What Is a FEMININE SIN? w/ John Henry Spann

[LorenzoGMP]

I honestly find all this topic about masculine and feminine sin to be completely dumb not to say toxic

[theden]

If someone close to me dies, it is perfectly natural and human to cry, not put on a face like everything is normal then go cry for myself. That is one good reason to let your children see you cry. We are all normal humam being with feelings...your overthinking this masculine stuff. Just be normal, and i think most of us know what that looks like

[TheNystedt]

If you want to call gossip a sin, I agree, but I'm not sure why we need to label it a "feminine sin." When it comes to men showing emotion or crying, I'm sorry that makes you uncomfortable, but it's NOT a sin, and it's healthy to show emotion and let it out. The goal with that is not to remain in a state of frayed emotions, but to get it out so you can heal and move on. Stop shaming men for it and telling them to bottle it up or hide it in front of others, that's so unhealthy both physically and mentally..  
I grew up in a very traditional household with a traditionally masculine father who I love very much. He's never shown much emotion, but recently, he's been going through prostate cancer treatment, and the hormones he's been prescribed have made him more emotional than I've ever seen him. At first, I thought it was weird and even found it uncomfortable, but now I see it as such a blessing because he's been opening up more in general, getting teary eyed while talking about passed loved ones, and he feels more comfortable discussing his own mortality and how he wants to be remembered. You guys seem to think that hiding grief and sadness, and hiding it from your kids, equals a strong man, while showing emotions in front of them is weak. Emotions are completely natural for both men and woman, and all this does it teach children that emotions are something to be ashamed of, while failing to show them how to properly deal with them at all.

[thatsfunny]

Ironically, some of the biggest gossips I've ever known have been trad Catholic men. I'm not sure why.

[CaesarConsuloProVita]

This Alpha Cult Nonsense has got to end. It is ridiculous. No man worth his salt….lets other men tell him how to feel and when to feel it.

[mugsymitchell]

Christ wept publicly. Maybe this is a difference circumstance but I don’t see how men crying is a feminine sin.

[meganhaskins]

Hi. I have heard y'all make this point a few times now and I find this position to be a bit odd. Especially with the examples you provide about the differences in male and female sin.

With the female, you bring up fornication (mortal sin) and with the male you bring up crying/being too emotional (not necessarily sinful) or gossip (not mortal sin to my knowledge).

I don't think we are comparing apples to apples here and it comes off to me as pharisee-like condemnation instead of encouragement for repentance. Kind of like when the pharisees dragged the adulterous woman through the streets to Jesus to condemn her...

I love your channel, but this has bothered me. Thank you

[DominicMazoch]

Last week Mother N in her reflection talked about getting on a ladder to clean gutters. No one complained about her doing so called, "men's work".

[gavindoughty]

St. Augustine is famous, in his Confessions, for experiencing a sort of inner agony upon the death of his mother, St. Monica, because he had an impulse to weep over her passing, but felt the impulse inordinate to his Christian virtue of hope. My interpretation of the passage is that he realized overtime he overthought it— though his overthinking procured an insight. It is good for men to weep: as in the example of David or, of course, Our Lord. Tears are a gift, because where something in the world breaks, it is right that something in us breaks with it. But men are called to weep for a time—for there is a time to weep (Ecclesiastes 3:4); and then balance it, I guess, and fortify it with resolve. If you only weep, nothing resolves; if you only stand resolute, the ground you’re fortifying is not watered. It’s a both/and. I think saying men’s public weeping is not masculine is overthinking it. Many brave faces are procured through tears; but, in any event, some things are worth weeping for. The line between catharsis and sulking, as you say, is, in my opinion, an intuitive one, and one we’ve understood for a long time. It’s one women understand, too.

[coraroesch]

well this is the most misogynistic video I've seen from yall in a hot minute. Like damn, respectfully, this aint okay, Mr. Fradd. My dad wept when his grandmother died. I have never felt anything but utter respect for my father, especially in that moment. I have been to several support group meetings for women who struggle with infidelity and sexual sin. We struggle as much as men, and its not "doubly disordered". Its just human, broken, and sinful. Division of sin according to gender is utterly ridiculous. God did not come down and say that sins are female or male somehow. Respectfully, this is misogynistic as all get out, and i say this as a faithful and practicing catholic. Misunderstood toxically "masculine" stoicism ain't a good look on anyone.

[MD-S]

These days it’s the males that are into gossip way more than women are thought to have been.

[memphis_sean]

Never heard of masculine and feminine sins 🤔😂

[ubiveritasetamor]

"Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil." - Gandalf

[truefaithandpleather]

I've personally always respected a man more when he had the guts to let himself cry. I consider a man who is not afraid to cry more of a man than a man who is afraid of what people might think if he cries. Now I'm sure there can be a level of excessiveness as with anything but I've witnessed men cry and it only had a positive effect on me.

[chiquitabigotes]

Fornication is a mortal sin for both sexes. There's no double or less sinfulness here. It might not have been your intention but you give the impression that because you find it normal for males to have a higher sex drive then it's somehow excused or not as bad. Really bad take you guys.

[DominicMazoch]

Maybe if men cried more in proper ways and times, they may be less violent and less prone to PTSD

[paulalaurita]

Bad faith discourse. If we take the words of James (3:7-8), gossip would be a masculine sin.

7 For every nature of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of the rest, is tamed, and hath been tamed, by the nature of man:
8 But the tongue no man can tame, an unquiet evil, full of deadly poison.

But, we know it’s not limited by gender.

[jenniferflower]

What’s wrong with watching a man cry and watching him put himself back together so that the child grows up knowing what to do when life hits him.

[ivorybow]

Dr. Peterson talks about the differences in aggression techniques between men and women. Men do dominance posturing and even settle with fists. Women use "reputation destruction, " or gossip and slander. I am 77, have 4 sons, and I have seen this to be true. And remember the mean girls in school? The cruel whispering and derision? I was a little wall flower, and it was utterly devastating. Famous quote, and how I short circuited my granddaughter from gossiping when she was in school. 'Small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events, great minds discuss ideas.' And I would ask her, 'what are you being now?" It totally stopped it.

[MeMcG]

I think you'd rather use "womanish" and "mannish", which have a negative connotation when applied to the opposite sex, rather than feminine/masculine, which tend to be used to compliment the appropriate sex.