How to Be Independent in a Relationship | Better You

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The goal of any relationship is to enter it as an individual to maintain your individuality and to know that that your purpose is to contribute to the overall growth and success of that relationship. A relationship is actually 3 entities you know its 2 people and the relationship. But there is lot of confusion around relationship because a usually means to most people becoming one person and in that blazing is is a loss of self and loss of independence. Its really important that we stay true to who and what we are. The problem with maintaining independence is that sometimes they could put somebody else on the defensive. They feel like we are living them out of certain things so that they are not wants it in certain things and that could it be further from the truth. You know independence is all about keeping your promises to yourself, its knowing what you need to do to be a highly functional emotionally matured person. And that means doing your bells once a week or casually a girls branch or taking a dance class or taking a bubble bath or going to the bar you know with the guys to watch the game whatever the this stereotype allows for. Its about knowing that no matter who are in relation with you in with yourself and you can't betray yourself to make relationship work. No relationship should required you to sacrifice who you are as an individual for the overall strength of a relationship that's must sacrifice could only leads to dis-function in a relationship and its ultimate demise.

[PurpleBunnyJ]

Good video, a lot of people don't realize that they do not have to change who they are in a relationship in order to be happy. Part of the reason that divorces happen is because people expect that the things they don't like about their partner will just go away, or that their partner is going to completely change who they are, which is rarely true. If you stay true to yourself, and be who you want to be, will you find someone who you can truly be happy with for a very long time.

[kaibami]

I wish I listen have to this before I got married

[magnarocka]

its not about having independence, if you want to independant then just be single.because its this kind of mentality that leads to people thinking that they dont have to think about how their actions affect their partner and in turn their relationship.in time this this "independence" is used as an excuse not to respect one another and people get selfish and think of their own needs all the time.Hence America has the highest rate of divorces & failed relationships.Nuch too casual about life.

[dakshinamurti]

bull. I know of a lot of functional happy relationships with dominance/submission features, in the sense that there is a clear leader and follower, sort of like the gardener/flower symbiotic relationship. To pretend 1+1 = 3 is universally and objectively better than 1+1=1 is Bigotted Bull.

[heribertorodriguez]

Then why do women try so hard to take a mans independent away or what makes him who he is? In most cases...

[YorickReturns]

Thanks for nothing, Howcast. Now I'm in trouble with my girlfriend for watching this video... XD