Doctor Gabor Mate: The Shocking Link Between Kindness & Illness!

0:00 Intro
03:45 🤝 How Vocalising Stress Enhances Emotional Control and Understanding
08:03 📵 Importance of Disconnecting: Mental Health and Taking Sabbaticals from the Internet
13:26 🔄 Healing Childhood Wounds: Acknowledging Unmet Needs and Self-Discovery
23:17 💡 Reconnecting with Childhood Intuition: Gut Feelings and Emotional Clarity
24:36 🧠 Gut-Brain Connection: Childhood Trauma and Grounding Techniques
27:50 🤝 Autoimmune Diseases and Emotional Patterns: Breaking the Cycle
30:57 💑 Emotional Intimacy in Relationships: Avoiding Mothering Dynamics
37:34 🤝 Suppressing Healthy Anger and its Impact on Immunity
43:43 🙅‍♂️ Trauma and Authenticity: Overcoming People-Pleasing Habits
48:41 🧠 Repressed Anger and its Link to Illnesses like ALS
49:08 🩺 ALS Patients' Niceness and its Connection to Health
52:11 🚪 Setting Boundaries: Key to Healing and Self-Discovery
01:00:46 🏥 Preventing Trauma-Related Illnesses: Addressing Emotional Needs
01:11:31 💔 Childhood Experiences and Adult Health: Heart Attacks and Strokes
01:12:28 🧠 Impact of Negative Labels on Self-Worth: Childhood to Adulthood
01:15:26 🙅‍♂️ Childhood Emotional Recognition: Importance of Self-Awareness
01:20:47 🌬️ Shallow Breathing and Chronic Stress
01:24:18 💑 Building Genuine Emotional Intimacy for Meaningful Relationships
01:34:43 🎯 Defining Goals: Work, Health, Relationships, and Emotional Wellness
01:36:06 🤔 Aligning Intentions with Actions: Strengthening Goal-Oriented Living
01:38:27 🧘 Pursuing Inner Peace: Importance of Emotional Harmony and Well-Being
01:44:41 💖 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth: Authenticity in Personal Development
01:46:56 🙏 Gratitude and Connection: Fostering Wholeness and Meaningful Bonds

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[TheDiaryOfACEO]

Probably one of the most fascinating experts I’ve ever had the honour of speaking to is back in today’s episode - safe to say my mind was blown once again. If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤ share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾

[dottiebaker]

Dr. Mate is the only man I've ever heard admit that most men want their women to accommodate to them, to be the only one who changes in the relationship, instead of taking responsibility for their own emotional development. Thank you! Thank you!! THANK YOU!!!

[mindyourplants]

I met him going through rehab in 2018 and he also interviewed us at the women's recovery house a few months later. I have read his book "In the realm of hungry ghosts" prior and that was the very beginning of my spiritual journey of recovery and self-love. Been clean and solid for 4 years now.

[Calibri]

Truth! If you can’t afford therapy, educate yourself, empower yourself. No one else will.

[JoyceHAnderson-rpbf]

I'm 80 years old and this video above just drastically changed my If I could write a thousand thank you's here I would, right now! Only recently by watching youtube videos about adhd, I've learned that I"ve had all the symptoms all my life and have carried tons of guilt because I never could "fit in" with "normal" people even though I tried so hard to. Suddenly you explained that not ever being hugged as a child, and being ignored by my parents as I grew up, and hearing the cruel arguing my parents hurt each other with, caused me to learn how to "zone out" under any stressful circumstances, and so hyperfocusing on favorite subjects also takes me away from facing head on with any perceived difficulties. I won't take time to mention all the other ADHD symptoms. Suddenly, I completely understand why I am the way I am, and that it's NOT MY FAULT! What a shock and at the same time, what a relief! Now at last I can begin healing. Whew!

[claudiahowell]

When I grew up my mother used to say children should been seen but not heard. Ugh. It has taken me most of my 74 years to speak up for myself. Thank you for your compassion.

[elainec]

If you don’t make time for wellness, you’ll be forced to make time for illness. Big part of wellness is setting boundaries.

[riellycardy]

Love his point about men looking for a mother, and then leaving women who finally stand up for themselves, to find a woman who hasn't learned to stand up for herself yet. What a great point.

[Theowlhawk]

Dr. Gabor Mate, is a human being, his humanness is raw, honest and sincere.

[jenniferfulljames]

I was taught to not speak and keep your eyes down. My mother was Cree, and we were dirt poor. My father was an Irish alcoholic who hated anyone of colour... we were beaten and scorned at school and at home. I had to find forgiveness or my life would have probably ended years ago. At 60 I can honestly say, that self love and understanding you are not your parents trauma nor their parents (as Gabor states) find peace, find balance and don't take any crap from anyone is my motto, especially after menopause! I am here for a very long time to come, I am living proof you can change your life. Think good thoughts, eat whole clean foods, sleep well and exercise, lift heavy weights and walk!!! Thanks, guys! ❤
Update 06/2024-
Since writing this, I have done some inner work and felt I need to share what I discovered. I looked in to emotions and the brain. How the past can keep you locked into negative thought patterns. Letting go of the past is pivitol to a renewed zest for life. Meditation and self compassion helped me understand that I am not my past, nor do I ever need to revisit it. Change your thoughts, change your life, you are what you think! ❤

[kays]

This session won my subscription. I had a surgery 3 months back. Immediately after my surgery, I read and listened to Gabor Mate's "When the Body Says No". I cried so deeply because his book struck my core. I understood immediately what caused my current state of being. After a time of reflection and a deep desire to heal and recuperate, I made a difficult decision to leave my work and cut down losses in my relationships. It is a deeply scary move but I felt lighter and at peace as a result.

[tambrancehuisinga]

Thank you for a fascinating conversation. Emotionally, physically and sexually abused by a parent with RAD and who was a sociopath, I am a non-smoker who at 65 was diagnosed with NSCL cancer, stage 4. The discussion and reference to NSCL cancer cancertoday rang all of my bells. I am still a “pleaser” but I have found my “voice.” And, when my date of anticipated death was pronounced by excellent oncologists, God made a way. Two ORAL medications inactivated the cancer. In May, I will have survived SIX years, instead of the few months I was given in 2018.

[rosemoon]

" we cant form healthy relationships until we have learned to be alone " so true

[hexxan]

Gabor Maté is the most profound example of a wounded healer i've ever seen. I am extremely grateful that he's been all over the place lately. His knowledge is part of what this world needs in order to be able to heal. I can warmly recommend his book "The Myth of Normal" and i am spreading copies wherever i can.
Edit: I love his wife Rae, too. She who said "Truth is sexy." Now ain't that one sexy truth! :-D

[bl]

this man always hits the nail. Not knowing to say NO has gotten me into so much trouble. I learned to say NO when I got sick and started caring for myself.

[katisugarbaker]

Dr. Mate said there is a correlation between “niceness” and cancer NOT kindness and cancer. These are 2 very very different things. One can be both nice and kind at the same time but nice is just how others perceive someone. Kind is a quality of character.

[mk]

This is so spot on, when I started to say no and stop people pleasing I thrived, I stopped getting sick all the time, and what is very interesting my StepFather died of ALS and he always dropped everything to help people and please people. This was so mind blowing to watch, when I started to think about me and what I need and stopped worrying about being liked my life honestly changed, Thank you Dr Gabor you have made me think about more growth I have todo.

[nicolemcelroy]

I love that Gabor, somebody revered for having the answers and enlightened clarity on humans deepest, most hidden issues can openly say he's just figuring life out too. Humbling, reassuring.

[johnmcgrath]

My mother was a very kind woman who lived to a healthy old age. She was also strong and capable of expressing her anger. She was also rational and well educated and used anger to put a stop to stupid, mean or unjust behavior or to get a problem out in the open so it could be resolved. For instance, she once burst into the office of the President of her huge corporation, looked right in the eye, and said, "You cheap bastard." He was startled but had the sense to ask, "What's the matter?" They had a civil rational conversation regarding the policy announced that day that a person's years of part time work would not count towards the company's pension. After their conversation there was an announcement the next day that part time work would count towards the company's pension.

[jessejules]

I was shamed by my father for being an overly sensitive child. I was abused physically and mentally through neglect and verbal abuse. UNTIL I learned through reading about psychology and self help, that my sensitivity is a gift. I think it is very important for women to familiarize themselves with terms such as 'condesention' 'shaming' 'undermining' 'gaslighting' 'standover tactics' 'dismissive' 'loaded language' 'belittling' etc, in order to challenge the attitudes and behaviors of others towards them so that they can then hold to account what is wrong in a situation, but also challenge their own internal dialogue.