Biggest FLIRTING MISTAKES That Keep You SINGLE... | Matthew Hussey

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In this video, my brother Stephen and I get highly practical on how you can use this power in simple ways that will transform the electricity on your dates. Pay close attention and take lots of notes . . .
 
You’ll learn:
 
• The key factor that can either kill sexual tension during a date or heighten it. (It’s incredibly easy to apply once you’re aware of it.)
 
• What you can do while listening to your date talk that will naturally and wordlessly make them excited.
 
• A practical technique to up your flirting game on your next date so the momentum after the date takes care of itself.
 
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[satinsolstice]

Matt looks like he's trying to flirt with me while explaining how to flirt... The man knows how to do it

[workoutwithgato]

I don't even want a boyfriend and I enjoy listening to Matthew - He's so charismatic, confident, intelligent, articulate, handsome (and that accent is just adorable). Awesome job Mr. Hussey. Keep up the excellent work. You are respected and appreciated.

[theprousteffect]

I'm so glad he mentioned pacing. That's where I've gone wrong many times. I thought I was being bold, fearless, and confident in being very flirtatious and sexual early on, when that was actually indicative of fear and insecurity. Take your time, build the sexual tension slowly, let it simmer, give it room to breathe as you gradually escalate. This isn't about game playing because you're not sending mixed signals and are still conveying interest in the person. It's a strategic, intentional choice to create a highly erotic experience - in the same way that gradual foreplay and slight teasing make sex feel so much better.

[This_RuthIsOnFire]

It’s absolutely in the eyes for me. The way they look at me when I’m explaining something… they’re looking at my emphasis, to the way they look at me after they’ve kissed me for the first time, they’re looking at what they want. The eyes are the window to the soul. I flirt with my eyes, I expect my date to as well.

[miriamrobarts]

6:59 "Lack of connection: you'll suffer later on. Lack of chemistry: you'll suffer early on."

[markol]

I've been a stutterer for my whole life, so when Matt talked about pacing it was a bigger revelation than I initially thought. I realized that my biggest problem not just with women but in every aspect of my life, is fear.

I am afraid, very afraid of:
1. Getting perceived as weak and getting punished because of this by the people around me.

2. Never being listened by others, leading me to sound very anxious when speaking.

3. (Related to point #1) Being betrayed by women when opening up, which led me to adopt a cold and distant behavior when speaking to women I was interested in.

A million thanks for this revelation, Matt!

[danielleemch]

You have to be ok in the uncomfortable silence and just be yourself let things happen organically I always meditate before I go on a date and that allows me to be in my body and show up my most authentic self and that create space for them to be who they are 🥰💖

[titusyang]

I agree, complimenting a man (or women) does create the chemistry. Like if a girl complimented me it will spark something in me to question if I should talk to her or not. Either way flirting is like a game of ping pong and the compliment is the first serve.

[clairepadron]

This is creepily on point to my exact situation, wow. This is brilliant thank you! Would love more on this.

[jazzyg]

Personally, I don't need help with creating chemistry. I'm just not romantically interested in 99% of the men I meet because we aren't compatible in a serious or long term relationship. Flirting can draw people in but if they aren't what we're looking for they end up being a time and energy waster.

[randigerber]

Brilliant!

Matthew has made a successful career out of being an observer.

What he says is smart because it’s based on his paying attention and noticing patterns. Thanks for sharing this.

I think humans are always fascinated and perplexed by the female-male relationship dance.

And I think Matthew has watched a lot of us dancing, and wants to tell us how we can dance better, and more successfully.

[melissahoots]

I'm in my 50s and have not heard anyone speak about pacing before! This information is so valuable!! Thank you guys so much for taking us deeper into the subtle but vital things of relationship.

[xxPorcupine]

I love this idea of pacing. It's so hard not to rush your speech when you're excited!
What about in the context of texting? With modern dating a lot of people prefer to text rather than call so the pause between replies are much longer and then the flirting tension is gone...

[raffibarrows]

I watched this video and I actually tried out the methods and it genuinely went brilliantly. I ended up kissing hun at the end of the night and I have another date with him tomorrow. Came back to watch this and help me prepare again haha

[happymood]

It's about time someone said chemistry with no connection brings two people together that shouldn't be. Ty for that

[charliewebster]

There's a lot of wisdom in this video. I've gone on dating rampages...date after date...dates that didn't result in 2nd dates, even though I felt that were pleasant & would've been open to that. Saying this from a place of confidence, not pretentiousness: I value myself highly, feel that I am witty, attractive, can have deep & interesting conversations...but I realize that I didn't take the risk on the dates. There was little to no flirting, cheeky complimenting. When the time comes for me to go out & date again, I'll definitely keep this video in mind.

[donnab]

Appearance is very important. Superficial? Yes. But that's where it starts. Self confidence. Good conversation, laughing appropriately. Look at him straight in his eyes, but don't stare creepy-like. An authentic compliment, either appearance or his accomplishments or something showing your admiration. But sometimes there's just a connection...or not. It happens, or doesn't happen, naturally. And if the two of you aren't suited for each other, there's nothing that can be done. It's a mismatch. But often that shows up in the conversation. A bit of flirting is good, if you can do it naturally. Don't drink too much.

[radicalhonesty]

I'm in a weird situation with a man.

I think I love him,

but...

I don't know

if this thing we have is actually healthy,

or really just another trauma bond...

I need prayers. Him and I both do,

that whatever this is between us,

will ultimately be for our own healing.

And that we will co-create something

that is loving and magical and beautiful

and happy and wonderful and miraculous

and healthy, together.

Love and/or friendship

to last lifetimes...

[maddyG]

Oof yes, the chemistry without connection just recently happened to me. I’ll toot my own horn and say I’m good at flirting and creating chemistry but sometimes it puts me in a place where I don’t recognize that the person I’m going on dates with isn’t compatible with me.

[sarahichi]

Found this guy when I was going through a rough end to a 14 year relationship to now needing all of the flirting advice 5 months later 🥰🥰