When He Doesn't Want a Relationship - Do This - Peter Pan Syndrome

I really like you, but I’m not ready for a relationship right now. We have so much fun together, but I don’t want anything serious. Let’s just hang out and have fun. Sound Familiar?

Those words are difficult and painful to hear from someone you really like. Especially if you want to be in a relationship. It leaves you disappointed and unsure of how to respond. Should you continue to see him or walk away? Is he just not that into you, is he confused, or Does he have Peter Pan syndrome?

I’ve got to say.. this is a difficult spot to be in… it really does suck when you were hopeful about a potential relationship… looking forward to exploring possibilities with someone…. And then they tell you they aren’t sure if they want to be in a relationship right now. Nevertheless, they still want to hang out with you… just nothing serious, right?

Of course, you’re going to be wondering.. is it me? Does he just not want a relationship with me, or does he not want a relationship with anyone? Is he confused about you, does he want the best of both worlds, or does he have peter pan syndrome? Having a better idea of what’s really going on will help you make your decision regarding what you want…

Guyys who are affected by Peter Pan Syndrome tend to be afraid of committing to a relationship, taking that relationship seriously, getting engaged, chasing after a career, leaving their comfort zone, or taking on any real responsibility. Instead, they rely on acting young, crazy, careless and/or afraid for as long as they possibly can.

So, if you recognize that he’s peter pan… what can you do?

Well, first, don’t try to fix them. afterall, you didn’t break them in the first place.
you cannot save a man from PPS, he must learn on his own and find his inner motivation. And Some men will not grow out of this for a long, long time.. so do yourself a favor and exit the relationhip gracefully.

But what about if it isn’t peter pan syndrome? What if he’s super successful and responsible in all other areas of his life.. great job.. accomplished academically… responsible.. and shows mature responsible behaviors in all other areas of his life? Or perhaps he has a solid history of long term relationships… then what? He tells you that he’s unsure and not ready for a relationship..

And lastly, Know that rejection does not mean you are not good enough. If For whatever reason, you were not right for someone else. That decision is up to them. It is easy to get hung up on the “whys” behind their decision, but dwelling on them doesn’t change the reality. If you aren’t right for someone else, That MEANS they aren’t right for you. Move on and let them go. And Do not use the experience as proof that you aren’t good enough. Meeting a person that’s not right for you.. a person that is not a good match is not a reflection on you… Period.

I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello, a psychologist and dating and relationship expert and author of Dating 3.0: Finding Love in the Age of Social Media and the Smart Phone.

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[cicikizable]

Never ever let a man tell you that he doesn’t want you.. twice.

[lavalampazzz]

When a man says he's not ready or interested in a relationship with you, then he is not ready/interested in a relationship with you. Believe him the first time, don't stick around trying to change his mind. When a man wants you, you'll know. He'll go out of his way to keep you. So when he says he is not interested in a relationship, take him for his word and LEAVE. Also be thankful he was honest. A lot of men will string you along for months or even years. So be thankful and move on.

[okcatalina]

They don't want to date you but also don't want anyone else to have you

[NyanKittyKawaii]

Sometimes its better to lose interest and let them come back wondering why you’re not giving them what they want

[duchessnoel]

If he doesn’t want a relationship with u, leave him. There will come a person who wants u without u having to work for it. Ladies stop working hard for a toxic relationship coz this is what u r getting urself into

[cassandramayse]

Girls, if he says this believe him. If you want to hang out just as friends, fine. But don't do that thinking he is going to change his mind. Live your life & see other people.

[dewdrop]

I believe that if someone tells you "I don't want a relationship right now", that means they aren't interested in you. They want a relationhsip alright, just not with you.

[DeMeNtDxPeAs]

Relationships like that make me want to go out there & focus on my future instead. Too many guys like this out there.

[ChilliBibi]

Rejection does not mean that you're not good enough!!! ❤

[iamsofia]

If he doesn't want a relationship, respect his choice and move on.

[omowateverable]

When he doesn't want a relationship, do this; dump his ass and find a man who appreciates your worth. Period💁‍♀️

[Blessingmukoro]

You will always appear needy n desperate until u learn how to love yourself, care for yourself and make you happy by yourself.
No one can truly make you feel truly happy except you.

[TheNikhyta]

When he doesn’t want a relationship : leave!!! Wtf..

[xfaroutzx]

This can all be avoided if people are upfront from the start. Date with intention. Know yourself and what you want. When you engage with men, be honest from the start that you're only wanting to connect with people who are looking for a relationship. The right guy will also be looking for a serious relationship and trust me, when he comes along, you won't need to say anything, he'll be pursuing you hard.

[kathymchale]

don't open your legs until he opens his heart

[angelinaz]

He is just not that into you. Period. :-)

[iyka]

I just dumped him yesterday. I cant take this one sided feeling. He wanted us to be as friends (fwb) and he cant lose me either... but im relief cos Im free now :)

[NyanKittyKawaii]

Its funny because when I lost interest in a man who I wanted to be serious with after her told me this.... he ends up telling me he loves me but it’s already too late. Lol

[CallMeAutumn]

Just watching this now, but this is how I handled a FWB a couple weeks ago. Told him I cared about him, wanted him to be happy but also wanted to be happy myself, and that I needed to be honest with my needs and remove myself from his energy so I could find someone who could reciprocate my feelings. It hurts, but I am glad I walked away.

[RealDealHorsemanship]

If it's not a heck yea, it's a no.