What Do YOU Think a Narcissist Is? #npd

What is a ‘narcissist’ to you? What do you feel like narcissists do? I want to understand the societal preconceptions and some of the assumptions that people have about the disorder. It’s a word that’s become so ingrained in people’s vocabularies nowadays, and a lot of people have different definitions for it. So, in your own words, what is a narcissist? #npd #narcissism #narcissist #mentalhealth #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #npdawareness

[lazyfoxplays]

I think about my ex who told me she was going to the library to read a book and got a “headache” from reading the book and “had to go home.”
And a series of 3 months of lies like that that culminated in one day her calling me to come over to talk about how angry she was at the person she was cheating on me with (not actually going to the library), and how much of a victim she was for being used by this person and how she loved the attention from him.
Then telling me I was too emotional and make everything about me, and that I was a horrible partner for not seeing how hurt she was.

That’s what comes to my mind.

The same person who told me, “God, you are always so depressed. No wonder nobody wants to be around you. Who would want to be happy around a sad person, ” after I told her I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder.

[chipotleguest]

I used to think narcissism was nothing more than shallow feelings of selfishness, self-absorbtion, malice, complete lack of empathy, etc. I’ve seen a lot of your videos now and I’ve learned so much about the complexity of the disorder and the different ways it can present itself, thank you for sharing your experiences!

[MagicaleffingUnicorn]

Someone who was deeply, deeply hurt and lost their way on their path to healing 💔

As a result this person has lost the ability to see outside of themselves and care for others beyond the impact on their own life. It shows up in different ways.

Now it's hard for me to see the person without thinking about the pain.

[bansheesioux]

They make mountains out if mole hills. And have to micro manage everything around them.

[livingthelifewithfibro]

Scared, but I believe that’s all of us with a personality disorder. Born from fear.

[Intoweirdos]

Someone who is not self aware of how their behaviors impact others because they are only thinking about themselves in every scenario, of course this was born out of survival but can manifest in destructive ways and is usually dangerous to be around until they genuinely accept how they behaved and have a genuine desire to change. Usually this is because they pay consequences for their behavior, so making someone pay a consequence and sticking to your boundaries is actually a really compassionate thing to do!

[AtBurgerKingWithMyBurgerQueen]

To me it's both a person that deserves empathy and understanding as their disorder stems from deep trauma but at the same time I wouldn't want to fuck with an untreated NPD honestly

[Lalalalalalalalalalalb]

Someone who has issues with taking accountability and tends to get defensive and deflect problems

[Roronoa_zoroo_]

Narcissist thinks others won't accept their true self and so they mask their behaviour...they won't show any weakness or fear because they fear it might be used against them...narc always like to be valued and praised..Once their trust is broken they'll never be the same with you..everything is a competition and failure pisses them off.. jealousy is a tormenting feeling that they can't overcome.. whatever they do, deep down they are empty and sad..there is a constant need for emotional assurance even though they might not show it..they might look like cold heartless individuals but deep down they're just wounded toddlers..they can't overcome rejection and betrayal ..the worst thing for them is public humiliation and betrayal ...leaving them shatters their soul..they want to show off and showing off boosts their self worth..they feel good abt themselves when people praise them..they don't have an idea abt themselves and their selfworth is like -1 so that's why they get offended when someone criticises them.. because they believe that's how they are being perceived in the world..they sometimes verbally abuse others in hope of getting them to stay and not leave them..or to get the other person to obey them..narcs blow up under stress and blame others (loved ones) when they are in any stress..narcs hurt others when they themselves are hurting bcoz they want others to feel the pain that they're experiencing🥴

[Maryjudy]

A very dangerous person that needs help .destroys family lies about everything cheats steals plays with everyone's heads and emotions mentally abuses gaslights plays mind games . Wrecks cars, messes with cars that partner drives, , grooms kids ..runs around screaming and yelling and hitting pinching manipulates others to react and do horrible things bully

[gaiagiacomin]

Now that I'm getting educated on it, especially thanks to you I must add, I think of it as the disorder caused by trauma that it is, but I must say that the etimology of the word always makes me think of Narcissus, the mythological creature. And when I think about it, I think of how he was quite literally in love with himself, so much that he died trying to kiss his reflection on water. But to my understanding, narcissists don't actually feel any love for themselves when they are untreated, and that's the main reason why they take everything out on other people in order to feel in control. So that gets me thinking every time, and I suppose that it might carry the idea of a beautiful being blessed by Aphrodite whose only problem was that he couldn't be his own lover, instead of someone that is severely traumatized and actually in pain.

[ApocalypseHistorian]

Idk man I try so hard not impose myself on others or force my beliefs or be cruel... but I have standards. And people tell me I'm toxic, arrogant, etc. I have an above average iq, objectively. They insisted my parents allow the iq test... but yet as I've grown no one takes me seriously and if I stand up for. Myself or get indignant when I'm not taken seriously... im toxic and called a narcissist. Abandoned and made a villain. Maybe I'm just playing the victim.. but damed if I do damned if don't is how I'm left feeling. Your content helps me understand some who have hurt me, and myself

[dc]

I know it's a personality disorder because I'm a borderline with ASPD traits myself.

I think most people think it's just a self-centred person who uses and enjoys hurting others. People's lack of education on the subject means they dont differentiate between a NPD and everyday narcissistic behaviour.

There's a big difference between narcissism and sadism and I think people tend to think one can't go without the other.

Us borderlines are usually viewed as dangerous stalkers. We all have our stigmas in the cluster 🐝 clan.

[agodoy]

Super egotistical that one only thinks of themselves and has no regard of how other people feel

[stephenie]

I person that views the world strongly from the perspective of how things impact them, and/or finds it difficult or not intuitive to put themselves in someone else’s shoes.

[everydayvictorys]

Idk if its a natural disorder or a trauma response but I think its someone who feels the need to control and fight. Someone who struggles to remember that other people have feelings outside of the feelings that are used for manipulation. I think its someone who's instincts are to protect themselves at all cost and often that leads to isolation and worsening social skills. It sounds like a really hard way to live so I try not to think of them as inherently bad but i do know having it can make people dangerous

[HoozieWhatsitz]

Please help raise awareness about 'neuroplasticity'. Too many people with developmental personality disorders have never even heard the word.

[bobbinmarlie]

To me it means waking up after 14 years of marriage to a man I never knew to find out he molested my kid ten years ago, he's a cereal cheater, liar and porn addiction. I have serious cptsf. It took 2 years for it to sink in and on that day I ended up having a ruptured brain aneurysm and he offered to drop me off at the er on his way to work which was 6 hours after that

[Imaedraw]

A narcissist, at their core, is someone who loves themselves not others. It is a heart issue first and foremost. The beauty of this is that a narcissist can repent and choose to love others. I see the beginnings of this with how you talk about being careful with your partner. I just encourage you to keep walking through this and changing, because one day you will find yourself facing the core issue in yourself and at that point your decision will be to love others above yourself or to keep loving yourself above others.

[Pip-Girl_nl]

A person who needs help and therapy. Someone who deals with trauma and therefore has no self esteem and act in a manner which is harmful to themselves and others. All personality disorders come from trauma so... It is not their fault it is a survival mechanism. I can relate I have bpd and I recognize a lot of behaviors and criteria. As long as people with these types of disorders are not self aware they can not seek help. So it is good to talk about it. And also for the victims, to recognize these disorders quickly so then can protect themselves. Hopefully...