10 Ways To Deal With An Unhappy Marriage

Being in an unhappy marriage can be very painful, as well as stressful, as opposed to being in a happy marriage where a spouse can be a best friend, lover and partner. Dr. Dawn Michael talks about ten things that you can do if you find yourself in an unhappy marriage.

[AHR]

Great video, very positive in everyway.

[lorenzososa]

But what if your spouse is cold, intimate, no effections, or won’t even say there real feelings?

[billsmith]

Do you think that many times selfishness is an issue? Thanks. Love your work.

[brightpage]

Are those all degrees framed on your walls or awards?

Did you earn those before or after you divorced?

Just wondering if that time frame had more of a positive long term effect on your personal life.

Seems like you are happy now in your marriage. So, that’s an answer in itself.

I know a lady with some kids who stays because the statistics of raising kids in divorced households are so bleak. And her marraige isn’t that bad. She doesn’t want to rob any of their futures through the legal system of divorce. Not worth it.

But after communication breakdowns and heavy suspiscion if not actual cheating husband…

She has literally zero faith that it will get better even though they both seem on the surface to want to try to change things and have made dramatic changes like moving across country to escape the temptation of at least emotional affair, among other negative things, like higher taxes in the starting state.

She’s wondering more how to cope and protect her children from bad communication, arguments, how to model healthy when her she and her husband have trouble establishing that themselves.

What can she do to either change it or accept a reality that it can’t or won’t change but neither of them will get their needs met this way?

How can she build her own sense of self esteem and independence? She feels weighed down by chores and responsibilities for the daily grind with her kids and is experiencing real self-neglect.

[malenejensen]

Not all problems in a marriage needs to be fixed to continue the marriage. Sometimes you just have to live with a difficult problem that you cannot do anything about and where a divorce would only add complexity to that problem. In this case it is important to find ways around the problem, and strategies to alleviate some of the stress of the problem. A key can be to look at your expectations and throw some of them in the bin to find a way to live with the problem. Maybe you need to have separate bedrooms to be able to be sleep better and better cope with a stressfull situation. Or live apart to enjoy when you actually are together. Or maybe you live apart and cannot see how you can marry or move together because you lack opportunities or finances. Then looking at your expectations can help you to see if there is some of the expectations that is a hindrance.

Unsolved conflict does not have to lead to divorce. Maybe this is a season, and the conflict dissolve along the way.

But you have to accept, recognize and work with the conflict and the emotions, because choosing to do nothing is like peeing your pants!

[mguNn]

Men, drop a restraining order on her!

[Smellydoug]

Just say like it is. Women are impossible especially after a kid.