Your body language may shape who you are | Amy Cuddy | TED

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[sld]

When she started talking about how she had survived that car wreck and had to rebuild herself after suffering with brain damage, and dropping 2 deviations in her IQ level, which led to losing her sense of identity, because she had always been known as the smart girl. I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and was so happy when she said that she is now a professor at Harvard. She is the epitome of fake it until you become it but in the absolute best way possible, because she has lived it, simply, INCREDIBLE!!

[shubhamranarana]

Little known fact: Originally, the video was not planned to be this long. She decided to add that last personal experience in the moment, which has evidently made it much more popular than it would have been.

[Sarah-kcuj]

“Fake it ill you become it”- The most impressive statement ever!! As a girl in middle school with so many outstanding fellows, I cried a river along my way to graduation. But through all those tearful years, I know found what my true identity was: Always keep up with your work, and don’t limit your identity as just a “normal” student

[RoseGirlGlitter]

I watched this for one of my classes and sometimes, I admit, I only half pay attention to required videos but this one completely captivated me. When she told her personal story I literally started to cry because I used to be that girl she was describing. I had horrible social anxiety and struggled so much with day to day interactions. Now I am getting more confident everyday and have taken on roles that I never thought I could do as a painfully shy teenager. Fake it until you become it really does work.

[maralucy]

Awww, she got a standing ovation! She deserved it too.

[nassssim_]

the saying " I 'm not supposed to be here", "No, you are" is so touching for me.

[adarsh]

if you're always feeling low on confidence check if you have hunched shoulders. if you do pull them back to where they should be. this made the world of difference to me, it literally is changing my life. I don't know if it's a placebo but I feel much more confident now

[petunia]

HER SPEECH GAVE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY. When she started talking about feeling like she was not supposed to be at Harvard but then one of her students said the same thing, it even gave goosebumps on my face. She is one successful woman. Internally and externally. Thank you so much!

[FunnyStupidGamer]

i literally call this my favorite ted talk ever. i watched it for the first time nearly 2.5 years ago when i was shy and unconfident in myself and my looks and personality and basically everything about myself. i followed this message and now i am the best and most beautiful person i know. i walk around like i run the place and i am not afraid of what people think of me mostly. i still am working on becoming better in social situations and being able to talk to anyone and not being afraid but i am way better now than i was before

[faizansiddiqui]

I showed this TedTalk to my son
Now he is my Father

[helenvasconcelos]

The reason why this talk is so attention catching and touching is because Amy Cuddy is REAL, she shows herself truly in this talk and while the content is amazing as well, I truly believe that her soul shines through her words and her body language. Truly beautiful - thank you for the message!

[harshmittal]

Every minute spent listening this was worth billions!!!!

[spinxenator]

I was in a CVS & a stranger smiled at me as she passed me in the aisle. This was years ago, pre-covid. Her spirit was radiant, so much that it made me stop & reflect on how lovely a human being she was & how the kindness of strangers can be so impactful. Then I got in line behind her, & another customer walking by stopped, turned to her & thanked her for writing a particular book. She graciously thanked him, & I remember going back to my car after that & searching the book to see who she was. It was Amy Cuddy, & then I remembered watching this, & it was kind of a mindfxck. Anyway yeah she's super chill & beautiful. Love coming back to this talk.

[risapuzas]

I did this very thing when I was 16. I was a shy introvert when my family moved from one school district to another city. It was then I decided I didn't want to be shy and introverted but WANTED to be extroverted and outgoing. Since no one at the new school knew I wasn't already extroverted,   I "faked" it till I became it.  It was the best thing I ever did for myself.  I am now 62 and most people I know can't believe I never lacked confidence.

[noexcuses]

Thank you for this. I had done this method and lots of people say you will not become manager and always put me down and they told me your english is you’re third language. Manager needs to have great english language and your not one of them. The person who told me that was someone very close to me that is supposed to support me. So hearing from him, i felt very disappointed and doubt myself to then point i start agreeing with his point of view.

Fake it till you become it and i did it at age 30 yrs old and i become a manager in prestigious firm and thank u so much for ur advice.

[a_desired_turtle]

11 years later but the lesson still remains its true valuability

[ronniewang]

I did not realize how amazing this speech is until it comes to 16:10 when she started to share her own story. It is not about how great the the story is or how great the way she told the story, but she finally become not nervous anymore. She talked without stops, repetition and looking down to the floor or her hand, she started to look at the audience and speak more fluently. The change is not because she remembers this part of speech better than other parts, but you can feel that she really want to talk about that story and how big impact the story made on her.

It is interesting because the topic of this speech is about body language of being powerful, and her own behavior just suits into the speech perfectly without herself maybe realizing that.When she finished her own story and came back to the final part of the talk, she went back to her initial way of giving the talk.

[elodieg]

All those comments about her being annoying because of her "mouth noises" and sniffing are actually the reason why so many people, who are shy and not confident, will never take the risk to speak and "fake it, until they make (become) it"!

[j.nardelli]

11 years later and I'm not tired of watching over and over again ❤🎉 just bought your book and I'm so excited!!

[mangoxxtango]

I don’t know why but when she was talking about her personal story, I started to cry… That girl who used to think ‘I don’t belong’ here was me. I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. Thanks a lot, Amy.