How To Attract Better Quality Women

Talking points: mindset, relationships

Title says everything, friends. Here are a handful straightforward things you can start doing to attract higher quality women. Caveat: these aren't Jedi mind tricks, they'll benefit you even if you're already in a relationship, and probably will help the dating scene be a little less chaotic for everyone. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:06) - Face your fears and be honest about the red flags you’ve ignored
(00:04:40) - Confront your fears relationally, emotionally, and sexually
(00:06:31) - Work towards your idealized self
(00:09:32) - Get in shape; the benefits are enormous 
(00:16:11) - Be able to regulate your nervous system
(00:17:52) - Know what you will tolerate in relationship and adhere to that
(00:19:59) - Get offline

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[yzma]

This is really interesting to watch as a woman, because it’s so similar to the self help advice I hear for women. Be in shape, have your own life and goals, be interesting, work on your insecurities, etc. Men and woman are very alike when you really think about it.

[PhilipTheHunter]

"Be able to regulate your nervous system" is so important! But then if you need to regulate it too much it probably means you need to review your partner choice or work on yourself first.

[IsaacBlencowe]

Love this man. All fantastic points. I especially love the final one and especially your point on interacting with women with no agenda. I think this is so important. And something I believe women can really sense and feel. And I think an unspoken and underrated benefit of shadow and healing work. I've found that the more I do the more I just come to see women for who they are. As genuine, unique and beautiful human beings. It might sound like a strange thing to say but I've got to place where I just genuinely love and admire women and enjoy interacting with them and getting to know them. I used to be so nervous around women. Now I feel a lot more confident. And I sense women can feel it. Of course ill flirt and have fun with a women I find attractive but it's not my main goal. I just approach them with genuine care and interest. It's such an simple yet important difference.

[ryan.j.drewes]

I love the "get offline" point!! I recently had a revelation.. I was recently asking myself, why do I keep attracting these relationships where people want to build something behind the screen? I need to face my fears and start approaching women in real life. A lot of us hide behind the screen because it gives a sense of safety and comfort. I deleted all my dating apps, and I'm following through with this going forward. What I want, wasn't exactly how I was acting... While I've adjusted to that statement in other areas of my life (ie. financial and life goals) I wasn't actually doing it in regards to potential intimate relationships. love, love, love this video.

[DonSchreffler]

"Out-regulate your partner. Wow. The notion that the currency of value, both for the man AND the woman, in a relationship comes down to having self control and self regulation. How simple, and how challenging, This is a true assessment of the nature of masculine potency and frame, it seems to me.

[slimmjim]

I've been single for a very long time, just turned 30, handsome, short but not out of shape could use more muscle mass. fully bald, , I shave it all clean, have a mustache. don't know what to do, no luck with women, gave up on dating apps/sites, very lonely, working towards goals, BJJ, work out semi-regularly, have a direction to go in life but it's taking a long time, very difficult to cope knowing mad people out there are with each other and im just alone, avoid drinking and bars and stuff, i go to shows

[greenpoprocket]

I love how solutions focused this channel is. I've left that comment before, but it's worth leaving again.

[flake]

12:03 What's really debilitating is being all of these things - a gym goer, a well educated high earning person. And the avoidant partner still is like "ehhhh".

Honestly I'm getting the "Just divorce her and move on with your life" message loud and clear lately hey.

[jbdsvld]

Good video with actionable things to do.
And the nervous system regulation is a good one since it will make your own life so much better and more effortless

[Regina.Clarke]

For women you come across who may be disregulated, first check in to see what’s happening in her world and if she is trying to resolve it. She may have too much on her plate and find out too late. Some women are problematic while some women need more support and likely boundaries.

I found myself in chaos because I lacked boundaries. Too bad for my ex. He didn’t support me after a ton happened, he left after a time in which I lost a relative. I believe he is a dismissive avoidant and went to extremes. It triggered a bit b/c his reaction was surprisingly poor. I wasn’t my best but wasn’t too bad, but I noticed it and sought help. I have since fixed this….can’t be with a man who runs in moments like that particularly when there are tough times. We’re bound to have issues.

Just double check guys; you’ll know if it’s what’s on her plate or if she is the one creating problems everywhere.

[Cee_Eff]

Great points. I'm applying those points as best as I can to suit the framework that is me....Unfortunately it's always a question of "Chemistry" "spark" "charisma" that keeps things forming into some sort of relationship.

[futureproofd]

Thanks. I've been doing these things most of my life. I resonate with the shotgun approach 😅 (notice the motorcycle in my profile). Where I've gone wrong though has been continuing this mysterious kind of frame well into my long term relationships, which only leaves my partner lacking real connection.

[wendydaniel]

I appreciate men who look after themselves mentally emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually. "One trick loser ponies" who have no desire for growth are a waste of time. I love men that are in touch with their feminine energy who are also standing in healthy masculine energy. Where are the men like you? Can't find high value / attractive, interesting men like you anywhere. Excellent videos ❤

[TheNormallyOpen]

I have just purchased your book on kindle, I have enjoyed listening to some of your thoughts - many validate my own experience as an older man.
All the best

[ModernDatingMastery]

*Attracting a high-quality woman starts with being the best version of yourself. Focus on self-improvement — work on your health, career, and mindset. Women are drawn to men who have a strong sense of purpose, confidence, and the ability to lead a fulfilling life.*

[stevecroes]

Guys, get the audio book, My Secret Garden. Women get bored with sex if you’re not trying new things. And the book will blow your mind.
You’re welcome. 😏

[Goheist]

Great content man, no doubt we are all one, when you laugh to yourself, I do to, felt so relatable, keep the grind man

[chronometa]

Paradoxical is a good one. I wear athleisure, but will talk about the extreme metal concert I went to, and nerd out on Godzilla and new balance sneakers.

[TheAdaptiveMale]

"Not even gonna spend a lot of time on this one"

Proceeds to spend the most amount of time on this one.

Fitness is everything, men. Get in shape!

[MrBoxofplastic]

Only the high end grocery stores have women that are attractive. The obesity epidemic is very clear at regular grocery stores.