Why Delay the First Kiss (And for How Long)?

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Harry Wilmington is a seasoned dating coach with two decades of expertise in the realm of relationships. For the past 20 years, Harry has dedicated himself to the art of dating, specializing in transforming men who struggle in the dating world into confident individuals capable of building satisfying and meaningful connections. His passion lies in guiding men to overcome dating challenges, providing them with the skills and mindset needed to thrive in the realm of relationships. Join Harry on a journey of self-discovery and watch as he empowers individuals to navigate the intricate landscape of dating with confidence and authenticity.

[danielhamilton]

It's okay to not kiss on the first date.
However
You can't negotiate desire
if she's not in to you from the start it means she doesn't find you sexually attractive. That's a recipe to be a backup plan and the she'll resent you if you try to hard to "win her over."

[jim]

We were friends first. First kiss took a year and it was perfect. Married 12 years now and both of
Us couldn’t imagine being with anyone else :)

[jorgeanibal]

rename this video, how to be a beta male. Never focus on someone else having a good time, focus on you having a good time and on having the balls to be true. On the other hand, have control of your sex drive, don't let it ruin your life. Sex ruins the creation of a real bond. Always escalate and show the girl youre not affraid of her and you certainly don't hide your desire and attraction.

[zrunnerZ]

You set yourself up for the FRIENDZONE doin this stuff....I'm 56 and this nice guy shit doesnt work

[LinusWilson]

Absolutely u should. Harry is the King of Friendzone. Also try to do the kiss well before the date end. Unless ur game is garbage don’t offer a 2nd date without a kiss.

[Champ]

It sounds like you're advising men against kissing on the first date to avoid putting pressure on themselves. I can get behind that. HOWEVER, if one does decide to go for a first date kiss, they should never disregard the simple subtext that the rejecter is displaying - they aren't THAT interested.

It's important to disregard the "why, " because the end result is negative. Regardless of the reason, she's setting the precedent that intimacy is on her terms. And if you're a novice, you can get eviscerated by the wrong woman who wants to pretend to take it slow, while taking your money and free attention.

If you decide not to kiss her on the first date - GREAT. No problem. Especially if she would've kissed you anyway. But just because you don't kiss her on the first date, doesn't mean that her mind wasn't already made up.

So, if you're going to go for the kiss (or not), make sure you're keen to what her interest level is, based on her following your lead in other areas. The more game and awareness you have, the less kissing her at all matters, because it WILL happen. But if kissing is part of your vetting process, keep doing it. Especially if you need to clearly distinguish your intentions with a woman who potentially is using you for attention or money.

[jy_hawk]

Girl I'm seeing told me that our first date was one of 3 she had set up the same weekend. She told me she chose me because I was the only one who extended the date and went for the kiss

[sadarisbenjamin]

It’s ok not to kiss on the very first date but definitely between the 2nd or 3rd

[effortlesssuccess]

Kissing on the first date? What are you people? Teenagers? 😂

Adults take their time.