6 Biblical Qualities To Look For In A Christian Husband

What qualities should you look for in a godly husband? In this video, we're unpacking six biblical qualities to look for in a Christian husband. This was actually inspired by a Christian dating and relationships sermon series by Jonathan Pokluda. Essentially, he looks at the biblical qualifications of an overseer found in 1 Timothy 3, and draws application from it to what qualities we as Christian women should be looking for in a future husband. As JP put it, God has standards for the men He would have lead His Church - which is His bride - and it follows that these standards would also apply to the men He would have take His daughters as their bride. This resource has been incredibly helpful to me, and I hope it is to you too! 💛

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“But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart." | 1 Samuel 16:7

[kacinicole]

Comment what quality you’re looking for that’s most important to you! Or if you’re married, what quality in your spouse you value most. 💛

[pie]

Just saving this for myself
1. Commitment 3:10
2. Humilty 5:07
3. Reputation 6:24
4. Initiaitve 7:18
5. Self-control 8:07
6. Submitted to God's Truth 8:52

[kuiane]

Qualties of my husband. A born again Christian, loving, caring, understanding, focused, kind, hardworking, faithful, honest, self control, isn't quick or short tempered, loves me for me, great father and husband, best friend.

[maddygvanlifer]

I love and listen to Voddie Bauchum all the time. I'm 70 years old and still single. I won't settle. Have not been able to find a man that lives these 7 principles. But it's ok. I'm being still in the Lord. So if I'm supposed to be single until the Lord calls me home, I'm at peace with that most of the time. I'm so grateful for the life HE has given me thus far. I'm richly blessed.

[TheLychie]

I was struggling with liking this guy and asked God to show me clearly if he was the one or not. This video answered my prayer. He's not. I see how we're both lacking in things before we can pursue marriage. I love how you said think of him not only as a husband, but a father.

[joshkamyszek]

Coming from a man seeking God & building relationship with Him... this is very insight to develop as a man my future wife will be searching for

[rachelshonce]

I wish Christian women did more videos on intentional singleness. God ordains marriage as a good thing, but Paul actually talks about in Corinthians that it’s better to be single because you have an undivided heart for God. I wish there was more content on choosing to not marry!

[Shepherd]

5. Self-control 8:07
And also to put this more bluntly self-control about (thoughts about) sex, porn etc... When you are dating, it's important to find a moment at some point to be able to talk about that and not avoid it. Even if it could feel quite direct and blunt. As a man, it's hard and can be a struggle and so it is important to put it on the list for all girls who want to find the one and build on great foundations.

[Marie_Garwood]

This is so good! What a thought—and one I’ve personally not had before! It does stand to reason that the qualities of an elder ought to be the same for a husband, given the analogy of Christ and the church!

[faithwithvivian]

This is sooo good🤍 I cant choose which one I value the most all are so important! Lol but i would have to say probably how much he serves and how committed he is to the church 😊👍🏻

[NovusIgnis]

This was a fantastic video to watch. It feels good to know that I've developed many of these qualities, and if I lack others it's simply due to my own faith still needing to be grown and fortified. It's not due to a lack of willingness but time. I also really appreciated you pointing out the difference between confidence and boistrousness. I think this is something that women in the church really really need to learn. In general when it comes to women, there is a heavy emphasis on qualities that the world prizes but which are not Godly at all. So many women that I've known will pursue an unGodly man simply because he's loud and arrogant and that comes off as confidence.

I think a good series would be highlighting negative and worldly qualities that can fool believers into thinking that someone is something they aren't. Things like women being fooled by a man's false confidence or men giving in to a woman's sexual advances because it means she likes him.

[Shanchelle]

Someone who truly listens to you when you share your stories, concerns, etc.… good listeners are usually good communicators and good communication is key to a happy marriage.

I hope this is helpful. Much love and God bless. 💗

[aaron-dmbw]

Better late than never - thx for GOD leading me here. I’m not near perfect but pray for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out. I’m a paint by numbers type of dude and this is not complex and if want these traits I must do and to do is the be. Lots of work but how meaningful 🤙

[songsofsofia]

This was some great advise! I've been married for over 15 years, and me and my husband sure made a journey. But the areas you were touching are very important in all marriages but especially in Christian ones.

[martinsantos]

Honestly, my qualities Im looking for is like you. I don't know if you are full-time committed to your church. But what I like you the most beside for being an angel is you are a lover of the Words of God. You have a time Committed to read, do and to teach.

[MsPassiontea]

I have Timothy 3 in my prayer journal that I refer to to pray for my brethren in our church. I didnt thought that I can refer to this also as qualities I can pray for my future husband. Though I have a non negotiable list that I pray for him. Thank you for sharing this Kaci. I can add these to my list ☺️

[checkingoutgypsymike]

Im glad your channel found me, not only was this informative it was really enjoyable. God bless you for your content sister!!!

[shawnkim]

I truly believe that Jesus Christ is the son of the living God. Amen

[jesusiskingofmyheart]

what a great video! i'm so happy i found your channel during quarantine 😭💛

[gerrimiller]

Thank you pretty Lady for these important Godly advice in meeting a Godly partner in Jesus Christ Name, Amen