Women Are Finally Realizing That Dating Is Different For Men

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[ajtaylor]

I will say that sometimes people overestimate the options that they actually have, only leaving them disappointed when reality strikes.

[gr-osgd]

When realistic expectations are considered "settling", a life of disappointment awaits.

[gmoneymac]

When a man says what he wants/thinks, it's "harsh", unfair, or "could be worded better."
When a woman says what she wants, it's "slay Queen👑" or "she knows what she wants." 🙄

[USER_SVNT]

the main thing that gets me is that people don’t want to grow together anymore, they just want someone who is already at the top so they don’t have to make the journey and completely ditching “the journey is its own reward” saying. it’s people who grow together that form a solid relationship, grass doesn’t just get greener, you nurture your lawn till it grows thick and green.

[PappaBear_]

In 2024 we should all collectively get off social media and realize that it’s easier to go outside and not to be tooo picky

[ericquinones]

I used to work at this office as an Accountant, and all the married women wanted to go out with me. That schocked me and scared me at the same time because I though about myself being married one day and my wife cheating on me behind my back.

[Techathy]

My career exploded in my mid-30s. While that success gave me more dating options, those extra options were, for the most part, bad apples. To avoid that sort of person, I exited the dating market and found success by circulating within my friends' social groups.

[versaillesthomas]

The biggest disconnect is that the progressive woman still wants a man who is traditional. Either meet halfway or reset your expectations...

[gerardshort]

Men are not playing a waiting game they have just had enough and left. Women are pretending they are waiting for the 'right' man because that is far better than admitting men have rejected her.

[davidpineda]

As a broke ass single father at 31 years old. I lost absolutley all hope. I dont even bother with the idea of dating. Just focusing on my child.

[Jeremy-qlor]

No man has ever said "A woman who checks all my boxes."

[thomasclarke]

This does not even come close to capturing how much harder and more frustrating dating is for most men than it is for most women. The gap is so enormous that there is literally no way women can understand it.

[maxwillson]

The main issue I'm finding with women is that they want to spend spend spend. Men have to take the woman out every night. Men have to go on vacations often before she gets bored. This creates a negative finance loop where both partners are poor all the time and the woman is left frustrated when the marriage and children never happen. Women are wasting years and years dating men, gutting them of their finances and then wondering why the big and important things aren't happening. Meanwhile a ton of incel single men are swimming in money, buying homes doing their own thing and ignoring the dating standards because they are too expensive. Women have everything backwards, they don't want to accept the fact that a successful life is a boring life, it's mostly a routine, it's not going to be spontaneous and chaotic like a movie or TV show.

[philhamilton]

I think the approach that Courtney is reacting to highlights why many marriages fail. People expect a finished product when choosing a mate rather than truly understanding that whomever they choose will change over time.
I think the key is finding someone who has similar goals, values, who comes from a decent family (ideally, but not always) and who is or could become your best friend. Yes, you need to be attracted to this person as well. Sounds like a tall order but it requires going beyond your personal checklist of surface qualities and really getting to know the person, including their flaws.
The key is finding someone, even if they aren't a finished product, who has good foundational qualities and be willing to grow together. That's what builds a strong and lasting relationship.

[britishsouth]

5:04: Bingo! I waited to marry until I was sure I could support a family. I didn't hurt that my wife was well-educated and had a good career, but I was more interested in whether or not we could: (1) Take a 12 hour road trip in a tiny car without getting on each other's nerves. (2) Agree on child discipline and upbringing. (3) Build a house together. (4) Negotiate challenges without putting each other on an emotional roller coaster. (5) Compromise without holding anything over each other's heads. Are we both perfect at all these things, no. But still work at being better 12 years in...

[jamestaylor]

Our society is broken, it was broken on purpose & we are in a spot where it is massively risky to start a family & if you're not planning on having kids, then why get married? It's really seeming pointless now days, just build a good life & hope you can hang onto it.

[muhammadismaeeljaumeer]

If you have a girl who is loyal, mature, loving, caring, put in effort in the relationship, communicate properly and will not leave you high and dry because her fantasies are not being met, then marry her. Money and looks are not the yard standard for a healthy relationship and qualities of a parent. Be wise!

[raynor]

I remember saying this almost verbatim two decades ago when talking to a group of female med students.

These women were all fairly attractive, seemed nice enough to be around, and were going to be very successful later in life. And every single one of them could not figure out why they were still single.

So I asked them what men they were looking to date, and all of them said they wanted to date men who were fellow med students. I explained to them that these guys are highly unlikely to want a long term relationship with anyone right now, specifically because they are also going to be wildly successful and have significantly more options in their futures.

It was definitely an eye-opening moment for this group.

[bgoodfella]

Sad part is people are so messed up in the heads these days so it is near impossible to find true love.

[Nomarx]

I think that "hotness" is not the total sum of what makes beauty. Kindness, empathy, and patience are what make me feel safe enough to connect on an emotional level.