In my 50’s now, do I regret not having kids?

Good question! I’m happy to share my experience and some wisdom as a Filipino woman who chose not to have kids.

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[goldeneye]

I really liked the "do I want to be a parent?" part so much because that's such a good perspective shift to take when deciding

[b-edward]

I'm 42. Am a parent to one 13 year old. I love it! With that said, not everyone feels called to be a parent. I never regret my decision to be one. No one should regret, or feel shamed, for not being one.

[missharry]

My husband and I never wanted children and now we are in our 70s have never regretted the decision. I have spent many years volunteering for a local community charity, as well as working in some specialised areas of law that particularly impinge on poorer people. You don't need to create new people to benefit your community.

[Ravenelvenlady]

Child free, 57, single and loving it. I love children, and that's why I teach and am a great auntie. Thanks for this video.

[CraftyCuriosity]

I am 53 and I have zero regrets not having kids. I chose to not get pregnant I had a lot of family, health and financial issues that would have prevented me from being the best parent I could have been.

[susannehuber]

I’m 39…. My life has its ups and downs but 0 regrets about not having kids and being unmarried. ❤❤❤❤

[rokuwhitefox]

I always hear "DON'T YOU WANT A FAMILY?!?!"
I do have a family. I have people in my life I love and care about. Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have a support system.

[choosejoy]

I'm 29 and childfree! The older I get the happier I am with that decision. My husband and I are always looking at each other saying "thank god.." 🤣🤦‍♀️

[gabecoolwater]

I'm 36 and I knew I didn't kids since I was 4. I didn't even think about it. I just felt it. Some people have a desire to be a parent and I simply never had it. Quite the opposite.

[MrsJC]

Thank you for making this video. I am Filipino and 35 now so I am starting to feel that pressure. I have never wanted to be a parent and I honestly have never wanted kids. My mom though will not stop pressuring me and trying to guilt trip me. My brother is also single (no kids) but she doesn't pressure him. It's so unfair.

[AlexxJ.]

If you do NOT want children, do not have them. Children deserve loving parents.

[staciedennison]

I love her take on this, especially asking herself if she wanted to be a parent, not If she wanted to have a baby.

[davidp.]

When I was a young age, like 10, I decided I didn't want to get married or have kids. Now I am in my 40's and looking at the world today, I know it was the right decision FOR ME. I know most won't agree or understand but that's OK. To each their own.

[janicenm]

As a mom of 3 and wife, i support childfree movement.

[victoriakaterina]

I’m 33, child free, husband free and getting my tubes tied very soon. I’ve never had one regret! I’m not cut out for motherhood.

[ontariocacher]

I'm in my 60s now. Married for 40 years. No children, by choice. No regrets. In fact, lately, a week doesn't go by that we say we're glad we didn't have kids. We have lots of siblings who have children and their worry is constant.

One thing I do not relate to is the pressure to have kids. My parents, my in-laws, my family, and my friends never pressured me to have children. I have 2 high school friends (also in their 60s) that I still talk to and neither of them had children. I've never heard them say they felt pressure to have children. I'm shocked that this generation seems to be experiencing so much pressure. My siblings and friends aren't pressuring their children. They see that their children don't have the same advantages that they had, and their potential grandchildren will likely inherit an even bleaker world.

[shleegaming]

Thank you for this. I am 34, married for a couple years now, and have been getting so much pressure from family and even just acquaintances that I need to have children. There were a few times in my 20's when I felt that "urge" and thought maybe I wanted to after all, but it always vanished after I remembered just how much time and work would also be involved. Now that I'm older and finally finding out who I am as a person I've realized I really, really do not want to be the parent of another human being. I don't want to drag a soul from the ether and force a person into existence because of a fleeting biological urge only to make them live in this insane world and also just knowing who I am and where I came from. I wouldn't want my kids to ever go through what I went through and what I'm still healing from as an almost middle-aged woman. I get so tired of being called selfish for it too! Like how the heck is it selfish to make the decision to not create another human to join in the suffering on this already morbidly overcrowded planet? How am I more selfish than some crackhead who pops out another kid because "I already had 3 so why not?" No, I think my decision is a wise one and one of the most difficult I have ever made.

Sorry for the rant, your video was just very validating!

[amla]

I have no desire to have children too. My mother died of breast cancer when she was 37 years old leaving three very small children. I was 9, my sister was 6 and my brother was just a newly born baby. This happened in 1992, and within a short period of time my father married to another woman and I suffered a lot in her hands including my sister but myself was the worst!! She abused me every single day! I'm going to be 40 in a few months time and although I'm married to a wonderful man and living a good life now (I'm very grateful for this kind and loving man), but after what happened to me in my really have no desire to have children because I don't want them to suffer like I did in my childhood. Also, I think I'm not mentality fit to be a parent because I get stressed out too easily.

[ericb]

I made the decision not to have kids 45 years ago. I have no regrets. Best decision for me. I think people don’t think it through on a deep level and count the costs. I believe many parents have 0 idea how to raise children but they have them anyway. The kids pay for it. 😮

[nickdavidelijah]

Great message 👏🏽 I’m 36 and my partner 38 and neither of us have the desire to have children. Happy with it :)