Pornography ruined my life …

I was addicted to porn and it destroyed many years of my life. It was introduced to me at an early age and I over indulged in it until it completely disgusted me. I conquered myself and hope to inspire others to do the same

[AskShimon]

I created an ebook to help those looking for more helpful information

[Bxrry]

Takes a lot of maturity and courage to talk about this on an open platform like YouTube, much respect

[bashkim]

I Like the way you're talking smoothly in the video without cuts, makes it feel like an actual conversation

[nucleartopics]

somebody i know once told me

"you dont have to pay for pornography, but you do pay with your soul"
that was kinda the first thing that made me want to battle against my addiction

[eila]

I will quit today and choose to be better, mark my words, pray for me guys

[TTVRESPIVERL]

I found this video through my recommended and I’m happy I did. I’ve been having a problem with pornography addiction and I’m only 16. I started at around the age of 9-10 and I’m disgusted with myself. Just from this video I built up the courage to go through all my social media’s and delete all that stuff and I’m gonna begin my journey to quitting. Thanks for this video. And I’ll come back to check in with my progress in a couple of months. Thanks a lot man

Edit as im getting alot of update questions: im proud to say that im currently 1 month clean. The first month was really hard and i relapsed multiple times a day but as of feb 10th im completely clean.. thank you everyone for all the positive replies as ive as of right now just read every single one and i know that all of you can do exactly what i did and its 100% possible. To everyone out theres trying to quit, its most definitely worth it as i feel 10x better and just feel cleaner as a person. Goodluck to everyone out there. Love yall❤️

[canisiuschisenga]

I hate my friends who introduced me to this 😢 10 years in this bondage hasn't been easy but hey its 2024 n I'm solid 6 months counting no fapping. My friend if you can overcome porn addiction then you can achieve anything 🔥 keep that energy man.

[tc]

As a woman I can relate to this. I started watching porn at 9 years old and it made me hypersexual at such a young age and I did so many things that I regret because of it. I sexually assaulted/harassed my peers by showing them porn without their consent as an example and I will always regret it. I'm glad stuff like nofap and semen retention is starting to make men more critical of pornography.
Women also desperately need a resurgence of that mindset since we are mainly the ones objectifying ourselves and having our bodies exploited by the sex industry. Especially since the rise of Onlyfans made it easier for the average woman to do this, and it became socially acceptable to tell people to make an OF or ask for their OF.
I was influenced by the sex positive feminism of my age that told me watching porn was completely natural, even if I felt disgusted with myself after doing it. Luckily I came across old school feminism that was always critical of pornography and it opened my eyes to how terrible the porn industry is. I became anti porn 6 years ago but I still struggle with relapsing every now and then. You sound very intelligent and I'm proud of you for quitting.

[xodixzote]

Day 1 let's go (remind me guys) every time i got likes or comment

[sday]

As a young girl (early teens) I was exposed to it during lockdown and now I am highly addicted. I'm really trying. I find myself coming back to it like 2-3 times a day and I really, am disgusted of myself. When I was around maybe 10 I was caught and didn't come back to it for a while. This made me really think. Thanks for having the courage to talk about this stuff online.

[wugga]

Crazy how a lot of us have in common how we were exposed to porn at a young age. One video leads to another that makes you dig deeper and deeper for more curiosity until you find yourself searching the weirdest shit ever. I spent a lot of time telling myself it was just natural, but after getting engaged to my fiancé after almost ruining our entire relationship because of lust. This video is definitely giving me extra motivation to stop immediately.

[jackhollis]

mad respect bro, many men needed to hear this including me

[lorrainonme]

I was set free from my porn addiction in 2020 at the age of 17. I was addicted for years but I’m only free from it because of Jesus Christ and becoming a born again Christian. The battle is too powerful and we cannot fight this battle on our own. Repent and believe in Jesus Christ. Only through His power can we overcome porn.

[toomberrebmoot]

I’m gonna be up front with you on this as well, embarrassingly so. I’ve lied so many times to so many people, personally and on the internet, about beating my addiction. Every time I stopped, it wouldn’t be anymore than a week before I slipped up and started again.

So much self deceit, so many let downs, so little actual success.

The best way that I can describe porn addiction is like a giant tree with a palace built around it. The roots are the dopamine addiction, the river they drink from is your energy, the branches overshadow your other commitments and deprive them of sunlight, the palace is the misconstrued ideas and mistaken values of pornography, and the foundation of that palace is the common denominator idea(s) that act as a roadblock to any success.

If you value the palace, you won’t want to cut down the tree. If you block the water supply to kill the tree, you deprive the other trees there sustenance. If you don’t get rid of the foundation, you’ll rebuild the palace. You can’t reach the branches to trim them because of how tall the tree is, and you can’t cut the tree down because you’ll crush the palace and regret it. The only way to remove the tree is to destroy the palace, remove the foundation, and uproot the tree.

That palace and its foundation are the source of brainwashing and suffering, so it has to be dismantled before you can tackle the dopamine addiction.

I LOVE demolishing the palace whenever I try to quit. But that foundation, the common reasoning behind my usage, has always been a roadblock for me. Removing the tree shouldn’t be hard at all, but you can’t get to the roots if your foundation is blocking it.

The most common reason for ANYONE to keep using, the foundation for the palace of brainwashing, is the belief that they can’t quit. The regret and self condemnation that comes with the addiction fuels this belief and the idea that you’re giving up something valuable also contributes. But anyone can have uniquely misguided rationalizations for continuing to use.

Ultimately, I’m no better. As mentioned earlier, I’ve lied time and time again about quitting for good, never understanding the full depth of my problem and trying to remove the splinters from people’s eyes when I had a plank in mine.

Just yesterday, at the beginning of my 9-3 shift at retail, I broke down in misery over how awful I felt my life had become. I’m 21 years old, i’ve been working at the same grocery store for three years, I can’t face my driver’s ed/post office application, and I’ve been grappling with the porn problem for nearly two years. I literally said to myself in despair “I can’t believe that this is the rest of my life. I’m going to rot in this store and burn in hell.”

But the truth is that it was all only in my mind. In no way do those thoughts reflect my reality and regret will only serve to alienate me from my better self. Before my retail breakdown, I saw the ending scene to God of War Ragnarok: Valhalla, where Kratos confronts the image of his younger, vengeful self and comes to terms with his regret, accepting that they were all his decisions and that he was always better than what others of him. That struck a chord with me, and for a few days, the porn problem seemed more like a question. For a while, I was able to say no easily, realizing that so much of the bigger problem with porn was the regret.

Quitting can be done instantly, but healing takes time, and the wound must be disinfected.

If anyone wants to quit porn, please be patient with yourself and the process. I highly recommend the free to read book “The EasyPeasy Way”, which is adapted from Alan Carr’s highly successful “EasyWay” method to quitting various addictions. There’s a lot to meditate on, so don’t be surprised if it takes a few rereads or attempts to solidify the teachings.

But mostly, quitting addiction is a commitment to self love and by extension, interpersonal love. I’d recommend studying the forty days of temptation in each Gospel to understand how subtle temptation and psychological triggers can be before starting. Addiction can be a tricky little devil.

Peace be with y’all.

[Arctc.]

I found it through friends joking about it in 5th grade, so me being a curious child, was introduced to it in 5th grade. I've been addicted since then, and I'm now halfway through my junior year in high school. Yes, its been 7 years. Starting tonight, I'm on the journey to ressurection as a person who can fight through the things that fuck me up like it does. In the past, I would stop for a week or two, and break under the pressure of the lust for a release. I want to find myself as a true person who's not bound by the chains of addiction and desire of something so disgusting.

[infktiousvenom]

As an Opioid addict for 10 years, now been sober for 3 years, it takes a lot of courage to admit to your addiction, no matter what the addiction is. Thank you for sharing, God speed brother, it gets better with time and mindfulness.

[carlorano]

Managed myself for 3 weeks relapsed for straight 2 weeks, started the journey yesterday, pray for me guys.😊

[TheRRD]

Porn addiction and an addiction to lustful thoughts cost me the love of my life.

Its officially time for me to call it quits.

[icposiv]

I was exposed to this stuff since 12 got over it when I was 15💀
Glad you overcame it and helping others to not get addicted

[dinguswiffle]

I found this at 13 and am now 22, still a virgin due to my allowance of porn. I allowed it to twist my views on beauty, and the best thing I have done since turning 22 is ending it. I’m at a point right now where the urges only hit me every other day.

Never surrender to your urges men, we are stronger than that. Thank you for you video sir.