Narcissists Have Hero Syndrome #narcissist

[YesPlease]

"I drove you to the therapists office. Now you OWE ME YOUR LIFE." This is probably legitimately how they think 😧.

[gregoryking]

YouTube randomly brought you to my attention, but of all the tuber therapists I've leaned on in the last 3 years trying to recover myself you have the most effective delivery.
Definitely subscribed!

[elenhil]

With them, one hand giveth while the other taketh away.

[afolabiadebajo]

I should have met this man earlier in my life at around seventeen or eighteen years of age, all the same, thanks for your confirmation, I hope the younger generation view this video!

[MM-qlji]

My narc spouse did this to me exactly.. he put me in a deep mess where my life was at stake and i threw myself under the bus willingly and sacrificed myself without expecting anything from him. But he said i was ready to risk my life for u and came there too... He never understood that he was responsible for it all and his risk meant nothing at all.

[MJG]

Of all the stress i got a out of hospital cardiac arrest at 32 years old and he saved me with cpr and calling the ambulance. The whole world had to know🫤how he saved me….the butcher, the florist, the cousin from the neighbour from a friend etc etc😂. He was the hero

[khadijahoneybadger]

In my language we would say God bless who contributed to your education. Starting from your parents who on day 1 sent you to school and finishing with your teachers and professors.
Bashir, your videos have healed many broken souls and hearts and thank you for that.

[sahdogwrangler]

Just having someone understand is so validating. For years I thought it was me. My husband will help strangers, go out of his way to help people. He's an awesome guy. Or at least he looks like it on public. Same guy standing 2" from me shouting f*ck you in my face, then yelling at me not to walk away from him or raise my voice. But he brought home plywood in his truck for a couple that was struggling to load their purchase at Lowe's a few weeks ago. Gives hitchhikers rides (dangerous, imo) No wonder I thought I was the crazy one! The duality of it all is maddening.

[pemmylewis]

Wow. Healing! And a lot of time not to waste! Top info as always!

[alimccreery]

I get it both Thing One and Thing Two have played the hero after they put me in a bad situation and then told me I should have researched the conditions knowing full well that I wasn’t experienced. What a-holes 🤨

[morlaisward]

Classic - Harm and Rescue - a favourite narcissist's strategy.

[mariaray]

They are dangerous. I think people should leave these psychopaths ASAP bcos they pretend they aren't That bad..stay away anyways from people whose life is bared on fraud..

[shasha]

Absolutely 100% true. He would go to "save" his ex wife. He had to go and be everything to everyone. He had to fix, repair, put together and be there for EVERYONE, except for me.

[bonniebee]

Seem like you were peeking into my life...wow!! Spot on!!

[deborahculp]

Thank you for sharing…
who are such insightful and profound therapist….
this should be developed for a mental health educational module.

[ajayreddy]

You are helping so many people. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

If you could please start a parteon. I want to support you because you provide so much value and insight to so many people who are suffering.

[ds]

Military family, stationed in Alaska My ex Narc had a rollover vehicle accident he was the driver I was the passenger our children were in the backseat. I broke my arm shattered my wrist completely and dislocated the wrist, I tore the bicep tendon and dislocated my right shoulder. I broke a few fingers in my hand I had over 500 stitches. Herniated two discs in my neck. Broke my nose and my sinuses collapsed. I was hospitalized for over a week in Anchorage having two emergency surgeries the first week and then over the next three years would have a total of 10 surgeries. During this time my narc husband was actively visiting prostitutes and using our three year old son caring him around as if he was the hero dad when we were out together as a family. He never once went with me to my doctors appointments I drove myself. One female soldier approached me and told me of a very odd conversation she had with my husband at the time she stated she had to go see him in his office with other people with her. and that my husband seemed very oddly overjoyed in sharing with everyone all of the injuries I took she went on to say it was just weird it was as if he was taking pride in your injuries. All I could think of to say to her was, thank you for telling me. He played up being both mom and dad while being a battalion commander but using both roles as an excuse why he was failing at the other role. When being reassigned to his next duty station he manipulated being deployed by using all of my injuries as a reason why he could not be deployed. I would later received two separate phone calls from other spouses within our battalion telling me they thought the battalion secretary and my husband we're having an affair.

[arhafrench]

Mine ignored his child support duties 13yrs and expected to be thanked and admired and taken back into my life when I came back to get him on track to a job so that he could start paying it. As soon as he realized that I meant business about not taking him back unless he was consistently paying me EVERY month, he quit his job and moved back in with his mom.

[bernitacenteno]

I could 🫂 and 👄 you Danish. But I'll simply shake you hand 🤝 and 🙏🏻 for you, from a far. You got it right. Thankyou very much.

[millyardopeacecraft]

This further confirms what I've been dealing with.

In July of 2022. My ex narc with BPD created and fabricated an incident that literally could have got me killed at a public park. Her being white and me being black. She stole my keys by not allowing me to get them out of her car. After a disagreement we had. She got up and walked away. I told her i find my own way back to my car which was at her place. She locked the doorsof the car. After many polite attempts asking for my keys back because I could tell she was trying to cause a scene. She allowed me to get my keys only if she was allowed to take me home. Control and manipulation on her part. Once in the car. I was driver she sat passenger. As soon as I tapped the gas she started screaming bloody murder that I was trying to kill her. I got out the car and started walking. Because people are now thinking a DV situation is going down. She follows me in the car screaming for me to get into car. People are asking her "Is he bothering you". When I am the one being abused. When I am the one being followed and harassed. Scared for my life because now people are thinking im the bad guy. My stress i get back into car on passenger side. I had a panick attack in the car. That was reactive. I told her what she did was complete implicit racial bias. She denied it. Then made herself out to be the hero because she said "I didn't feel safe leaving you at park" when she caused the entire situation. By just not giving me my keys so I could leave.

This ultimately led to many discards on her part. And casting blame on me for every trash thing she did to me. I hate I fell for this person. But I am glad I never gave her a baby or marriage after 2years of love bombing. The last 5months where absolute hell.

If you are someone who dealing with anyone with any sign of a personality disorder leave before its too late. I became susceptible to the cognitive dissonance that my original lover and friend would come back. She never did. Her emotional manipulation and abuse just got worse with each interaction.

She literally told me with a straight face that emotional manipulation is not abuse....wtf. everything she did to me she felt justified for an argument we had in June of 2022. Which was terrible. Once she saw me as bad thats all she could see do to Splitting. She cheated on me during this time as well. While I was going to therapy and getting myself healthy and such through excerise . She relapsed and everything. Smh

Just go from them and save your own heart. Don't be foolish as I have. They do not ever come back. They discard you. Then prep themselves for a new personality they create for their next victim.

If you need your sign this is it. Leave now or deal with the pain that feel everlasting.

Don't shoulder all the blame either. They will try to make everything your fault to escape accountability. I'm literally in therapy for the first time in my life for all the psychological damage this batty a-- woman created.