7 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back [And What to Do About It]

I'll help you decipher a few key actions that should tell you that maybe, just maybe, there's a reunion in your future...if you want it.

Breakups are terrible...

Especially when you think it’s over — and then you start getting subtle (and probably confusing) signs your ex wants you back.

Talk about a mind f*ck!

I’m here to you unf*ck your mind (that came out wrong...) so that you gain just a little bit more clarity on the situation and can figure out what to do about it.

Your Coach,

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #1: He Asks if You're Seeing Anyone

He wants to know if you're seeing anyone.

If you are seeing someone, be honest, and then pay attention to his reaction. Does he seem totally cool with it...or maybe a bit jealous? If you're not seeing anyone, let him know and see if that opens the door to talks about the two of you.

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #2: He's Reminiscing With You on Good Memories

I'm laughing because I actually suggest you reminisce via text if you're trying to win this guy back in this article. So if he's using the same strategy, it's a good sign. If he’s bringing up the past, it means his head is going there, back to a time when you were happy...together.

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #3: He's Working on Improving Himself

Maybe you broke up because all he did was sit on the couch and play video games. Now he's telling you that he's changed. That he's working on whatever "thing" split the two of you apart. Why would he do that, you ask? To win you back. There is really no reason why a man would take the energy to better himself after a breakup except because he wants the woman who pointed out his flaws to come back to him.

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #4: He Tells You He Misses You

Just because he tells you he misses you doesn't automatically mean he's ready to get back together. He might be torn about the end of the relationship and his feelings about you. Maybe there was a giant problem (you wanted kids and he didn't) that, if you could both ignore (which you can't), things would be okay.

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #5: He Finds Silly Reasons to Get in Touch

If he’s trying to get face time with you, chances are he misses you, particularly if the reason he's reaching out isn't something major. I mean: hair ties. They cost what, a couple of bucks? This is just an excuse for him to see you.

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #6: He's Jealous Of Other Guys in Your Life

Now that you're all buddy-buddy with your ex, you might feel comfortable mentioning other men you spend time with, even if they're platonic (and yes, you're totally doing it to see how he reacts).

Your Ex Wants You Back Sign #7: He's Going Over What Went Wrong

It's a good sign that he's reflecting on the relationship.

Maybe your relationship ended abruptly and for no apparent reason. Maybe he felt like he couldn't give you what you needed commitment-wise.

Maybe you both got busy and you felt neglected so you ended it without telling him how you felt.

If there wasn't a solid reason why the two of you broke up, he might still be confused and processing where things derailed. Maybe he's asking himself: is there a real reason we aren't together?

If you're missing him and feeling like it's one-sided, pay more attention to his actions to see if he's showing signs your ex wants you back. Sometimes you're wrapped up in your own emotions so much that you don't see that he's communicating in little ways to show he misses you.

If you do want him back, reciprocate. Give your own subtle signs that you miss him too.

If you don't want him back, pull away from talking to him. Take longer to respond to his texts. Or flat out tell him that you've moved on (the "rip the Band-Aid approach").

Trust me: in the long run, you're better off ending a relationship that has no future, even if it seems insane to because you both love one another. Sometimes, as they say, love isn't enough.

So talk to me in the comments below: what have you seen in terms of signs your ex wants you back?

[Sunnysideup]

He came back after dumping me abruptly 2 months ago. but only on his own casual terms... I told him to take a
He didn't like it and I don't care.... bye bye

[زهرةالبنفسج-رث]

i don't think that we should wait for someone to come back if he really loved you he should stick around no metter what

[michaelalexander]

Don’t fall for it it’s a trap if they want you back it’s a trap

[indigoaurora]

My ex contacted me 7 years after I broke up with him. It was random and caught me off guard. I don't want him back.

[Insomniacnerd]

Fucker used my little brothers suicide as an excuse to cheat. As much as he wants me back, it'll never happen. Im much happier now.

[Lioness]

Yup he wants me back. Been stringing him along for 11 months now.

[aryanahmed]

He broke my heart now he came back after 5 months and after knowing that i am engaged to another guy.

[noaccount]

He finally realized that you were the 1 and he thought that the grass was greener on the other side.... I would get back with him or her so I can broke up with him or her and then he or she will know how it feels.. Revenge is so sweet
when you're pride is hurt...

[laniathereal]

Yesterday my ex asked if I was talking to anyone and I was honest and I told him yes. He assumed I liked the guy after I repeatedly told him I didn’t. Then I panicked and asked if he wanted to meet for coffee on Sunday. He works seven days a week at a pool company so I understand he’s busy. His response was “Maybe, I have to see what’s going on.” I’m panicking because I want him back but I’ve worked so hard. Thirty days no contact, improving myself, and I don’t want my hard work to go to waste! HELP! I need advice

[lovaboo]

I dont want my cheating narcissist husband back

[jolenecole]

Hell no. At first, when we were dating, he was good, and treated me well. After we got married, he became controlling, narcissistic, manipulative, and basically demanded that he be treated like a king when he never gave me reason to. All take, no give. Daily he went fishing or to his friend's house or to "help his cousin" (which for him meant getting money from his cousins dad and running to the casino), and would be gone LITERALLY all day. Gone all day until about 1-3 AM, a few hours in the basement after getting back home, then come to the bedroom and beg for sex (fall asleep or go back to the basement if I was asleep), and then the same cycle day in and day out. Then after filing for divorce, we did try reconciling. He took my phone at every notification tone "to make sure it wasn't another guy messaging me", he checked every incoming call, he wouldn't allow me to call out (if I needed to call someone, he would dial the number then hand me the Since July 2017, he has been in jail 3 times for not leaving me alone (he's in jail right now, but not about me, its because he was caught trying to sell marijuana). His ass can rot in jail for all I care.

[maureenangeo]

It’s been almost three weeks and he’s been flirting to other girls via IG two days after we broke up, he doesn’t contact me but asks of me to our mutual friends. He doesn’t check my IG posts but still follows me . I want him back .

[gabbieorito]

Adam's so cute... haha... learned a lot from your videos... keep it up!!!

[anitasnider]

I broke up with him because there was a lot of things that I dident want in my relationship.. Cheating, lying ect.. And now 8 months later he says he misses me and is trying to get himself together even putting himself in rehab for his drug problem... I don't think I could ever look at him the same way after what he did...I do still love him, but things will never be the same...don't know what to do with that..but I refuse to be manipulated like he was doing before and keeping me a big secret so any ideas any advice would be helpful

[ИннокентийСнюс]

the funny thing is that actually 2 years ago my man broke up with me because i lied to him a lot. now i don’t lie at all, i became more sane and happy, i date with another guys, but i still want that guy back like crazy. i do nothing to show him that i want him back - we are not in touch. i just think about him every freakin day and suffer, cause i know, that i will never find a man like this. help?

[whitneylainewestbrook]

My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me abruptly even though we had a blast always and were continually growing. We broke up a week after our 6 month anniversary and it was because he said he said he was starting to feel too strongly and couldn’t stop thinking about me. He texted me a month after to let me know he was taking me off his Amazon account but hasn’t yet and has left things at my house and it’s been 3 months. He’s found ways to get closer to me physically but he hasn’t texted me since. WTH. I expect to hear from him in a month most likely. They all come back

[ourhomeadventure]

How do you get them back when they are ignoring after you needed to have a serious conversation

[septemberdawnluketz]

The one that wants me back is not someone I want back! I wish he would get over me because I've already moved on. I left him for a reason!

[tammyb]

With my guy for two months and we broke up due to long distance. Tried to talk to him, he wasnt interested and now he is and wanting to be friends. I asked him twice and now i gave up and. Now he is asking me??? Just playing with my brain so whatever I'm over it.

[susanmoses]

Some guys have females in a Circle that the females don't know about each other, eventually he will try to chose that is if he don't get caught and sometimes its hard for him to chose cause of the different personality each female have that attracts him, this is where the games and manipulations comes in . So if he left you and wants you back it's only because he made a wrong choice and does not want to lose you to another man if he was pleased with the other person he would not of come back to you . I will not go back to that cause he can do it again plus that is time and energy you cannot get back .