The downsides of being 'too attractive' - BBC REEL

In this episode, Griesham Taan analyses the social and modern reasons behind why attraction and beautification remain important today and explores the role gender plays.

Video by Griesham Taan
Animator: Jessica Thomas

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[richardmann]

Sometimes I hate being the most attractive person in the room...so l return to the room where everyone else is.

[cerdic]

For all of its downsides, being beautiful is far less of a curse than being ugly.

[LA-oogj]

Sometimes same gender siblings resent you too, same gender friends were horrible to me

[grahamharper]

Don't be ashamed of your beauty, you've been given a gift, embrace it. If some idiot on social media has a problem with you being hot and attractive, that's called jealousy. Their problem not yours.

[seren]

I'm a physically attractive woman. I tend to draw attention to myself through my looks (I get compliment from strangers and unwanted male attention) but I'm an introverted person (proud to be, most of the time😂) and already in my early 20s, and I fail to see what the pros of this are. Yeah, I have confidence in my looks most of the time but I have poor social skills because I expect people to initiate conversations with me (which happens most times and for them to focus on my looks, not my personality). Apart from the unwanted attention from men, I don't have any female friends. I have had very bad experiences in friendship with women who weren't attractive, many wanted to destroy me, live through me or loved me and I didn't feel the same way.

Honestly, it's a very lonely life and not many get it. Most people are very cold and barely empathize when you no longer have trust in anyone and/or are very reserved. I have been called everything from cold to snobbish.

[kristine]

I had a very beautiful friend. Her life wasn’t easy. You always wonder… do they love me for my beauty or for who I am?

[gngaa]

its furstating to say the most people hating on you for no reasons and imagine having anxiety on top of that.

[Bamx]

Maybe a better title is: “Do Ugly People live in a different world than Beautiful People” because that’s an actual interesting topic to explore. Not the “omg you’re too pretty to get to the top (which probably 5% of everyone goes through vs. something that probably 50% of us feel)

[trinathompson]

The hatred towards me started in junior high school, and escalated in high school to the point where I started ditching school. If the boys/ men give you constant attention the females will resent you and that includes your so-called friends. I couldn't even talk to a boy without somebody accusing me of trying to steal somebody's boyfriend. A group of girls showed up at my house to beat me up over a boy I had absolutely no interest in, but those girls were willing to harm me physically because of a lie.My so-called friends would plan outings and exclude me, and I found out that one of them was responsible for the lie that almost got me beat up.After I got into the workforce I found out that the women weren't much different than the teens, so I became a loner.I got married at age 23, and I gave up on female friendships, I'm too afraid! 😨

[Maggit-xo]

i think being “attractive” is good, it has a lot of upsides, but also a lot of downsides..
being unable to form genuine friendships with people without them having a different agenda(such as wanting to becoming something ‘more’) even tho all i want is a friendship.
being objectified, being gazed at by creepy people, even my own teacher (smh)
which caused me to stop attending school.
having to be extra careful around others because you’re afraid to accidentally lead them on, being harassed by strangers, people wanting noots, women glare and stare at you, dads with their kids and wives stare at you, even though all you want to do is exist.
to be yourself, to just live in the moment..
idk maybe i’m just complaining..
i don’t want to sound ungrateful, because i am..
but sometimes i just want to live, but fearful of what the world will do to me.

[tryandfindme__]

I am considered as pretty attractive. I don’t wanna brag or so. I always thought if I become fully perfect I will be the happiest person. Well…no. Here I am with my dream skin and body, all the clothes I wanted and getting compliments every day by complete strangers. But I feel so damn lonely. I only have one best friend and she has many other friends so she can’t be always with me. I feel like people r only interested in me because of the way I look and as soon as I start talking about my actual self they lose interest cuz they just want a pretty girl. I love talking to older people because I feel like they actually care about who I am. I am scared that one day if I don’t look that great people will not like me anymore. Let me tell you, it gets really really lonely sometimes

[SlavicGirl.]

Envy is the root of ALL evil in this world.

[shaunhall]

Compassion is what we need to value more.

[theferrones]

Being beautiful is like being wealthy. It’s nice but the downside is how do you know if people like you for being you? And my follow up question is would you rather be really pretty growing up and slowly lose it? Or be closer to plain and just in general enjoy what life throws your way?

[DT.]

I had experience many jealousy from people just because of my physical features. The truth is you should embrace and maximize yourself and make space for better people better things in life.

[Яблочный]

Being attractive only sucks when other insecure women try and make your life harder just because they are jealous of you.That’s why I stay away from females if I can help it.If you know you are beautiful, embrace it.Don’t let a jealous snake make you feel bad about yourself❤️❤

[akawhippy]

Yes. We are attracted to beauty and looks. But we need variety, not the same thing all the time. Beautiful but diverse at the same time.

[aydagunes]

I think many would agree that the advantages of having good looks e.g. feel good about yourself, self esteem, opportunities in certain sectors etc are higher than the downsides of it

[JH-nnbm]

Everyone judges a book by its cover. And its so painfully obvious that everyone dislikes not being good looking and thinks its some sort of way that magically makes your life better. Let's not forget being targeted, sexually exploited, treated like an object, nobody wanting to know what's inside your head. You may as well be a shell or a doll. THAT'S what it's like to be too attractive or too commercial/money making project e.g. Britney Spears. Nobody has any intelligence in this comment section, that shows. If you have no empathy don't watch the video.

[arlowesley]

I find that when you’re “very attractive” people tend to think you have other motives, or that you think you’re better than them… which makes it hard at times… but it also has perks of some people being nicer to you.