Carl Jung & The Psychology of Self-Sabotage (feat. Emerald)

Why do we self-sabotage? How come that we wreck our own plans without any good reason? Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung discovered plausible answers to these questions as he became aware of a part of the psyche that he called the Shadow. We can see the Shadow as a psychological container within the realm of the unconscious. In this dark place, where the light of our conscious awareness does not reach, we store our undesirable traits.

Luckily, there are ways to stop this self-sabotage. Instead of repressing what’s in the Shadow, Jung urged us to integrate it into our personality. And we can only do this by making the unconscious conscious and discovering what’s hiding underneath. This video explores Carl Jung & the psychology of self-sabotage, featuring Emerald from The Diamond Net.

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00:00 - Intro
02:46 - Many selves
06:38 - An unwanted guest
11:52 - Unmet needs
13:23 - The solution
14:37 - Shadow integration masterclass

#carljung #theshadow #selfsabotage

[Sheepdog]

I was beaten daily by two alcoholic parents all of my young life ... the psychologic torture was worse than the physical abuse. It shaped my self image and self worth. Now, almost at the end of my life, I still suffer - never been able to reach my goals, severe depression later in life...I am damaged and never grew out of it. It shapes the world you see and how you approach others and what life hands you. Please don't beat your kids out of anger and hate, the damage you do is immense and lasts a lifetime.

[DemetriPanici]

*“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”- Oscar Wilde*

[sabrisaad]

“When you are up against a wall, put down roots like a tree, until clarity comes from deeper sources to see over that wall and grow.” -Jung

[Essuna]

I had repressed a childhood trauma that as described here sabotaged me at every turn for around 15 years, never really knew what all of it was about until finally I got the strength to bring it into my conscious mind and although it was chaotic and it left some "consequences" I wouldn't change it. My experience taught me a few things, first whatever you have hidden in the shadow will come out when you decide to face it. I went deep inside me for a year with intense meditation, exercises on consciousness, buddhist teachings etc because I wanted to face myself. I didn't knew what I had hidden, but I knew there were things hidden and in that process which was tough I managed to bring to light, overcome and integrate many of the issues I had. The trauma though was the hardest and with that came the second lesson: ask for help. We often think we can do everything on our own. And for a year I did this process all on my own, but the more I did the worst my exhaustion and mental state. It took me long to surrender and realize I had done everything I could and that for integrating this aspect of myself I was going to need help. What you need to realize is that even if you ask for help you are still the captain of the ship. No one can force you to do something you don't want to do and whoever is helping you is part of your team. Theu are not the heroes, you are. Be wise and ask for help to those that have your best interest in their hearts and don't shy away from helping yourself from different areas. I saw a psychologist, a psychiatrist and alternarive therapist and it gave me a wholeness in my healing. And third treat whatever shadow aspect, whatever demon you are facing not with anger or fear, not as an enemy, but as an ally and a friend who has been deeply hurt. Treat them with compassion and love. Hold them, hug them, tell them that everything will be fine and that you love and care for them because these parts of us that usually are in the shadow are the most neglected and deeply hurt parts of us. Fear will only create more conflict so will fighting them, but when you love you integrate, you heal, you overcome. Hope it is helpful to whoever needs this advice.

Edit: Hi everyone! I'm planning on creating a blog centered in mental health, spirituality and self help and wanted to know what subjects you would like to read about. I'll really appreciate it if you could give me your input, thank you.

[theunraveler]

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will forever dominate your life and you will call it destiny"

[ZafOsophy]

Everyone goes through a phase, a period of time in their life, where they want to escape, run away from reality, real life, because they have been hurt so many times, they just feel tired.

[Mopantsu]

This describes me to a tee. My life has been full of self sabotage because I could not connect with others. My lack of social skills and a traumatic past led me to isolate from society more and more to the point it has led me down a path of self implosion. Something came up in recent years that now means I have to face it head on with no means of wiggling out of it. It's basically a make or break situation and although I cannot predict the outcome I am hopeful that it leads to growth and new opportunities. It is going to be extremely painful for a period though. I am going to try and use the lessons of Stoicism to overcome it where I can. Great channel!

[Eternalised]

Reading Jung changed my whole life. No author has had such a profound impact on me. Brilliant work.

[ivygenesis]

Loved the video, I want to add one more thing though. There is no such thing as self-sabotage—every part of ourselves that appears to be sabotaging us, it is doing so because it believes their actions are in our best interest. So this aspect that is in contradiction with our ego it simply thinks that is the safest choice for us. Like the video said, it is another personality that lives within us. Its purpose is not to ruin our lives, but to keep us safe, from its own limited perspective.

[TheDiamondNet]

Thank you for collaborating with me! It’s exciting to see the finished product! 🙂

[katiemaryrose]

I find it helps to think of the shadow as childhood you, it’s like an abused child or kid that after a while started lashing out. I think of how small and young I was when the trauma happened and I would ask myself what was wrong with me that people stood by and watched and found humor in my pain. This video helps me see that the shadow is just a little kid who got treated wrong and by pushing them in the shadow all they see is the most important person turning their back on them. I see now that instead of hating the vulnerable and young part of me that got treated badly I can be that person who shows them love and support. I think about future me and how hurt I would be if future me treated me how I treated child me, if future you doesn’t support you they’ll be living with the same trauma and shadow

[TheDhammaHub]

Sometimes the number 1 priority isn't to "feel good" at the moment. Sometimes the objective is hiding a bigger pain and for that, many things will do the job (sadly)

[MF-]

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. -Carl Jung

[mitthrawnuruodo]

There’s a voice, a feeling at the back of my mind telling me I will never change, never move past my limitations. Dealing with a disorder (ADHD) has made it extremely difficult to be different. I’ve failed so many times that i can’t even imagine succeeding.

Never having what most would call a “true friend” or a relationship I feel repressed. I’m very lonely yet I can’t see being in a regular relationship because being alone is all I know. I’ve always been the black sheep, the alien that is never understood. I’ve tried to be apart of the crowd but you can’t fit a puzzle piece in a puzzle it doesn’t belong in. Half of me doesn’t even like this reality, I never wanted any of this. It’s not suicidal thinking just don’t want any part in this.

[Lovenik]

I know for a fact that we all are connected. I prayed for help and here you are. This is exactly what I needed to see. Thank you for this beautiful collaboration.

[Caseyisforeverr]

My shadow was pushing me away from being in a relationship because I wanted to be in a position where I could provide. I've never been in a relationship until I met someone that I love. Still not in a position to provide, but I now find myself being honest with myself and I see progress in my life physically, mentally, and financially making better decisions. 💕

[redtobertshateshandles]

I really had an easy childhood. My issues are trivial. It's strange how trivial things can still be a problem. To all the people who had a difficult life, I wish you all the best.

[bradywilson]

This video made this concept of "The Shadow" and how to integrate it more understandable than a lot of other videos on the subject. Thanks for making this a little more understandable.

[C.B.]

The first time that I noticed that I was self sabotaging was during a job interview. The interviewer kept saying that being fast wasn't so important as I have thought. Ever since I have grown up I have heard that I wasn't fast enough. I lost jobs because of this and even at school ( laboratory) they tried to tell me that I should take a different education. Not taking into account that my speed had to do with my form of autism. To avoid keep losing jobs I tell them about my speed problem. I didn't noticed that that was a form of self sabotaging until that job interviewer told me. Because I admit during my job interview that I noticed that I was self sabotaging she gave me another chance. I could have gotten the job. I was the first choice but didn't got because I wasn't allowed to make the required hours after a burn out/ long time liver infection. I have grown a lot since that job interview. And I have found a job after that on a production line where speeds was necessary, because the manager was willing to take the risk and looked more at the possibilities that I could give to them. ( I had an education in laboratory an experience as process operator). Now I am working at another department as an cnc operator for the same company and feel a lot better at my place. That was possible because I was honest about my intrest in the cnc field to my manager and didn't stay at what if. Self sabotaging is like being an open book but in an language you can't read. You are too honest towards others but not towards yourself.

[RealJamieBarclay]

First we supress, then we project onto others.

The bad qualities you notice and hate in others, is likely the part of yourself you're supressing.

It's time to bring those qualities of yourself to the front of your mind, acknowledge them and forgive yourself. At the time you fundamentally lacked the knowledge and wisdom to make the right decision. It's not a curse, it's a core lesson to help you become the person you were always meant to become.

You will achieve great things, I believe in you 💙