Dating The Bad Guy Is WAY Worse Than Women Think

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[fishjungle]

Then they want the nice guy to fix all her damage. Gentlemen, don't try to fix her.

[legaleagle]

As a "nice/boring/stable" guy now in his 50's I experienced this phenomenon a lot back in my 20's. The funny thing is that these girls' moms always liked me more than the daughters did. The moms had years of wisdom and all knew that "bad boys" lead to nowhere good. They knew that wasting time with frogs meant letting a lot of potential long-term mates slip through your fingers. But some people just have to learn the hard way. For lots of people though, by the time you learn this lesson, it is too late.

[IzRoL]

Like J. Cole said, "Don't save her, she don't want to be saved."

[deadbeatSad]

The mindset is "bad is better than boring". There's no changing that mindset. Certain people hate good because it's boring and love bad because it's active.

[RobertTaylor-gzfu]

They find nice/good guys boring, but bad boys exciting.

[stargazer]

Unfortunately women will always go for the Bad Boy or Chad in their 20"s because he sparks their emotions! The good guy is boring and safe, but doesn't spark their emotions! My sister would date and breakup with good men who had stable jobs and she would tell my mother that they were boring, but she had no problem dating ex-cons and drug dealers in her 20's. It wasn't until she hit 30 that she changed and then wanted a good man, but the good men didn't want her at that point because they considered her "damaged goods!" This is the case with many women!

[suspectv]

A prince isn't gonna be looking in the swamp for a queen.

[dovakeen]

Don't save em lads. Be her first choice or move on. If you aren't her first it will end in divorce.

[szef]

She dated a bad guy then I came along, gave her genuine love/kindness, and she ended up telling me this isn’t what she was used too. Told me she wasn’t over a dude who lied to her, cheated, and did her wrong so I walked away. It is what she was used to and what she accepts. Please don’t deal with women like this guys and if you do break the cycle.

[richardy]

I don't care. She is an adult and she made a decision. She can live with the consequences. It is not my problem. It is not any man's job to fix her bad decisions

[whitebot]

🐸 THATS CALLED TRICKLE DOWN FROGONOMICS

[ajtaylor]

The dangers of your youth is this false belief that you have all this time to have dating "phases, " but it's just not the case. Having a phase where you date crappy dudes eventually just turns into your type, so please wake up and recognize that you don't have as much time as you think you do.

[maxwillson]

It's literally no different than alcohol. At first it's fun and then it slowly starts to take over your life and next thing you know, you're wasting half your income to try and feel happy but it leaves you feeling hungover and miserable.

[vinces.]

Instead of doing inner-work to heal their traumas, they go out and get more traumas... and then blame everyone else.

[skarn]

My issue with this TikTok is the presumption that the woman is better than the frog to begin with. Some of them are swamp creatures as well, which is why they gravitate toward frogs in the first place. They are AS BAD as the "little boys" or "not real men" they date, but refuse to call themselves out as "not real women." They simply say, I made a mistake. I had bad judgement. I had not learned yet.
Men do not get to say those things.
Then, when they FINALLY learn their lesson, they wonder why the dating pool is smaller. It is smaller because most of the GOOD men took good women early.
Again, they waste their time with these "bad guys" because they are not great women either. They are not victims, they are participants.

[krisdavis]

A few weeks ago I was talking with a friend I knew from high school and got back in touch with through circumstance. We were talking and she was explaining how her last few relationships had been abusive or based around a narcissist. She was complaining that all men are like this or just the ones interested in her and I told her in all honesty she could get any guy she wants. After she listed off the very practical things she expected from a guy, I was like, you havent found a single guy who meets that standard and is interested in you? Fine, let me take you out to dinner. We went out and had a great time and she said she was looking forward to the next date, but the next day she said she wasnt ready for a relationship and wouldnt be for a long time. Fast forward two weeks and now she is dating her exes roommate. I told her I honestly didnt expect her to accept my offer for a date, I was just trying to point out that she only picks A**holes, and she's proven me right.

[Matt_is_a_Boring_Name]

I'm a 30 year old man. This is the first time I've heard women giving other women this sort of advice. It's really heartbreaking to hear. I've dated multiple women after bad relationships and, while they eventually friend-zoned me, three of them wrote me notes explaining how they feel like they have a renewed trust for men and felt like I helped them reframe their dating expectations. It's not great out there, I've learned--and continue to learn. Thanks for sharing.

[dede]

Ahh the classic bad boys aren't good for women, but women choose them anyway. A tale as old as time.

[evanragland]

The unsaid part of that video is that if a prince sees a girl dating a frog he just assumes she is into frogs and moves on.

[edinnorthcarolina--ovelhog]

This is civilization ending stuff. When I was younger, we thought that it was nuclear weapons.