Signs That The No Contact Rule Is Working On Your Ex

Signs That The No Contact Rule Is Working On Your Ex

In this video we’re going to discuss;
- The Theory Of Reactance
- They Try To Get A Hold Of You
- You Are Spending More Time On Yourself And Loving It
- They Start Paying Attention To Your Social Media More
- Other People Start Finding You Attractive
- Your Ex Is More Responsive After No Contact

This is one of the most popular questions I am asked when I’m speaking with a client or on the Private Facebook Page, so that they have some sort of enforcement to know they’re doing it right and knowing it’s going to work.

The reason the No Contact Rule works...

The Theory Of Reactance

Human beings have certain behavioral freedoms, when that freedom is taken away from us, we fight to get that freedom back. So, when you take away their freedom to speak to you, they will fight to get that freedom to talk to you back.

It is also important that when you’re doing the No Contact you take the time to cultivate your life and improve areas that you are not happy with so that when you are back in touch with your ex you are more confident and happier.

The Five Signs

Sign #1 –They Try To Get A Hold Of You
This places into the idea of where you are ignoring you and they are trying to get a hold of you and trying to get that freedom to speak to you again back. This doesn’t always happen its more of a 50/50 where some exes will reach out to friends and family to try to talk to you, and then there are others who are stubborn and wait of you to reach out to them first.

Sign #2 – You Are Spending More Time On Yourself And Loving It
I always try to explain that this works at its best if you are cultivating your life and improving your life it is a great sign that the No Contact rule is working and means it will have more of an impact. This is the most difficult aspect for clients to grasp they expect that they do nothing and that the ex reaches out for them to ignore them. No. Spend time on yourself and feel like you love yourself and enjoying spending that time.

Sign #3 – They Start Paying Attention To Your Social Media More
Using the basic social media such as Facebook, where they like and comment on photos and status updates, or you hear from your friend that they had asked how you were doing and asking what’s going on with you. This is also an interesting point where you need to be priming, where you only post certain things to your social media, as you are not allowed to speak to your ex using social media, posting what you want your ex to know about your life now to create an image of you appearing unattainable.

Sign #4 – Other People Start Finding You Attractive
This goes in tandem with sign number 3 where you are creating an image that every other man or woman wants. Other people start commenting about how amazing you are and that they want to get to know you more, your ex will also see this get jealous and realise that you are not going to wait around forever.

Sign #5 – Your Ex Is More Responsive After No Contact
So, when the No Contact is complete I recommend to my clients reach out to their exes with a certain types of messages where they get their ex to talk to them, but after a No Contact your ex will be more open to talking to you and having a conversation with you

[DarknessIsThePath]

The longer NC, the more I wonder if I want him back at all lol

[abcdefg]

I'm starting to care less and less everyday I use to be so emotional but now I see what the bigger picture is

[dannasamson]

On my 6th day of NC, my ex reached me out and told me my silence made him realized how much he was sure of himself about his feeling towards me. Men fall inlove, when us girls not around. Just make sure we created to our man more on good and positive energy when we are still together. On top of it all, love and respect yourself first.Thanks Chris for the great advise! Keep it up

[ft.janice]

girls get over and deal with their emotions first then the guy feels it, by the time he comes back im like i dont care anymore, im over it

[EmilyGloeggler]

The ex I had went no contact, and despite loving him, I decided to keep walking away and focus on healing and moving on. Good thing because eleven years later, I met a new man who is now my husband!

[lalame]

No contact made me better and peace of mind too..I don't wanna have connection with him, I think move on but first I felt in hell when I'm started the no contact but day by day I'm become ok

[chumele]

NC day 13. He told me already that he misses me and he has some doubts about the breakup. And for the last two days silence...:(

[Oluafeyijimi]

This is very true, completely true, for me anyway. My Ex and I have been separate for almost two months now and he jumped into a relationship in the first month, I felt sad and crazy but I chose to let it go and ignore things. Unconsciously I went into no contact and he has been checking my post and really following my updates. At this point I don't even want him back cause time has help me realize how childish, low self-esteemed and petty he is. It is crazy but it works.

[kevphillips]

Surely access to your Facebook is a total contradiction to no contact .

[ummee]

if he cheats on you, you don't want any sign! pls.

[frank]

1 year married, putt her son at the door because of huge problems (huge amount of parking & speed tickets, driving without proper driving licence, drugs) and she did nothing about it. She went to live with her mother. After 3 weeks NC she wanted to come get her stuff and post. I had to break NC to find a solution because I was on vacation otherwise she would have a locksmith come. She has not been able to take everything at once and her address has not yet changed. She blames me for destroying everything. I have tried to make her understand that I am not the cause of the situation but she continues to protect her son. She accepts everything from him and puts him, her and myself in even more trouble. After she toke her stuff, I remain NC. She will probably contact me again next week to get the rest of her stuff. What should I do? What attitude should I adopt now? Do I remove our wedding pictures in the living room when she comes over to get the rest of her stuff? HELP!!!

[buildingbettercommunicatio]

My ex of nine years left, two years later liked and followed me, a few days later unfollowed again I have not reached out to her. I get the sense she wants me to do the same or more.

[tessarizo]

He will be happy if no contact. because he found already..so how!

[mahamkhan]

Is it a good thing if im always been a chaser and this time im not chasing for him .?? Will it disturb him somehow and make him comeback ?

[themoonlustgoddess]

I scored 86 percent. I think I’m going for it

[Gaabbrielaify]

He just unsuscribed me from YouTube premium, that's a signal he's over me ja ja

[kasturikulkarni]

If he is also following the same method then what powerfull method can apply

[mlong]

My ex reached out after two months. But he is angry. It was a hurtful email saying he regretted our relationship but he missed me a lot. He has been with someone else now for about 4 or 5 months but wanted to be friends. I couldn't handle it and went no contact.

Why is he angry after all this time and still with her??

[fiftyshadesofme]

How does this work if they are the ones dumping you and then removing all possible means of contact.

[girlpacific]

It's not that he just watches my stories, it's that he likes all of them and all my posts. Tonight he liked and reacted with an emoji. It was only last week he cried and said a relationship with me was not what he wanted. Seems odd to immediately and continually interact even on social media with someone you JUST dumped. I would not give anyone attention or engage with them if I had no feelings and I knew they did. Watching stories maybe, but liking every one of them and now reacting.? It makes me upset because I'm trying to move on and yet here I am watching videos trying to decipher his weird ass behavior. I'm 9 days NC