The Body Language Expert: 4 Body Language Tricks That Will Make People Love You & Respect You!

This episode will help you become irresistible to others & build your self confidence. Guest - Doctor Amy Cuddy

00:00 Intro
02:09 Is body language important?
06:33 Your posture can affect how you feel!
08:50 Your famous TED Talk
14:59 How to know if we’re holding ourselves properly
18:35 What to do if one has low self-esteem
21:47 Why your self-story really matters
24:31 Why body language helps you to be more authentic
29:27 How body language affects what people think of you
35:56 How to nudge yourself in the direction you want to get to
43:32 How do we become better speakers?
47:40 Is eye contact important?
50:06 Is it possible to learn to read people's body language?
55:59 Can we fake good body language?
01:04:17 Your bullying experience
01:15:27 Your bullies' motivations
01:23:40 The importance and how to build trust
01:25:50 The last guest's question

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[TheDiaryOfACEO]

Such an insightful episode 🤯 Baffled at the amount you can change about yourself just by holding yourself differently, I wish someone had told me this sooner!! If you enjoyed this episode or anything else we've produced, hit the subscribe button and I guarantee to keep bringing you these episodes full of value. Appreciate you all 🙏🏽

[lennywiuff]

Workplace bullying is so toxic. I chose to leave after my experience, and consequently abandoned a career that I truly loved. I understand how difficult it is for Ms. Cuddy to simply "get over it."

[Loveladylove]

Wow I resonate with her so much, such a sweet woman. Bullies prey on empathetic and compassionate people. They see your light, and all they wanna do is diminish it, because of their own lack within.

I’m so grateful she’s sharing her story, because life is just too short to be tormented by people who are absolutely miserable with their lives.🙏🏾

[QualquerCoisa]

She is not exaggerating. I got through work bullying, as well. It is hard. I was fired as she said as a first possibility. It took me 3 years to heal. Today I learned to stand up for myself and others, confronting it hard every time it can happen. Great interview. Great teaching. Thank you both.

[Jocelectro]

Dear Amy, thank you for showing yourself to us. That people who bullied you will maybe laugh on the outside but only to hide all the shame for what they have done to you in the past. And we know it's because of their jealousy and their incapability of loving themselves in the first place. Humans are very capable of healing. Take your time, you are not alone.

[ambition]

0:00: 💪 Body language is important and affects our first impressions, mood, and performance.
8:18: 🗣 The speaker discusses the power of body language and feeling powerful.
16:51: 🤔 The way we carry ourselves physically and mentally can have a significant impact on our well-being and self-perception.
24:22: 😊 Body language that conveys authenticity and confidence is attractive in both dating and professional settings.
32:44: 😌 Making small changes and focusing on one thing at a time can help overcome feelings of powerlessness and build confidence.
42:02: 🗣 The pandemic has taken a toll on people's mental stability, causing many to feel powerless and stuck in a downward spiral.
48:33: 😳 The speaker discusses the significance of eye contact and body language in communication, as well as how to read people better.
54:13: 😊 Changing one's self-perception is more effective than trying to fake body language.
1:04:40: 😔 The speaker shares their experience of being bullied and the devastating impact it had on their life and identity.
1:09:55: 😔 The speaker shares her experience of being bullied and the impact it had on her personal and professional life.
1:20:01: 👥 Bullying tends to target individuals who have lower status within their profession or workplace, and those who gain high status outside of their in-group are less likely to be bullied.
1:27:54: 💬 The importance of having a professional conversation about recent events in the UK and the need for a common language to discuss them.
Recap by Tammy AI

[TheFabulousNobodies]

I like how humble she is, to correct him and say it was number 2 most viewed. She’s really sweet and I hope she gets the respect she deserves.

[ChocoLater]

I got to the point in my life when I no longer want people to love me and respect. I want them to leave me alone lol.

[dalecouch]

She is real She is authentic. And Academia breeds the problems she experienced. I am glad for her recovery and her success.

[TheCavie]

I have seen a lot of people who have never left the high school mentality. They've never "graduated" and never will.

[NikiY]

Super insightful episode. The part about bullying touched me so much. I was bullied at work when I worked for the national trust in the UK at head office. It was such a nasty horrible toxic environment and what Dr Cuddy said about it staging with you and how it affects every area of your life was so... Comforting... It was amazing to have someone so professional and so accomplished be able to articulate that. I quit my job after realising I was suicidal from the bullying. I was alone, I'd moved across the country for the job, no friends or family nearby and they took advantage of that. I quit, found better roles, I have also had the chance to be self employed and I met my now husband. It's a good news change, but she is right, the wounds are still there under the surface. Thank you to Dr Cuddy for being so open about her experience.

[thegurch]

VERY saddened and upset to hear about the bullying she had endured, it has devastating effects on you and scars you for life. listening to her brought me to tears

[hanniss]

Great job letting Dr. Cuddy talk for an extended period and not interrupting her.

[hfortenberry]

That part when she said she almost quit grad school right before her first presentation...I FELT that! I actually shed a couple of tears as she described that. I was in that place in grad school. It was terrifying because I had bad imposter syndrome as well. Everyone else in my program had been to Ivy League undergraduate programs or was just obviously smarter than me (I thought). But I wasn't about to give up all I'd worked for up to that point so quitting wasn't an option. But it was soooo tempting. Since then (that was 30 years ago) I've learned that you do have to take tiny, baby steps. I didn't know it was called "nudging". I love that term. Just nudge yourself further toward the direction you want to go, in anything. I've been using that to get to my (almost there) dream life. It works!!

[RoseMary-glee]

I agree with her, most bullies are NOT compensating for insecurity, they are bullying because they’re successful doing it. I stood up to 2 bullies (excruciatingly difficult) and learned that they transformed from this confrontation, they needed the correction done skillfully, with sincerity and without vengeance

[angeladawn]

Amy, my friend, you are a delight. Thank you for your words of wisdom, I'll be re-watching this multiple times, as there's a wealth of knowledge here. I hope that you can let go of "my bullys", as they don't belong to you anymore, they can enjoy being who they are 24/7 until their terminal toxic breath. They served their function as a catalyst, they don't deserve any more attention, just walk away beautiful lady, and spread the love 😊

[nolaquev]

I was also bullied in the workplace and it's had lasting affects. It's not unlike an abusive relationship. I have PTSD from it. In academic management I was a senior manager and the director bullied staff and was only satisfied when she was proven right. I eventually stepped down to a lower position to escape the public screaming and humiliation for small issues she disagreed with. She wanted me out at all costs. A year later she was summoned to a disciplinary committee for the bullying and resigned rather than face it. I'm happier in my academic position rather than in management but it has made me less confident in my abilities. I know I'm very good in the academic discipline that I specialise in and have 30 years in the classroom and getting my students into very successful careers. Just typing this makes me anxious.

[sharaineroberts]

This explains why people approach me often no matter where I am. My family and friends say they always say they don't know why, but sometimes about me seem very friendly.

[kimberlyf]

Whenever I feel something negative (or talk to my daughter about her feelings), I remind myself that there are all these many videos/articles, etc on these topics - and they wouldn't be so popular if many others weren't experiencing the same. So often, we look at others and think they have it all together - but I know that's not the truth, we're all dealing with something.

[sarahofer]

If there's one thing I've learned in my life, it's that when a bully targets you, you have to respond with a double dose. When I stand up for myself, take the upper hand, all the bullies quickly back away. Bullies are cowards, who try to gain status by hurting others.