What To Do If You Get Stood Up

#dating #ghost #ghosted

No one likes getting stood up and it happens to everyone. And when it happens you don't know what to do. You feel helpless and worthless. Don't let this ruin your dating life. Here are some tips on how to turn your night around!

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Eliot Chang has been seen on his own Comedy Central Half Hour, E!'s Chelsea Lately, Showtime's Minority Report, HBO's Looking, and NBC's Law & Order SVU. He also studied improv in NY at the Upright Citizens Brigade and then with Armando Diaz at the Magnet Theater.

[Nobody-gmxq]

I like how Eliot doesn't have a victim mentality. He just takes shitty moments in life and offers solutions for them. Then he spreads the knowledge to the rest of us.

[miguelpoky]

I wouldn't even care if someone said "I dont want to go out with you" but, just getting ghosted is horrible. Says a lot about a person who doesn't even have the decency to inform you that they are not coming.

[alexj]

The only thing I would do differently is not reply to them when they try to link up a few weeks or months later. Like nah, you lost your chance, you're not worth it anymore.
I hate flaky people.

[BlanketsandChocolate]

I feel like Elliot got stood up, and 5 minutes later set up a camera to rant about out it. lmao The anger just seems so fresh. Love the vids, Elliot.

[vincentfranklin]

I've been stood up before. I either go out, or watch something funny on. TV.
I never call the woman, or anything. I see it as it being their loss.

[hannahnicole]

Just got stood up for the first time tonight and this made me feel so much better!

[NaomiK]

Ladies, if he stands you up, don't waste any more energy on him. don't text. don't call, if he messages you don't waste your time responding.

[Singinsandyb]

Hey this happened to me recently 3 times! They all stopped talking to me hours before the first date and never showed up. It really hurts and I'm sorry if this happened to you. That person is not relationship material if they cannot be respectful to even just say they are no longer interested. After these three times, this is the best response I could give you right now: "Hey --insert name-- You didn't show up to our date and I haven't heard from you, I hope you are ok, but I'm really disappointed and I do not appreciate that you did not contact me today for our date. I don't like being stood up or ignored. I'm all ears to hear you out, but unless you are going to tell me a good reason why you could not contact me, I'm done, I'm sorry." Btw I am a female and I consider myself to be very attractive, successful, and charismatic. Bad things happen to ALL kinds of people dont put this on yourself.

[sharonbroward]

Happened to me recently. I spent all day preparing for the date. Went to get food to cook for him. He never showed never called to say he wasn't coming but later that night post a photo of him out with his older son. Yes I was livid. It was a waste of my day/time. I sent him a messge that his behavior was confusing to me and that I am going to back off that I didn't want to invest time in someone who may not know what the truly want. Was that wrong. I didn't come across angry ( but I damn sure was )

[rennigaderedd]

I got stood up. I waited 15 minutes, texted him, and nicely asked if he was coming or not. I didn't get a response, so that was my answer. He texted me hours later, and just said " no". Was I tempted to cuss him out? Yes! Did I? No. I felt like I should have gotten an explanation, but I knew by how he responded that I wouldn't get one. I just responded cheerfully with " I already figured that out. No biggies. Catch you on the flip." Just a nice way of saying that I'm not going to let bother me, because life is to short. If he ever contacts me, and I don't think he will, but if he does, I'm not going to give a second chance. I'll be very nice about it, because I don't hold a grudge, but his actions proved that he's irrelevant to me, and to cut my losses.

[shukk]

Also guys, be very very strict with your time. If you let him/her off too easily for standing you up, dont think that they wont do it again. Nothing worst then being a female and taking the time to do your makeup and get dressed just to be stood up .. thats why i always make sure our plans are 100% before saying yes to the date

[MonicaHernandez-blel]

Ty. This one stood me up and called the next day and acted as if nothing. No excuse no nothing. Of course I didn’t answer his call just heard his audio and I have been in no contact ever since.

[RedEveTillDawn]

I just got stood up tonight. Wasn’t even for a date it was just to hang out as friends but I guess I’m not even good enough for that so I’ve given up on making new friends.

[sweetangelnpali]

Just ignore that person and move on don’t even give them a second chance done that’s it

[isaahmed]

I got stood up 4 times in a row including today, it Hurts man I feel like crying

[elizabethencalada]

I got stood up for the 1st time yesterday. It was suppose to be my 1st real date & this JackAss(who I thought liked me) totally ruined it for me. Thank God, I never got intimate with him! It's his loss, not mine. I know I could find someone better than this loser. I guess it just takes time. Elliot, I like ur advice & I'm going to give it a try. Thank u for making this video!

[jem]

Do you even want to meet with someone that stood you up...no thanks block and delete and move on

[sal]

this is legit life advice. Eliot you're the man.

[fredharvey]

Except in my case it was a coworker I still see who stood me up! I ghosted him as best as I can on the job.

[NickInts]

Never been stood up, but definitely been ghosted. I'll remember this for when it finally happens 😂