Nurse Bullying: How to Deal With a Know-it-All Narcissistic Bully

Do you work with someone who loves giving her unsolicited opinion to anyone and everyone? Who is loud and obnoxious and will argue with anyone. Who knows everything and thinks everybody else is an idiot (even the physicians).

In this episode of Coffee & Conversations about nurse bullying, we’re going to talk about how to deal with a know-it-all narcissistic bully.

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Are there any tactics that you use? If so, please post in the comment section below. I’d love for you to share!

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[captchaen]

I have over a decade of experience in the nursing industry, and I honestly feel that nursing is rife with narcissistic, caustic, toxic, and abusive behavior and situations. I have seen it firsthand from nursing school through my time working as a nurse. I've left the nursing industry and have no intentions of returning. My goal now is to discourage anyone from subjecting themselves to the abuse and self-sacrifice of nursing.

[Martlin]

I am not sure what type of narcissistic bully my sister was/is, but fresh out of nursing school, she became Florence Nightingale. I remember the long one-sided conversations she had with my mother detailing how brilliant she was and how incompetent everyone else was, including doctors. I was only a kid and still believed in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, yet even I knew she was not for real.

[amygentry]

You just described my husband's brother

[lesliehasenkampf]

Sadly, this describes too many nurses. Seldom is it just one loud mouthed, grandiose, know it all bully. There are usual several present at any given moment in a patient care setting.

[PrettyBlueSkyeEyes]

My mother is this but she wasn't harmless at home. She spent decades in labor nursing but has always manipulated without me realizing. She never cooked, gave us a cookbook at 4 like it was so awesome. If she occasionally cooked flavor to her was a waste and frivolous was her excuse for inedible food. She intentionally got me tested at a time i was being physically abused by a teacher in order to make me fit her role of amazing artist but SOOO challenged at school. I figured out i was being scapegoat years later when I felt suicidal and spent years in counciling to fix whatever about me that made me bad. She used religion and we were like a cult. My life with her made no logical sense. I got pregnant at 19 because birth control failed. We were a a Prolife family. She became extremely different and kind. She was so nurturing of me pregnant and attentive to her grandchild like I'd never seen. She would never buy me any cereal with flavor, only plane Cheerios. She would draw attention to the fact i was skinny and anemic but it was a flaw, not a health concern to answer. I had a zillion things i wasn't allowed to watch, listen to, or do. I wasn't allowed to have friends, or she made sure no friends would want to hang out with me. She gave me bad advice. Suddenly she was the perfect grandma! Absolutely perfect. She guilt tripped so that i quit my job so she could keep her job. I became caregiver of my grandfather. When he died, she would go into rages and chase me. We finally went on a trip to places i wanted to go together but she would start turning our conversation into mazes that i would find her start to tell me I had done something to upset her. I now know this wasn't really my fault. We were doing something outside her absolute control and something that really nurturing me as an INDIVIDUAL. I started doing yoga since i was bound with a baby i couldn't do anything else to exercise. She said yoga wasn't allowed because it is opening up demonic things not of God. I started to realize I did nothing at all without her approval. My pregnancy was supposed to keep me unable to leave. It's not what stopped me. A series of doubting myself has stopped me from leaving when I had ability. I know if I leave i will never be able to see my home again. She has chased me and I'm mocked my PTSD diagnosis.

[patricknelson]

i act like saitama but without punching

[cindyriehm]

Hi am noe in hospital.. last nights nurse had to control e verything!
The bed alarm was on. I know its for my own good. But i roll over and it rang center yourself in the bed more.
I like it on this side!
I got up to go to my restroom it rang she came in. Later i rolled over to far ring.. then i needed to wash my face and brush my teeth. Well, i should have thought of that the first time..
That was the end of me.. the day nurse came on. I explained my medd were no correct. She asked if i needed anythjng else. I kearned how they decided shift work. Then i got to the point. Last night's nurse and i were not a good fit. She said ok she would take care of it. Tonight i am on the right dose of meds
Ive been on medd 20 yesrs i know what i take and when. I was given them for a reason. No other doctor or nurse should change them.
Thank you for listening.

[Ciesiam]

Your description isn’t a narcissistic behavior.

[StephSancia]

I see you deleted my comment from a year or so back but it was so important. These types of people also affect patients in a serious way by overstepping boundaries and causing negativity beyond comprehension but feel free to delete this one that is a very real situation in this world