You have to TEACH people how to FEEL about you: the essence of game

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When people first meet you, they look to you to teach them about how they should feel about you. This is because, it's actually fairly difficult for most people to make up their own minds: so they're going to need your help. This is your opportunity! The key to getting people to feel positively about you is to imagine that you are world's greatest vacuum cleaner salesman. I'll explain what that means in this episode.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

When people first meet you, they look to you to teach them about how they should feel about you. This is because, it's actually fairly difficult for most people to make up their own minds: so they're going to need your help. This is your opportunity! The key to getting people to feel positively about you is to imagine that you are world's greatest vacuum cleaner salesman. I'll explain what that means in this episode.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #confidence

[IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

Guys. If you trick someone into buying you don’t be surprised when you get tossed in the trash when they find out you aren’t what was promised. Focus on continually developing yourself to stay ahead of the market. The product will sell itself as long as it is visible in comparison to the competitors.

[daktraveler]

Act like a person worthy of respect and you will get it. Treat people the way you want to be treated. With respect.

[animaiscool]

“Understand who your customers actually are and practice indifference to the opinions to those that aren’t in your client base” this is a great statement. Looking at myself as a business helps out a lot and gives me focus

[milkywaypride]

When a woman says “ he ain’t got no game” she’s really saying he’s not good at convincing me (manipulating me) into why I should consider him.

[mdhazeldine]

I've always found sales a struggle. As a customer, I have an inherent distrust of sales people because I know they're obviously not going to tell me about the products flaws, so I prefer to do my research, look at reviews, compare specs and get recommendations. So I feel like whenever I am trying to sell myself, whether it be in my business or with women, that they are thinking the same kind of things that I would be.

[umvemnyama]

I use to get more success socially when I cared about how people perceived me. Now that I don't, people are attracted to my mysteriousness (because I keep to myself), but they don't stick around for very long or don't even approach but just look at me a lot (girls are notorious at this). I think because of my closed off demeanour, I have communicated that I'm unavailable which leads to less people approaching or even engaging in contrast to when I was open and putting myself out there. I find that people even put up tough exteriors because I'm intimidating to them. I certainly see the value in putting yourself out there and presenting yourself in an ideal way but also authentic to you. I just don't think I have it in me to care if I'm accepted or desirable anymore. What matters now is that I connect rather than have a lot of options socially. This is especially true when it comes to dating. I guess the moral of my comment is that sometimes you mature in a way that teaches you that you don't actually like a lot of people and that's okay; so you don't have to "sell yourself". Living the way you want is enough to attract people and those who stay are those you should care about anyway.

[Manuelandressantos]

I love the way he articulated the idea of no good or bad just features. Reminds me of Socrates quote “All things are indifferent, good and evil exists only in the mind.”

[Razorwind]

People used to not buy my vacuums because they were, to be honest, not that valuable. But then I put effort into re-design, upgrades, and user features. Salesmanship and confidence are helpful for sure! But the most important thing is that your product is ACTUALLY GOOD. Then it starts selling itself 💛

[markrcca]

I did some of this when I came to the United States as a teenager from Eastern Europe. I read the book "How to win friends and influence people", which gave a lot of similar advice. Good book, I highly recommend it. It certainly helped a lot with basic communication with native-born Americans, but it didn't make me into some kind of social butterfly or pickup artist.. In the end, I'm still much more comfortable and successful interacting with people from the same region of the world as I am.

[Dora-wcbe]

Once trust is broken with someone, it can never be regained. The sole reason is fear. The fear that will happen again restricts us from trusting others again. When someone breaks our trust many of us appear to be calm, but 'just appear' somewhere deep inside there is restlessness, the battle going on between heart and brain, and we let the brain overpower. Trust has to be earned, its not something you just do. Thanks.

[johnpatterson]

“You have no obligation to help her reject you”. Great line.

[mikepaulus]

At 24 I walked into a Navy recruiting center. The recruiter offered to answer any questions I had, but said as little as possible. He knew that I was already over 90% sold on the Navy. He couldn't talk me into it, but he didn't need to, he could easily talk me out of it.

[yzma]

A man’s energy tells me everything. It does NOT matter what he looks like. If the energy is off, I now listen.

[antispectral]

I‘ve found that the less I try to sell myself, and the more I try to think like a woman, and connect deeply with them, the more successful I’ve been and the more authentic my relationships have been.

I’ve been with scores and scores of women, but never made it a point to dress up, wear a nice watch or fragrance, etc. I’ve never owned a car worth more than $5k. I wear the same color green t-shirt wherever I go. I own 10 of them. I wear the same model of shoes. I have a distinct style and none of it really feels like “trying”. I just focus on connecting to the woman INSIDE the woman and awakening her emotions.

I’m afraid if I were to try to sell myself like a salesman, I’d attract the completely wrong women.

[Robbyrool]

Older models can be less desirable to some people, who want new, but MORE desirable to others, who prefer classics. Often, newer products are not made as well, lower quality. They don’t make ‘em like they used to. Same is true of people. Don’t feel like being older is worse. Depends on the other person. Some prefer the wisdom and work you’ve done to improve your personality. They don’t want a millennial. Others do. Don’t worry about those ones.

[JohnSmith-bhum]

Sell your product like you believe in it. Even when you dont. And when you dont believe in it, work on yourself until you do.

[Khan-rzqi]

This is going to sound insane, but as a man you can only acquire the confidence for true game by accepting your inherent power over women with no shame and see yourself as superior. The twist here is that you must also treat women with love and understanding their mindsets and emotions. You can’t allow your brain become too misogynistic because it’s going to mess up the balance. At that stage spitting game to even 9s and 10s is gonna be light work because you’ll see yourself as inherently better than all women. Men only fall short with game because they view women as above themselves and as creatures that have to be constantly catered to. The Key is; Dominance, Understanding the female mind and body, while simultaneously showing them love and genuine appreciation. And remember, don’t let total misogyny overcloud your brain, because you won’t be able to authentically pull it off.💯💯

[grinningchicken]

Yes. As a sales guy this is all facts. Present your product confidently tell a story sell the sizzle not the steak overcome objections before them present themselves have confidence in the pricing and the close is easy.

[CelesteHolographic-ulce]

I’ve taught people how to feel about me unconditionally lovable, generous, open minded, creative