7 Things You Should Never Say To A Narcissist

Narcissists can be found all around us. We may find a narcissist at our work place or perhaps we have a narcissist mom, dad or other family member. But how do we navigate a relationships with a narcissist if we're forced to be around them? The truth is there are things that may set a narcissist off or there may be things you say or do to a narcissist that could actually make your position worse. Narcissism is difficult to understand so hopefully this video will help you better understand the narcissist in your life. If you someone you know is struggling with narcissistic personality disorder it's important you understand how they think or behave to make the best position for yourself. Narcissists have distinct traits and signs that can help us better understand how to navigate our relationship with them. And we may not be in a position to not interact, we may have a narcissist boss or friend or mother that we are forced to be around. So understanding what a narcissist is and how to navigate or deal with one is important. Let's dive into the 7 things you should never say to a narcissist. Have you said one of these things? How did they react?

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[AlisaGhanayem]

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

[FeminineLady_Elaina]

My mother AND father have narcissism. My path to peace was to go NO CONTACT. I disowned them a long time ago and moved away. My life has never been happier, healthier and more stable!! No contact is key. My story with them is like a lifetime movie. 😨

[beccalovesjesus]

The number one thing you shouldn't do is call them a narcissist especially when they don't know they are a narcissist. Once they know we know who they really are, all hell is about to break loose. I wish somebody would have given me this advice when I first found out he was a narcissist.

[loser-by-choice]

"Why can't you be more like __?" Is just a shitty thing to say to anybody, truthfully.

[liviacarvalho]

The "I" strategy can backfire: they can use it later to make fun of you, like "oh there you go with your 'special needs" or "oh she needs 'time', she's a little princess" and stuff like that.I know we got to try and stay positive, but I really feel like there is no healthy way of having one or more narcissists in your life. If you have no choice, that sucks, and that's it, no bright side.

[MoonlitXMoth]

Great list. I’ve also seen this with “I don’t agree with you.” Narcissists see others having an opposing viewpoint as an attack on themselves. They think, “Clearly you must be wrong so I can be right and I will make you regret questioning me.”

[ravneiv]

Never say anything...

The only winning move is to not play.

[traceyflater]

There are no boundaries that can be set with a narcissist.

[ouchpaw]

Never been so early. Thank you Kati for providing us the resources we need to heal.

[cindyfoster]

I told the narcissistic cousin- in- law that he needs therapy. He did not take it well, to say the least.

[zael]

remember coming back from a psychiatrist appointment and not wanting to tell my mother what we talked about becouse it was personal and we can have confidentiality, I said just "we talked" and the she fucking started making a scene like "you don't need me anymore you're excluding me from your life" than I said I would buy the medication with my money becouse it's important for me to do it by myself and then she cried over it saying I was humiliating her saying I don't need her money, I never said it, she hates boundaries and now I'm identifying a pattern on her behavior and planning on going no contact in the future, she traumatized me so much

[MajorDektarev]

Had a narcisstic boss in my last company. He drained every energy out of me. I was so unsure and mental down, i did not see problems around me aside from his toxic, which he told is my fault. My beloved cat was sick, and i did not see it in time. Putting him down cause of this was the most devestating thing i ever faced, as i am very introverted and he was very important for me. I left my company, even i got no other job and do not know how to handle the costs of my house, but otherwise i would have done things. Everyone, left those toxic relationships, it doesn´t matter if in job or private.

[nataliehelmig]

I think traits of narcissism run in my family and it's stressful and worrying.

[bernhardgro]

Great video but the big lingering thought I had throughout all this is I really don't want to deal with such a person, I'd just ghost and avoid them entirely.

[peri]

Having two people in my extended blood family that are this way, I thoroughly enjoyed this. From my experience with them, you are right on in what you say.

[johnny]

My father is a narcissist, even at age 33 he ruins my self esteem.

[jeanphilpot]

I have a sister in a group home that is a narcissist and very verbally abusive. She hates it there, but is there for a lot of reasons. Have had to stop talking to her on the phone because of the abuse. I’m 70 now and just can’t take it. It’s so awful.

[monikalojas]

Kati could you please make an episode about dark empaths and what say or not to say to them? I'm a huge fan of your content. You're a life savior for many rushing thoughts amd rough days.

[mangantasy]

My sister to some degree, but especially my father have narcissistic tendancies. Hearing your phrases better NOT to tell them, and having them in mind, I could allways be like "oh yes, don't need that drama" in imagining how they would react. No fun. My father is by far the worse of the two. Allways pushing me down, allways angry. And boundaries! Totally hates when he gets them or feels his are not respecting, but completely tearing those of others down and doubling down on them in the process. Also cut ties with by now his entire family except me (bc I have issues and am overly tolerant) and his oldest brother (but lately reduced contact from little to almost none with him as well), and of cause he is never the issue or to blame. It's really exhausting to interact with him. I'm allways on the edge around him. I don't think I've ever even see him pretend to apologize. He's never to blame, so he why should he. My fault to feel hurt in the first place....
Miy sister too, but it has gotten way better with her since we both had our own homes and were not forced to live under the same roof any more. Years ago. And even more when she had her first child (2 by now. My dear and only nieces. I'm 37f)
Definitely good advices at the end.
Thanks for the video.

[stephb]

Thank you so much for this!! I have said all of these things at one time or another when dealing with family members with these tendancies. I have lately come to regret it. This is vital information that I will definitely remember and use going forward.