Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat?

This week, I answer some very important questions that I continue to hear from those who are trying to heal and wrap their minds around infidelity. Why did they do it? Did they love me to begin with? Why would they risk it all for someone so unattractive? These questions (and many more) plague the betrayed spouse. Without help comprehending the self-deception of the unfaithful, life after betrayal can be excruciating. Today, I’ll explain answers to these tough questions.

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[JakiOkay]

They care more about the “Lump” of what they’re getting in the moment rather than the “sum” of what they’re losing. Breaks down to pure selfish behavior.

[valerieatkins]

Low self esteem, lack of empathy and selfishness

[Jeradactile]

About to hit 3 years since D-Day. This time of year has been hard, but it’s no longer crippling. Thank you for all the help and the videos. I often wondered if my wife ever loved me, but I now believe that it was that she didn’t love herself. It has been a long road, but we are healing.

[AL_FARID_]

My goodness
TOP 3 videos OF THE YEAR
Where would we be without your videos
All the best to everyone for 2021

[nembree]

My husband told our boys that the ow "makes him happy." Of course we all know that will not provide long term happiness.

[glorialopezlara]

My ex-spouse cheated with my sister-in-law. No remorse. No desire to repair. No care. Not one "I'm sorry" uttered. He changed from sweet and humble to cruel and malicious within 2 months. Walked out and just said "I'm done" didn't even bother to take all his things. Shut me out 100%. And, even started telling me "I had actually considered canceling our wedding." After being together over 14 years, married 6. Why??? Explain that please. Betrayed my brother and me. Shallow is right. He has left me confused at what love means and what marriage is worth. I tried so hard to make him see how much I love and value him, but walking out was so easy for him.

[ruelfunelas]

Wow!!..this is powerful! Thank You!
Worth listening over and over again!!

[michellemattson]

Love for them is selfish and they used others to feel good about themself. When you no long of use to them they more on. Love is just a tool to create a face of self esteem so others cant see their lack of Integrity.

[tamikawoody]

It’s kind of hard to hear when everything they do just shows how selfish he is and even now it shows that he only cares about saving face and not taking full responsibility. He has done everything listed from minimizing gaslighting shifting blame and lying. So now I’m at the point that even if he dose tell the truth I don’t know if it is the truth. So much damage has been done On his end that I’m not even sure what I’d the truth anymore or who he really is!

[mkyrene]

Thank you very much.
This is deep and truthful in so many ways....

[marilynh]

Excellent content. Very insightful into the whys. Thank you.

[kimrisnear]

They might care about you but they dont love you. You dont cheat on someone you love.

[philc.]

So good. this summarized most of the major points in a short 16 minutes that you and Samuel spent in so many hours of videos.

[joannechung]

Thank you Wayne for this very helpful advice. I’m praying that God will help to restore our marriage.

[carlousmagus]

You can cheat on someone you love and take for granted, but you can't cheat on someone you respect and no you can't take for granted without catastrophic consequences.

[jayt]

So my misses cheating on me for months in an affair, then left me for an affair partner. She then split up with the affair partner and now wants to make it work with me….did she love me whilst cheating on me and then deciding she doesn’t want to be with me?

[Sassylarita]

My ex husband wanted it so much, he married the OW two weeks after our divorce. We were married 25 years. He met her at the church we attended. They started the affair and claimed God told him I was going to die and he was to marry her. She said God told her the same thing. Eight years later, I’m still alive. I’ll never get over it. He was the love of my life, but obviously, I meant nothing to him.

[brookescott]

"When they"FALL" into that!?

[Review-This]

I cheated on my wife and I don’t understand why because we had an amazing marriage for 11 years. I cheated with her best friend and I take full responsibility of my actions the guilt I have is so painful. I just watched this video with my wife and she said this guy it’s just making excuses to justify cheating? I’m just researching to try to find the reason because I have no clue why and she needs to know why I did what I did.

[lbc]

What is the title of the video about justifications that you referred to in this video?