Signs Your Husband Hates You | Paul Friedman

Find out the reason why sometimes you think or feel that your husband hates you. What are the signs your husband hates you? Watch Paul share in this video a scenario where the husband hates the wife.

I got to tell you right now -- your husband does not hate you but what has happened as we've become a culture that has adapted to headlines in magazines and stuff on the internet that is just crazy.

Hate, you know what that is? You know how deep that is?

Hatred is how people feel towards terrorists -- that's hatred. Hatred is what you feel for someone who is so frightening and so devastatingly evil. It's the thing that comes to your mind. It's a form of protection to hate somebody. Your husband doesn't hate you, he doesn't hate you. Let's take that off the table and let's become more reasonable in our words, in the words that we use.

Let's say that your husband is mad at you now, and bear in mind, men don't communicate like women. If your husband snaps at you, which he shouldn't do, or if he yells at you which he shouldn't do, or if he's like unbelievably mean to you and he shouldn't be. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's okay. It doesn't have the same meaning as if it were reversed so I'm not saying you're not making a mad and you probably are. For the same reason, he's making you mad.

You don't understand each other so, guess what? You've come to the right place. I used to be a divorce mediator so I've seen all of the struggles that people go through before they get a divorce and then I shifted because I realized -- and thank God, this particular couple came in who wanted help to save their marriage, and I realized there's got to be a universal premise and there is.

Let's go all the way back to why you wanted to get married in the first place, you got married because you wanted to be happier than you were. You didn't get married because everybody gets married. Sure, maybe you did kind of but, why? Because you wanted to be happier then this is where it falls apart for everybody.

We don't go what's going to make me happier, isn't that crazy? We don't have a plan. We get married without a plan and so what happens is everything falls apart. The symptoms are myriad and countless. Now I'm going to give you a plan. You got married to be happy. The one thing that brings about happiness universally for every single human being on the planet or in outer space is unconditional love. Not that complicated so, what have you done to express unconditional love to your husband? And don't tell me, "Well, what has he done to express unconditional love to me?"

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[TheMarriageFoundation]

Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by:
1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions.

[revatherealestateagentandr]

I cried watching this. I wish I could believe you, that my husband doesn’t hate me. If he doesn’t hate me than it’s pretty close to it. It’s hate adjacent. He barely tolerates me. Deep sigh. Thanks for caring and speaking so nicely, nonetheless. It’s nice how sweet you talked to us in the video. I hope God blesses you as well. 🌸

[farzanakitty]

After 22 years. I know how he treats what he loves

[rebeccamoore]

My husband just got done telling me how he is better than me, how he has succeeded in capitalism than me, and how he will choose my parents over me and that we will need to get a divorce if I want him to stand by my side.

So, tell me more about how he doesn’t hate me?

[mrs.Columbo]

Well if he doesn’t hate me- he acts like he does

[CarrieAKouri]

Mine doesn't hate me. He definitely has a distain for me that is becoming more obvious each year.

[sambalam]

I feel like me staying after I discovered he was having an emotional affair on me was my way of expressing unconditional love. Also considering I was home with our newborn son when I found/figured it out.
I tried to forgive and take the lead. But he still acts like I am the problem, and a nag, and a bad person. I have been nothing but faithful to him. He cheated on me during my intense paramedic training, so I know I was absent during that time, in a way. But he knew it was to advance my career and our life and I warned him it would take a lot of my time and attention for 18 months. Now that I am home again more, he is still so cold and distant to me. It's really hard to not feel like he doesn't love me anymore. I suppose he doesn't HATE me. But he treats me worse than the chicky he was talking to for sure.

[svetaskm]

What to do when he expects you to do everything for him? His expectations are for me to be a Loving unconditionally always serving him doing everything he wants without getting anything in return. Doing nothing back to make my day or life better 💔 almost daily bringing me down with his words

[mysticpoet]

Thank you for this. SOOOO many so called "psychology" youtube sites talk about hate, when it is at best indifference. You really get it!

[christinawilliams]

I catch my husband giving me hateful stares 😢

[lisafowler]

I ask my husband why does he go to the ATM so often. He told me he HATE ME 😢

[beckymesterhazi]

My husband keeps telling me he does!, I have a brain tumour and depression and yes I’m no good at house work, He hates me because I’m messy and a bit of a hoarder. I understand that it’s making him depressed. What can I do? He says I’m lazy if I ask for help or willing to pay a weekly cleaner to help me. I tell him how much I love him everyday and no I don’t hate him. I hate this mess we’re stuck in Please help me xxx

[hollymaxwellboydell]

Excellent message, Paul Friedman. 🙏🏼♥️

[CaseyEckert-gk]

How do you know that a husband doesn't hate a wife? What if he ends up hurting his wife or worse…

[Chippy]

I got married because we were in true love and we wanted to have a family together

[momteacherlessons]

What if i got married because it was "the right thing to do for our child together". I wasn't in love when we did. He keeps flirting, seeking women, texting women, and is possibly seeing prostitutes....i just cant find "solid proof". We have 5 kids. Autistic and epileptic for 2.

[Ash.Crow.Goddess]

This is so heartbreaking because I truly am madly in love with him. And he's just... not. It's written. And I just read it all. I've always spoken so highly of him. To other people. To him. It's a lovely thought. But it isn't true.

[SamanthaCowgill-dc]

What's the next thing down from hate then? Because I'm positive this man hates me. We've only been married a year 😞

[judycampbell]

Thank you. We are 99% opposite on all our views. It sucks!

[shedrickwallace]

Dude, Doc. I have to be honest with you. Women are not built to give unconditional love. I enjoyed your video but that’s just a fact. ❤