My 8-Year-Old Saw Her Dad Sexually Assault Me

My 8-Year-Old Saw Her Dad Sexually Assault Me

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[settergroomer]

My dad was severely bi-polar and he never sexually assaulted anyone. It’s really not right to blame the bi-polar. He was sexually abusive AND bi polar. Those are two separate things

[onlyherethecomments]

As someone who has witnessed the sexual assault of my own mom at a very young age, I can say that this never goes away. The images, the sounds, please get therapy for your daughter.

[lifeaccordingtotheo]

Her dad's family is still in her life??? Dad better not be. He needs to be in jail.

[cess]

I had a bf who liked to play wrestle. Which was fine for the most part. ( I am playful and generally ok with tickles.) But he would take it to the point that my body would really start to fight him and he could tell when he trigged old trauma responses. He never hurt me and would take it personally that I had that response. As if I could control panic. It was weird because it seemed clear he didn’t actually want to hurt me but he did seem fascinated that he could trigger a trauma response by holding me down. Yeah buddy. Holding a woman down even playfully will cause a response. So glad I got out of that relationship. While he never did hurt me I could tell he liked to trigger me. My husband tried to play wrestle me when we were first married. Noticed it caused a trigger and never did it again because the idea that my body was really panicking was repugnant to him. I trust him completely and my body is never in alarm around him because he has always honored me and my boundaries even if I didn’t even know I needed them.

[fortyseventhronin]

The title is enough to make me stop breathing. Jesus Christ have mercy

[wuahwuahwhore]

I was told the same thing as a child when my dad abused me “he is sick, that’s not your dad” because he was drunk when he did it. The damage that caused me as a child is so deep, deeper than what he actually did to me. Grace if you are reading this please acknowledge your child and her pain and don’t cover it with that sentence that he’s sick.

[maryperrysmith]

Memories. I’m proud of you too!!! My mom knew her husband was sexually abusing my sister from 6 till she was 12. Only because they thought she was pregnant did my mom shoot him. Cops came long story short. My mom told my sister she ruined her life. None of us did well he went to prison but the state left all of us 6 kids with my mom who found another man that then mentally abused us. We lived a life of hell till we got away. I ran away. Finally state put me in childrens home I’m ok

[sarasimms]

Please do not blame his disgusting actions in bipolar. Yes our emotions are strong and we can be manic, but we do not sexually abuse. We can control that.

[faithykitty]

I really like the explanation that he gives that "mental health is a context, not an excuse". That's even a really useful thing to be able to do for regular situations, being able to explain why something happened without trying to excuse it. Context is a really good word to use instead of reason or excuse. " I did this because of this context, which doesn't excuse it, but I just want to be able to explain to you why it happened."

[blueravenchick]

What does being bipolar or whatever have to do with sexual assaulting people???

[AndreDMalan]

She got out (demonstrating that something is not ok) and she explained (verbalising that it is not ok). What you do and what you say MUST be concurrent. Good job, lady.

[mjslawrence]

Saw my mom getting raped and beaten more times than I can count as a kid. Even in my forties, it just never leaves. I feel for this mom, and kid.

[pooh]

She needs to take her & her daughter to see a counselor on a consistent basis

[katiewaves]

I’m proud of you, mama. You have a responsibility to protect your daughter and you are.

[emilybecker]

This is my life. I had full custody for a few years then got a new judge and he said “single mothers keeping their kids from their fathers because they’re bitter is a cause I care a lot about” so my daughter will soon be alone overnight with the man who used to rape me right in front of her in the day and in my sleep repeatedly at night. I am so scared I don’t know what else to do. My advice to any woman who goes through this is to PUT HIM IN JAIL IMMEDIATELY I have no recourse because I didn’t want to put the father of my child in jail but I SHOULD HAVE to protect HER

[mariamayub]

I was a child of abuse and spent my whole childhood protecting my mother's life, even sending my dad to jail. It left life long scars, I never got married put of fear and have massive anxiety I really relate to the daughter.

[debbieanderson]

This poor child! She has internalized the whole experience. I'm just dying inside hearing this. The trauma is terrible. Then hearing the moms story! You might want to call the women's shelter for a referral for you mom. Stop the generational pain.

[larissaalcorn]

tired of people blaming physical and sexual assault on mental issues. If that's the cause, then they need a straight jacket and padded cell. Instead, they use that excuse to get away with it. It's time we stop accepting that.

[stephanieleonard]

Good for you. My mom stayed with her abusive husband and encouraged me to continue to accept his behavior as a small child. Sickening. Your actions are giving your daughter a mother she can respect....God bless you. 🙏

[sungear]

I've always been uncomfortable when grandma and grandpa force hugs on my kids.