She rejected his proposal

[Madcatz]

But she is still in the relationship for TEN YEARS! This makes no sense, she should have cut her losses long ago.

[lenniegodber]

So she rejected a proposal because he took too long … and yet she stayed in the relationship why exactly? If marriage was the goal then surely she would have got tired of waiting and left him before now. Her position is complete idiotic

[specs]

Hard disagree.

She was also apart of that 10 year relationship. Instead of these so called "hints" she could have been an adult and told him that she wants a husband. They could have communicated intentions and desires much better, but she was also apart of the "waiting"

She chose this as well

[ronyerke]

Wait. She waited 10 years so she could spite him with a "no"? Talk about sinister. She wasted 10 years of HIS time, too.

[robertwolfgan]

But then why was she still there as the girlfriend if she wasn't already happy with that relationship they had going? I don't get that one part

[Freedomrange]

I disagree with Brett on this. If the girl wanted to get married and he was taking too long, then she should have left him long ago. To invest that much time, and she ends up saying no is stupid and a waste of ten years.

[TheRealSeawice]

Stuck around while her alleged desire to get married wasn't being met, but then dips when it is? L take.

[mrcurtis]

I’m glad I’m not the only one that thought. “wait a minute, she rejected the proposal, but she stayed in the relationship.”

[jhawkkw]

Brett is way off on this one. It makes no sense to stay in the relationship hoping for an engagement & marriage to only reject it once presented with it. If she passed her breaking point of it being too long, she should have ended the relationship and saved both of their time.

[DanteBrian]

No, it does not make sense, Brett. Ten years?! Granted he could have proposed sooner; but why the hell did she stay that long?! Was she waiting for him to propose just to say no? Those years are gone/wasted whether she stayed in the relationship or accepted the proposal anyway. She bears some responsibility for her unhappiness too.

[Mr_Wavy]

Absolutely an atrocious take Brett! If she didn’t want to marry him after 10 years why even stay in the relationship and waste both of their time

[frankzed]

How the heck does it make sense? She stayed. For 10 years waiting for this proposal only to turn it down? That’s stupidity.

[jannifercopley]

She wasted his time too. They are two sides of the same coin.

[kalea]

This is the first time I actually disagree with Brett. If waiting 10 years was such a crucial detail for her, she wouldn’t have done it. This was a conversation she should have had with him years ago; this is not an epiphany you have post proposal. I think she was looking for an out and this was her pathetic excuse.

[RosieWolf]

I get it, honestly if a guy took 10 years to decide if I was good enough I probably wouldn’t want to get married to him either, but if she felt that way, she should’ve left him before it got to this point. Or had a serious conversation with him about when he would be willing to commit. Dropping “hints” isn’t enough. 10 years into a relationship is far too long to still be dancing around the subject like that.

[thebirdintern]

So if he never proposed, would she have just stayed? Neither of these people are making rational choices.

[sarahd.]

My boyfriend just proposed to me this July of 2024 after 10 long years… and I cried and said yes… 👀 I mean what else should I have said!? My heart was already settled down for a lifetime with him. God worked on both of us to glorify his Name and I’m gonna say no? … I truly don’t get it. It’s not about the proposal, it’s about the journey, the growth and the beauty of overcoming and staying together. We need to mandate classes on marriage!!

[RoastOfEmpires]

sometimes it's not a question of whether or not someone is wife material, but rather the man feels ready to provide for that woman.

[ujjwalvikramsingh]

This is the dumbest logic I've ever heard.

[jnll]

She is responsible for sticking around 10 years. Some men take advantage, some are trying to build a solid foundation, and some are just oblivious. But we are EACH ONE OF US responsible for our own choices, and she stayed with him all those years. This did not make any sense to me at all. Sorry, Brett.