Progressive Muscle Relaxation: An Essential Anxiety Skill #27

Progressive muscle relaxation is an essential skill for learning to calm anxiety, manage your nervous system, and relax. Progressive muscle relaxation is one way to train yourself to relax your muscles and turn on your parasympathetic nervous system little by little, progressively.

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About Me:
I’m Emma McAdam. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and I have worked in various settings of change and growth since 2004. My experience includes juvenile corrections, adventure therapy programs, wilderness therapy programs, an eating disorder treatment center, a residential treatment center, and I currently work in an outpatient therapy clinic.

In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction.

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[markinglese]

Ok! I don't know you, but I love you. I've gone from 2-3 hours of sleep to 4-5 hours. Thank you

[jessicapankiw]

I've been doing this everyday along with 5 minutes of tapping to reduce my anxiety. Its something I genuinely look forward to, if I miss a day it's the same sensation as missing a day of brushing my teeth or not showering.

[raynoble]

My favorite on the internet for relaxation response.peaceful, soft and gentle voice promotes relation.

[annabellacrewe]

...Moreover, mentally I relaxed to; teams came running down my checks, when lying here on the floor this early morning: Your voice combined with the body relax made it...I am very sad thesse days and alone with noone to cry to..So thank Tou again !❤️

[Jorjaheather_]

This video really helps calm my mental health and makes me feel much better after a stressful day. The voice is calming, the music is relaxing and it is overall just a peaceful video. I actually had tears roll down my cheeks the first time I listened to this video, because after all the stress and tension was removed I could no longer hold back the tears I was keeping in. Thank you ❤

[EB-gtpq]

I need to start doing this every day! Thank you

[TravisGoodman]

Love this practice! As a therapist myself I put this into practice regularly and also teach this to the clients I work with. It is one of many skills/tools I use personally as well as teach!

[notaxelaxel]

I had a recent encounter with sleep paralysis and hadnt been able to sleep without checking my souroundings every 5 minutes but this video helped thanks! 🙏

[rachelhinkley]

I absolutely loved this! I'd heard about progressive muscle relaxation, but didn't really know how to go about doing it. Your instructions were so clear and calm and I can see myself using this every night before bed, or even when I wake up in the night and can't get back to sleep. Such a valuable tool, thank you so much Emma!

[Fire-Toolz]

I would like to share my experience with this, because it was so profound and intense for me. I don't usually try to get the attention of people with lots of followers because I respect their time and don't think they should feel obligated to respond to everyone and everything. However, I do hope Emma is able to read this.

First of all, the music was sooo beautiful. Sometimes videos like these can have unenjoyable music (in my opinion), so I was surprised that all 3 songs were so moving. Especially the first one. I'm typically intensely emotionally affected and moved by music, so part of the reason I was basically sobbing the whole time was because of the resonance between the music and I.

But what is more interesting is that I know the music was not the only thing that was connecting with me. The muscle tensing is something I associate so much with my anger, which later in life revealed itself to actually just be deep intense pain and unhealed trauma. Any time I have EVER tensed my muscles like that, it was during an episode of spiraling and losing sight of reality in the process. So when the tensing started to get to the upper legs and pelvis, and *especially* in the abdomen, chest, and face, immediately I felt like I was bringing up feelings I have when I've had those spiraling experiences (which, since my teens up until my mid 30's have occurred on a semi-regular basis.) It wasn't re-traumatizing at all. It was painful, but somehow there was a strong element of bliss.

However the truly striking part about this is that... all my life, my "episodes" have, in the end, just been me crying out for love and support and being seen/heard. "Mommy issues, " if you like. So, for the FIRST TIME, in my LIFE, during this meditation, I felt SAFE to feel these feelings. I was being ALLOWED to "get angry" and "get emotional." Without actually being *triggered* by that anger. It was like I was being allowed to let it flow through me because I wasn't putting me or anyone else in danger. I got this deep sense of being affirmed that how I feel is okay, and that I am seen and loved regardless.

I want to emphasize how much this wasn't actually me feeling anger in the way I would in a spiraling/unconscious episode. In those episodes I am constantly resisting what I feel. In this sitting and setting, I let it flow, like a boat down a river, effortlessly. Instead of the usual thing where I would normally spend the entire episode insisting that I am a victim of true injustice and cruelty, inflicted by circumstances or a person or what have you. Which, metaphorically could be me trying to stop that boat from floating by and instead jumping on board and fighting the crew members.

I am going to be repeating this meditation every single day. I currently do a mantra meditation, and will probably continue that, but...holy shit. This was powerful. See, I never wanted to do this kind of meditation because I was *afraid* of tensing my muscles, because of the deep association with freaking out and feeling immense amount of emotional pain. But now I understand that bringing the muscle tensing and relaxing in *outside* of the context of feeling triggered is intensely healing. One time through and I already feel a healing take place. And that RARELY happens with me.

THANK YOU

[bluebubble]

Your kind voice makes it a little bit easier to get through each day and brings us all a bit more strength/resilience within. Thank you kindly from the bottom of my heart. Take care :)

[deanospimoniful]

When I tense up my whole body, I toot sometimes. It makes me laugh. Thanks Emma.

[bdubs]

This works so well for my health anxiety!

[halokittyxXx]

Hi emma! I am currently taking one of your courses which has this video in it. I use it every morning (sometimes twice) and every night! ive never tried anything like this before so I was shook at how well it works. I suffer from major back pain issues and it helped me kinda control and shut off muscles that are over stimulated from constant tension from anxiety.

[omarelrafhi]

First time trying this kind of meditation, really worked for me.

[Spartos]

This really did help me. I can't stress enough to say thank you. Thank you!

[richpeacock]

This is a brief but very effective exercise. Will be doing it again!

[sharynm]

I did this for the first time after a very stressful day. I actually broke out in tears at the end. I truly felt the tension and anxiety leave my body. Thank you so very much. 💗🙏🏻💗🙏🏻

[dr.sabircholas]

Hi Emma. This has immensely helped me. Thank you. Although I am a pulmonologist I have started to show these techniques to some of my patients also

[mbjxtxy]

I’m a social worker and even when I have an easy day I still tense up. Idk why. But this helped me today.