Why Guys Don’t Ask Questions

[therockdolphin]

Guys will litterally spend entire friendships with people never knowing the name of their friends. We just don't like to ask

[mitchhaelann]

"If it was important, they would have told me. They didn't tell me, it's not important. Moving on."

[tahroo]

My girl and I had this experience... she asked why I didn't ask more about it.. and I said "If I asked questions, I would know more than I want to know about the situation I don't really care about."

Took her most of the day but she realized "You asked me a lot of questions when we met."

"Yes I did, hun. I wanted to know more because I cared."

[brechlin]

"I didn't ask because it's not my business" is my personal go to for why I don't ask questions.

[mattc]

'I once worked with a man for 3 years and never knew his name. Best friend I ever had... We still never talk sometimes.' -Ron Swanson

[sc]

The important questions were answered as far as most men are concerned. As men we feel a lot of things are implied. 1) Dale is unlikely to die because the caller would have said so. 2) I don't need to do anything the caller would have said so. 3) This was a courtesy call so I wouldn't worry if I heard Dale was in the hospital from a second hand source such as tv or co-worker or friend of a friend.

[codypaniwozik]

As a guy I really appreciate how well you understand men. Now, if only there was a way to get my wife to sit down watch all of your videos and take notes.

[Whatisright]

That’s exactly how I think. If it’s important, someone’s gonna say something. But also, Dale is not dead or dying because that information would have come. We can also infer from the way we’re told something if we need to ask questions. Like if someone is distraught, freaking out or excessively excited or anxious. How we are told matters.

[drl]

"My buddy Joey's getting a divorce"
"Oh my god, what happened?"
"I don't know"
"What do you mean you don't know? Was he cheating on her, was she cheating on him?"
"Again, I'm not holding anything back here, i dont know"

And it finally occurred to me why she wants the details. She doesn't care about Joey. She's going to go tell another woman and they want the details. -Bill Engvall

[RobGcraft]

“How do you not know?!”

“Less chance ill testify in court”

[camendiv]

Exactly! If I NEED to know the details, someone will tell me because they expect me to DO SOMETHING about it. If they don't feel the need to tell me anything, it's not my business to ask. It's called respect.

[sonyyung]

Please note this does not always apply to every community. Cause in the Black community, when some bs goes down, they'll interrogate worse than the police sometimes. "Where tf was you at? WTF was you doing? Why tf you aint call me?". Most times its all love though lol😂.

[Psilo-gnsx]

Lmfao, I called my Dad from the hospital after a car accident. I tell him "I was in a car accident, I'm ok, it wasn't my fault". I just hear a big breath and, "ok" 😂

[boxofrox]

You know what they say “What I don’t know, I can’t testify in court.”

[John-Jay-Allen]

The line by the comedian Bill Engvale said it best;”Women are always about DETAILS DETAILS DETAILS!

[Jm-s]

Also, sometimes we just don’t care. So we don’t bother asking. It’s the opposite of many women who also don’t care, but feel obligated to get all of the details out of the person they are talking to. But only because then they can be the one to tell everybody else.

[Michael-gdop]

Haha, I've got the best version of this story.
I was out with friends and partners at a pub when I was living in Ireland. One of the guys' best friend was at the hospital with his pregnant partner who was in labour. A call comes through, and he goes, "I've got to take this call." He comes back after 20 mins.
GF: "How is everything?"
Him: "Oh yeah, they're all fine and healthy."
GF: "What did they have?"
Him (looking a bit confused): "A baby."
GF: "Was it a boy or a girl?"
Him: "Oh, I don't know."
GF: "How do you not know?"
Him: "Well, he never told me, and I never asked."
GF: "What did you talk about then?"
Him: "I asked how they were doing, and he said everyone was all fine and healthy, then he wanted to know what had happened in the footy and what everyone was up to."
GF: *look of complete bewilderment

[xanmal]

It's really simple. Men have a 3 step solution to life.

Problem - can you do anything about it?

Yes - get more details and fix problem
No - ignore it and wait for more information when you can solve it.

Rinse, repeat

[jakeofalltradesmusic]

Agreed, it feels like an interrogation, because more often than not, at least in my experience, when she asks those questions, they’re almost always in the most accusatory tone possible, as if whatever happened was somehow my fault, and answering a question inevitably leads to some accusation or blaming and cutting me down as a person. So it’s better to say nothing.

[charllectric]

Things that just do not happen ever:

A woman asking "innocent" questions with no second intentions.