and makes it easier to wind down and to f.eg. get away from the triggering element. The trick is to notice I am being triggered, because that is not so easy.

[storydates]

When I saw your video about the girl being triggered by the email from her boss, my mind was blown. I used to think that "triggers" were only big things, like having to communicate with an abuser or things like that, which left me completely in the dark when it came to my daily reactions, and I felt like I was just a deeply dysfunctional person.

And yet, ironically, I also thought I would be great at marriage and being a mom, because I was so sure that I didn't want the kind of family life that I saw and had growing up.

So I majored in Family Studies, and truly I loved it. My classes were like coming up for fresh air. But then, after graduating and doing a bunch of yoga classes, I really thought I was *ready* for marriage and being a and I was not. I just had no idea how much trauma was stuck in my brain, and also my health. It was honestly a little devastating when I became a mom and realized that without extra help (childcare etc), I would not be a good mom (thankfully we can afford extra help; I know not everyone can). Without help, I quickly shut down and go into survival mode, and then I'm not very functional.

Anyway, I think I'll always need to bring in resources and help as a mom, but it's been a while since I felt really hopeful about having a more functional baseline. Thank you for giving me that.