How to Overcome the Pain of Rejection & Meeting Women

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#Dating #relationships #women

[Dyjsong]

Dr. K: "I was neither a doctor nor a chad."
Also Dr. K: Becomes legend by breaking into an all women's dorm to hang out with his girlfriend

[Yourztrulydaboy]

covid absolutely obliterated my already very iffy social skills 💀

[kooledgesture]

I love how when Dr K said everyone you meet has something to offer,
Someone in the chat typed: *gets corona*

[LemonNation]

Dr K is lowkey a giant chad for breaking into his wife's dorm in college lol

[_Lumiere_]

I feel like a good reason for simply befriending people, women in particular (for guys), is that it helps alleviate the "expectations" you have from interactions with women. When your only experience with women ends up being attraction/rejection, you get anxious about every interaction, because it can only end in either a failed prospect (rejection) or a jackpot (relationship). Expanding your social circle and simply going out of your way to befriend women with no further expectations lifts that anxiety of rejection of romance. You get used to interacting with women without that anxiety and you gradually condition yourself to be comfortable and at ease around them, which may help with actual romantic interactions. Actually, I believe that a good social circle is one of the best ways to meet women, so even if Dr K sorta joked about befriending women to increase his dating pool, if you actually make sure your social circle is filled with high quality people, it can definitely be a great source for finding a partner, via the people you know. A high quality woman who you may have no attraction for, but is a good friend is likely to have high quality friends that she can introduce you to. All of this is applicable to women looking for men, as well, imo.

[lilxbobby]

''befriending a girl to get introduced to her friends'' 5Head Genius

[bargaingoldandsilver]

His advice is so solid, I met the love of my life with absolutely no intention of dating. I was just very friendly with everyone I met, and we gradually fell in love and since I met her with no intention of a relationship I didn’t have to do things I usually wouldn’t to “woo” her. She fell in love for who I am and not this fake persona

[VaSoapman]

One of my favorite quotes:
"Do you think you can get a Girlfriend if you don't even know how to make friends?"

[redshifted]

Dr K: Learn to appreciate people for their intrinsic value.
Kruti: Do some low stakes dating.

... brilliant combo

[hardeepchahal]

Step 1: chicken soup recipe
Step 2: ???
Step 3: girlfriend

[AyronHalcyon]

The banter between this couple is so pure and special. I love these couple streams

[LiMaking]

the tip about being a bit flirty and cute with everyone is great. That not only gives you more opportunities even with people you might not have thought it to be possible, but it also makes you not the "guy who is only nice to people he wanna bang". win win

[Maestroxxx]

You can get rid of the panic by seeing her as just a person. The panic comes from putting her on a pedestal. Once you get rid of the pedestal, the panic alleviates itself.

[lorraineb]

3:27 This sounds super calculating when he put it that way and that's why she reacted that way. But there is a lot of sense in just expanding your friend group, not so you can ask out their friends, but so you can spend time with their friends, and if you and one of those friends are interested in each other, it starts off organically and with no pressure

[CaptPicard]

"What were your tricks?"
"Ineffective"
Well damn.

[humanity_restored]

HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS. Makes life so much easier.

[jackstratif]

Problem with me is that I am very rarely in a situation where introducing myself or even talking to people seems appropriate. Gym, shops, bars, etc. most people have this “don’t talk to me” facial expression and it’s hard to break through that and talk to girls. So I do have fear of talking to girls but I also have the excuse that it’s not the socially appropriate thing to do and that it’s invasive. If I could eliminate that excuse then I’d just be reduced down to dealing with my fear of talking to women and rejection.

[Thundersz]

Yesterday I asked out a girl I just met and flirted with, and got rejected. It's okay that I did. I said I really enjoyed our conversation and that she should have a nice day. And that was that. No freak out no nothing. It gets easier and the more you do it, the better you get at so when it really counts you can do it well. But before that happens you have to do. Ask them out.

[cataclysmicproductions]

love to watch both of you together. I can literally feel the bond, your commitment to each other, how deeply you care for each other etc. Ngl, this gives me hope, every Time!

[alexbarbarich]

This is my exactly scenario! thank you, this was really comforting and helpful.