Do girls prefer to avoid commitment?

[meleebrawler]

It’s amazing how some people feel more comfortable having a kid together than getting married.

[heatison]

That was the hardest "duh" I've ever heard in my life

[sarahrivers]

I’ve rewatched this 3 times because of her facial expressions 😂 So much communication in her eyes alone

[gloriajean]

The seat belt analogy that she gave was spot on.

[guidichris]

And most importantly protects the child!!

[jenw]

I literally heard that from a coworker when we were engaged. “Wow Marriage is too big a commitment for me!” While toting around her 5 year old daughter. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[yaeltam]

Ive had so many people try to convince me not to wait til marriage. Im so so so glad to say I've never fallen to that pressure

[cherylporter]

I love this girl! Not just the message but the dramatic pauses, inflection, pointed looks! Nailed it🤣🤣🤣

[Commentlesss]

Marriage is a blessing, having a family is a blessing, society needs to stop viewing it as a burden.

[themendingbear]

Having a child together ties you to that person for life. Because your kids will continue to talk about them you will see them at big life events. If you are getting child support you will have to interact in some way. If they have visitations you will have to see them. you see their face in your children. If your kids spend any time with them You will notice their personality traits in the kids.

I’ve never been divorced but I am a child of divorce and this is just my experience.

[flamingburitto]

Her eyes 😂😂😂😂
That was the best part. It's the most perfect expression of "Are you fking kidding me?"

[tintintiglao]

Love her all answers! ❤😂
I'm 41, and I recently got married last year, on Dec 2023. I wanted to wait for the right person before I get married. I don't want any divorce or have multiple kids with different men. I only want to get married once with 1 person. And that is my choice in life, not others.

[Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

Having a kid is AT LEAST FIVE TIMES the commitment of having a marriage.

[gv]

I was with a girl for five years. She was financially stable but was mentally and emotionally insane. Signs didn't show until after year three. Never married her or had kids.

My wife now... showed maturity in all aspects in the first years. We have kids and have been married for 13 years now.

Don't let nonsense cloud your adult decisions. Don't try to fix mistakes that others have caused. That's not your job, that's your partner's choice. If they don't fix themselves, it's time to walk away. Their emotional and mental baggage are not for you to carry. Don't bring in children into the picture and think that will better their situation. You will be complicating it for everyone. Especially the child or children.

[mandysaied]

It also weeds out the guys who would be terrible husbands or are just trying to sleep with you. The guy who’s willing to wait for marriage is the guy who is going to treasure you and treat you right for life.

[cathleencumpton]

All kids deserve two committed parents. Do what's right for the kid(s)

[dasse]

My friend told me her and her bf were trying for a baby. And I asked her if she was planning on a wedding and she said that she is afraid of marriage... okay girl

[SamiDForever]

The commitment with the kid far exceeds the commitment of a marriage. A guy I know just got divorced. No kids. Never has to speak to her again. Another guy I know had kids with an ex. He counted down till they were 18 so he didn’t have to deal with her again. But then graduations happened, weddings happened, grandkids happened, grandkids birthdays happened, school functions for the grandkids happened. He’s tied to her FOR LIFE.

[micahmiller]

My husband's cousin had her baby just a few weeks before we had ours. She and the dad had met through a dating app and it was supposed to be a one night stand. But he was so excited about being a dad and starting a family that he bought the cousin a new car and a house for the three of them to be together. She complained about the house, the car, his lifestyle (Keto and a rock climber), etc. And when he proposed at their 2 year anniversary she left him, taking their baby with her. She still expected him to give her everything and pay her bills, but she didn't want to be with him. He begged her to come back, to marry him, etc for another 4 years. But she refused because she said he only wanted her there to have another baby.

Anyway, shortly after our kids started first grade, he began to distance himself from the cousin. He had her switch her phone and car to her name, stopped giving her money all the time, and got a court approved shared custody agreement (meaning no child support required as both parties share equal custody). The cousin was pissed that he "wasn't taking care of our princess", even though he paid for her medical, school supplies, clothes, and the like. He just expected the cousin to pay her fair share, too. Then, about a year later, he got married to a new woman. The cousin was *pissed* because he never mentioned it. He had asked the cousin's permission during his week with their daughter if it was okay to take her on a weekend trip, taking a day off from school. He never mentioned that it was to attend his wedding. And the cousin agreed, but she was livid that he "lied" to her about the reason.

For the last three years, I've had to listen to the cousin bemoan that she wants what her ex has, that she wants to be married, that she wants the house and kids and happily ever after. She constantly trashes him and his new wife (and their new baby) and complains that he doesn't deserve it.

I finally had to cut her out of my life because I got tired of the trash talk

[kathleenmoncla]

It does this old mom's heart good to hear this young lady speak the TRUTH!
We are free to make our own decisions, but we are not free from the consequences of our choices‼️
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