At The Core, Narcissists Are Con Artists

While healthy individuals are authentic, narcissists are deceivers. They actively try to con others into believing they are more desirable than is true. Dr. Les Carter identifies how to spot their con efforts, and also points out patterns that expose their high exploitive mindset. Seeing their tactics, you can stay out of their manipulations.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 115 million views.

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[briandrake]

I had a sister like this. She would sit with you, have a beer, chill, and then ask you a lot of phishing questions while pretending to open up about herself. She would then use this information to use against you, even twisting what was said for a gas lighting agenda.
Sick people.
They have NO true friends.
They are posers.

[lesliehaymanMSc]

Con artists and ungrateful, unloving backstabbers with reckless disregard for others.

[judithargitay]

I've read in a book written by a Hungarian psychiatrist (I am Hungarian) that "a narcissist lies even when the truth would be a better story."

[janethomas]

I ended a relationship w a narcissist by saying " I have to be a whole person, so I cant see you any longer"

[amandainsa]

Even more disappointing and frustrating is watching these con artists achieve reputable and trusted positions so they can con more and more people! You can try to warn others, but be prepared for retaliation, shaming, or being shunned. I've found peace and regained my physical and mental health by starting over without them. When they try to worm their way back into my life, I completely ignore them. There is NO way I will go back to that toxic, chaotic mess!

[CRYBR]

That’s what hurt the most…the soul mate fake

[Coyotecreekgamefowl]

They will study you to learn everything about you and then use it against you.

[God-Love-Freedom]

Compatibility is the key to long, healthy relationships. Narcissists lie about their compatibility with you. That is the ultimate deception.

[yukio_saito]

I was gullible to those con artists. I learned the hard way how not to fall for their blatant tactics. 😖

[lauracoussens]

To a narcissist, everything can, and should, be manipulated...and it's always to make themselves look good...always remember that

[cynthiahurlburt]

Pattern is the key. It takes time spent with the narcissist (s) to learn the pattern(s). Do not blame yourself or feel foolish, you are authentic with a big heart. The light 💡 is on. You will heal and grow stronger as you grasp what narcissism is.
🙏 ❤ 🫂 to all for we are worthy.❤❤❤

[gloriacoleman]

Just because someone says they are "kind, caring, can be trusted, loyal" does not mean that is the case, not what is printed on the box is what is inside.

[JEWSWITHTATOOS]

Never tell a narcissists that you own anything or have one dollar in the bank

[anneyoung]

Narcissists are 100% delulu about who they are. It's the only way they can function (self-deception).
Not only do I not play their game, I refuse to give them the privilege of engaging in conflict. I learned a long time ago that it is fruitless with all narcissists. Their horrifying passive aggression will get amped up if you ask them to do anything that doesn't benefit them.

[MrClintL]

Dr. Carter, I had a childhood friend who grew up to be a narcissist. He claimed to be a financial wizard, the top financial rep in his town with $1 million in assets and so on. Our arguments became more and more heated from his talking down to me, and I finally called him out on all his bullsht. It was like when Toto pulled back the curtain in “The Wizard of Oz” and exposed the Wizard for what he really was. At 62, nobody in his family wants anything to do with him. Everything was always someone else’s fault. He took me for nothing but a total fool. As much harm as these people do, they serve as an important life lesson. The narcissist gets you to thinking you need their approval because YOU are inferior, so you fail all over yourself trying to get this approval. That’s how they suck you into their mind games.

[rainbo]

I just wish I had known all this at least 35 years ago, while I was still young enough to build a totally new life for myself. At 81, I've had to give up a lot materially in order to have the peace of my and self respect I need to survive.

[caroleminke]

It’s just a shell game from start to finish! The hero, martyr & bully are empty masks because inside is a toddler who’s insecure at best. Never having achieved separation from mother at the appropriate age, all narcissists begin by deceiving mommy. They learn to lie, hurt, exploit then manipulate others for power. Love of power ❤️‍🩹 over the power of love ♥️ so leave them in their playpens, which are really pigpens

[angelapitts]

It's sad that a mother could do this to her own child 😢

[mariaawake]

Hucksters, liars can appear very convincing by toying with your emotions, especially flattery mixed with fear mongering.

[Ocean]

The narc in my life accused me of something that completely shocked me. Then hours later I realized that that’s exactly what she has done to me for decades! Such an ah-ha moment!