Stop Saying Things That Make You Weak | Jordan Peterson | Powerful Life Advice

"You're not doing this in order to put yourself down. You're doing this in order to separate the wheat from the chaff, and to leave everything that you don't have to be behind."

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➤➤Speaker:

Jordan Peterson

➤➤Video Sources:
Biblical Series VII: Walking with God: Noah and the Flood (corrected) by Jordan B Peterson

➤➤Music:
"Memories" by Whitesand

➤➤Editor:
WordToTheWise

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Transcript (partial):
I started to pay very careful attention to what I was saying. I don’t know if that happened voluntarily or involuntarily, but I could feel a sort of split developing in my psyche. I’ve actually had students tell me that the same thing has happened to them after they’ve listened to some of the material that I’ve been describing to all of you. But I split into two, let’s say.

One part was the old me that was talking a lot, that liked to argue, and that liked ideas. There was another part that was watching that part, just with its eyes opened, and neutrally judging. The part that was neutrally judging was watching the part that was talking, and going, that wasn’t your idea; you don’t really believe that; you don’t really know what you’re talking about; that isn’t true. I thought, hm! That’s really interesting! That was happening to like 95 percent of what I was saying, and then I didn’t really know what to do. I thought, ok, this is strange. Maybe I fragmented, and that’s just not a good thing, at all. It’s not like I was hearing voices, or anything like that.

So then I had this weird conundrum: which of these two things are me? Is it the part that’s listening and saying, no, that’s rubbish; that’s a lie; you’re doing that to impress people; you’re just trying to win the argument. Was that me? Or was I the part that was going about its normal, verbal business? I didn’t know, but I decided that I would go with the critic. And then what I tried to do—what I learned to do, I think—was to stop saying things that made me weak. I mean, I’m still trying to do that. I’m always feeling, when I talk, whether or not the words that I am saying are making me align or making me come apart. I really do think that the alignment is the right way to conceptualize it, because if you say things as true as you can say them, then they come out of the depths inside of you. We don’t know where thoughts come from. We don’t know how far down into your substructure the thoughts emerge. We don’t know what process of physiological alignment is necessary for you to speak from the core of your being. We don’t understand any of that—we don’t even conceptualize that. But I believe that you can feel that.

It’s a shock. You might think, well, do you really want all of that to burn off? Well, there’s nothing left but a little husk—5 percent of you. Well, if that 5 percent is solid, then maybe that’s exactly what you want to have happen.

It’s not self-destructive, because it’s like the diagnosis of an illness. It’s like, if that does happen to be the case for you, to some degree—maybe it’s only 10 percent of you, or maybe it’s 90 percent—well, then coming to terms with that is excellent, because, maybe, you can stop doing it. What would be the downside to that? You’d have to give up your resentment, hatred, and all of that, obviously. That’s annoying, because those emotions are easy to engage in, and they’re engaging, and they have a feeling of self-righteousness with them. But you’re not doing this to put yourself down: you’re doing this to separate the wheat from the chaff and to leave everything that you don’t have to be, behind.

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[tinylove]

About 13 years ago I wondered what I would sound like if I said nothing negative about anyone, any thing, any event... and I soon had nothing to say! How awful must I have been before that! More recent years have seen me try and say less negative stuff about my own self and it does feel better.

[huntstoddard]

Peterson certainly has a knack for taking away people's pacifiers. No wonder so many people hate him.

[BrownCookieBoy]

And people want to silence this genius

[DanTrustsTheFathersPlan]

That's the beauty of personal development, even though you level up, the levels to surmount are endless.

[__prometheus__]

“Trouble is more interesting than boring” I saw many “friends” I used to associate with create trouble/problems for other people to make their own lives interesting. Sad really.

[nerdly]

I experience this too. Every time I talk, I can feel myself watching and listening to what I'm saying. Most of the time I'm telling me to stop talking.

[petarticinovic]

"Leave everything you don't have to be behind."

[trublgrl]

"It's a hell of a shock to realize you're mostly dead wood." And yet, we probably recognize this fact in others very easily. You have a friend, and you know exactly how she'll react to ANYTHING you tell her? You know someone who always relates every story back to themselves, or their military service, or some celebrity they once knew? We think of those people as simple and repetitive, but we think each pronouncement from our own lips is utterly fascinating. We can't all be right.

[dominationunltd]

Battle for the mind because everything begins in your thoughts.

[dankonesovic]

We have to be careful of what we are saying, because we create our reality.

[timmychonga]

Bruce Lee said "To be honest with one's self is a difficult thing to do." If you get rid of what is not you, you can then become who you were always meant to be. It is always nice to hear these concepts put into different words, hopefully in a way that can really sink in. You just started yourself on a whole new journey Mr. Peterson, it is one worth taking. Best wishes.

[winterking]

Excellent advice. This man is a marvel in that he can make the mysterious utterly obvious, and bring the profound within easy reach.

[juibumgeilheit]

i wish i had a therapy session with him

[dollymadison]

We all fall short of the glory of God. We are commanded to "lean not on our own understanding" but rather, lean on the perfect truth of God & actively stay close to him from the moment we wake every day. I have to remind myself of this daily. Hopefully it's a good reminder to someone else, too.

[BrianCookSymbios]

I don’t remember where I heard it recently but the gist was that everything you do or say by choice is a vote for the person you will become. Do you want to be negative or even mean? Do you want to be a procrastinator or even lazy? Or do we want to “burn off the chaff”? It’s always up to us. But every choice we make moves us another step down a path.

[Tracy]

God bless you Dr. Peterson....! You've helped men so much around the world....! Fight the nonsense culture fighting against our boys and young men...! God sent.... My prayers are with you and your family always...! ❤❤❤

[headfirst]

As you grow up from infancy the people that you encounter influence you. They influence you to behave in a manner that makes them feel comfortable at the time. You get rewarded with companionship if you are successful and punished with distance if you’re unsuccessful. All these behaviors that you learned are very deeply rooted and it takes a lot of courage to cast them aside and remake yourself.

[nt]

"observing the thinker" is a powerful skill to develop.

[nerdy]

Whenever I feel depressed, I come here to watch him. His words work like an antidepressant.

[paxton]

this is why i prefer to be alone, or at the very least, with like minded people. i often find my “friends” starting gossip or just talking badly behind other people’s backs for NO reason other than their own entertainment. it sickens me and i don’t know how to get them to stop so when i’m with them and they’re talking like that, i will literally just shrug at everything they say