How to be Independent and Loved at the Same Time

Are you longing to be yourself and do what you want but are afraid that your partner won't like it? Do you fear being chastised for being true to yourself in case your parent or partner will not love you unless you see things their way? Maybe you are caught in a trap of fear that being yourself is not loveable, desirable or valuable.
This video tells the stories of two people who were scared of having their own opinions and doing things their way for fear of being ostracised, abandoned and left helpless and alone.
They chose to be subordinate and small to ensure the connection and nearness of a loved one, giving up their authenticity and autonomy in order to feed their young dependent selves.
The video then explains how taking a chance to do things you want actually elevates you to the status of an equal and recalibrates the relationship so you can be independent, and loved at the same time.

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My therapist asked me, why I haven’t got my driving license, she asked what frightened me, and I said not the streets but the thought of hurting my head at night and I have to be the one to go to the hospital, it’s the idea that onece I take care of me no one will be willing to take of me.