Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Parents Reluctant To Accept Autism

This week I discuss instances in which parents are reluctant to accept when a kid is Autistic

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[Holzider]

the part about feeling like something is wrong with you for not being responded to well... wow i felt that one. undiagnosed autism can be traumatic in this society.

[flyingfalcon]

It's been over ten years and my father thinks it's BS and my mother will not used the forbidden word autism. She will only use the obsolete and no longer in use word Aspergers.

[bbyskittles]

When I was younger, if I were to say that I had a friend with autism, my mom would just say ok (but she would be secretly concerned), and my grandmother would have told me that I should probably stay away from that person. It's sad, but it's a reality that I think a lot of autistic children and their parents deal with.

[ASDbytheSea]

Very interesting video - thank you for sharing :) We are ASD Parents but we jumped in early!

[loopduplicate]

I kinda cried at the end. Thanks Nathan for putting out all these videos for everyone

[pastichegraham]

Hi Nathan!!! :) When I Clicked On Your Video This Morning, I Saw the title of This video, and (Of Course I've watched it as Always), You Started Talking about this, I Had Flashbacks!! And, This is Probably One Of the Most RELATABLE Videos I've Came Across. And How Can I relate to the subject??? Because (To Me) this as well, also has A lot to do With Ableism, and Knowing the difference between Ableism and Motivation....Also they Feel they need to Cover the reality that they're child is Autistic. So in their Eyes, they're Not Seeing the The reality that we are Autistic, But as if they're only seeing Half of us become "As Neurotypical." Growing up, Of Course like you said it starts off as Parents thinking it's the end of the world because, They believe that their Diagnosis of Autism Can be "Fataling or (Fatal), " or that the child is fatal themselves. Fast forwarding, I Felt like I've grown up in a Mixture of Ableism and Motivation, Which Again, I'm not trying to Shame Parents or even my parents for Raising me the right way, Because They have done a great tremendous job. So it has nothing to do with how my parents raised me, it just has a lot to do more with of myself Being half Accepted And that The Autism itself only mattered to be supported or show support which also "Didn't Matter, " Because I needed to know the Normality of Expectations as I become an Adult. So, I feel like I'm just getting to know myself (Which I have been knowing myself by and, I Feel Like Everyday I'm Living Two Sides!! The Side of being Autistic, and The Side of Being Life Skilled as Me but by "Living Within the Norm." And it's Hard Maintaining Both of them every single day! But I am Getting by! There's More to all of this, BUT THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN NATHAN, FOR BEING SO INFORMATIVE, YET YOU NEVER FAIL TO MAKE ME SMILE!!! :) XD

[LeoDamascusVG]

I think sharing your diagnosis helps with this. I had problems actually getting a diagnosis, but my parents didn't struggle at all accepting my diagnosis. I think this is because my best friend growing up was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, and we knew about it and were helped to understand the ways it effected who he was. So we never saw it as something that made him "less" in any way (I always assumed it was just like an alternative type of ADD).

I think the doctors who kept refusing to diagnose me until my life was falling apart and I was too old to get help anymore were trying to protect my mom from shame. I could tell the doctor who finally *did* diagnose me was bracing when he delivered the news as if we were going to go through the stages of grief, and that he would be the primary recipient for the "anger" stage. But both I and my mom just took it like, "Oh, that makes things make a lot more sense. And now we finally have a new avenue to get help." He seemed almost incredulous that that was our reaction. But I couldn't comprehend a way being more like my best friend could possibly be a bad thing.

[ivellios_]

My ex-wife refused to accept it. When she finally started to, it made her want to end the marriage.

[nakyer]

Is that a thread or a hair on your right shoulder and the edge of your collar on that side?
I know. Not at all helpful. Sorry. I tend to want things to be symmetrical.

[wristdisabledwriter]

I think this denialist is one of the reasons there are antivaxxers. Speaking of which are you going to do one on the measles slumber parties. I’m still mad about that

[thepessimistictitan]

As I've said before most parents grieve when they are told their child has severe or low functioning autism. Very rarely do they think about aspergers which is not usually found until the child is much older. Severe autism is a serious disability that cripples one's abilities in life to put it mildly. Try to have some understanding about what these parents go through.