'Am I Nonbinary?' The Key Questions to Ask Yourself!

If you are questioning whether you are non binary, here are some questions to ask yourself.

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[fiamedknuff]

Interesting video although I have never considered the possibility of being nonbinary. It confirms that I'm very much a binary person as I exclusively identify with womanhood and femininity. It always felt like I was force-fed masculinity and I never felt comfortable being a man. Being perceived as a man and forced to fulfill male gender roles brought me nothing but unhappiness and I'm now happy to erase all traces of maleness.

[slimslendey]

I never thought about my assigned gender at birth. Never disliked being male, but always found it to be whatever. Started to question my gender about a month or two ago and found this video just now. Your questions are really making me internally think about who I want to be. I'm gonna take some time to think about my gender, and hopefully I come out of this more confident, regardless if anything changed. Thank you so much!

[petersaysthings]

I've never really identified with masculinity. As a child I was comfortable being called a boy, but grown men always intimidated me, and I wasn't so sure I wanted to become one. They seemed so hardened and rough, and I wasn't excited to develop secondary sex characteristics either. As I grew up, I noticed changes in the behavior of my male peers and started to hate the concepts of masculinity I saw in them. I was always bullied in school for being the quiet kid with a softer, feminine personality who always got along with the girls. But it was odd because I never felt fully feminine either. My dad has always had a softer masculine personality, so I'm glad I had an example of masculinity I didn't resent. But I've always felt more gender fluid/androgynous in my mind. I'm glad nonbinary stuff is being talked about now, because I finally have a term I feel fits me.

[randomomelette]

I feel like neither but at the same time both. I don’t experience dysphoria, I also don’t care what pronouns people use for me. I’m okay with being seen as a female ( my assigned gender at birth ). My friends are trans and I don’t want to feel like I’m ‘faking’ being non-binary. Like I need to justify it in some way. It’s always been like that. Im bisexual and I always feel like I need to prove it, date a girl, have a crush on a girl. And I know I’m bi, I don’t need to prove it to myself. But I just don’t know if I’m non-binary, what do you think? Am I non-binary or am I cis, please help meee ❤❤❤

(Edit) gender roles suck and they should be destroyed ❤ (edit) -I’m agender

[jerrimenard]

I never was comfortable with being called a girl or boy. I am AFAB. I was called a tomboy and heshe or androgynous in the 80's as a teen. It was not until after 3 failed marriages that I saw myself for who I am
My Exes tend to be Queer people who don't want to come out . To be with me, they could present as straight and play the game. My gender identity was a fetish for them. They didn't see me, as a person. I was a part.
It lead me to be depressedI had body acceptance problems. Until I came out as Nonbinary I couldn't really bond because I couldn't trust myself or others to accept the real me. Now, I am much more relaxed and comfortable. That makes me feel very loveable and sexy.

[katiestorm]

I am currently identifying as being agender, I have never felt feminine or masculine. I have also always preferred to only be called by my nickname and often uncomfortable being referred to by the name that my parents chose for me because it too feminine I also don’t feel comfortable being called miss or mama. Right now I just want to try not using pronouns at all, however I am also autistic and this would be a big change for both me and my family. Maybe I just haven’t found the right pronouns yet, however I also feel overwhelmed because there are so many options.

[outoftheoven]

I'm five years on HRT and very much still discovering what it means to be both transfeminine and non-binary. The world makes it hard to exist outside of the box.. dating is hard, socializing can be alienating, but I don't want to feel like I have to play the role of what a 'woman' is just because I'm trans and on HRT. It feels like I've been gender confused for the past 10 years, at this point I don't know if it'll ever end.

[thecaptaintai]

I see all of your videos just because they are super interesting, but I watched this one twice because I wanted to take notes on the questions themselves. I am questioning my gender since almost 4 years ago and it has been an emotional journey to even begin to know myself. I was super repressed as a person and had to learn to unlearn all that before I could consider my gender properly. I am happy to say I have done very big strides in just this last year and this video is definitely giving me more to think about. Thank you for making these videos, always a pleasure to hear from you!

[nirestrunk]

This is lovely. Amazingly high quality video!

I am an older NB person. It's always very hard to articulate to people how I KNOW I am 100% non -binary.

BUT not knowing where I sit specifically under the umbrella/spectrum is OK and I think you've helped me understand that better!

Really well put together!❤

[ChrissiX]

Thank you so much Dr. Z. I have the resources available (took a while, but found a good therapist) but I wasn't gaining any real value from once a month sessions where I struggled to find things to discuss. But, listening to you every day (especially when it doesn't directly relate to me) is exactly the boost and positive thoughts I need to excel at life everyday. Again, thank you.

[varelsemind]

As an AMAB person, who understood relatively late in life (33yo) my attraction and fascination towards everything feminine, and how I identify my expression and tastes with this feminine in a much stronger way than I previous thought, I thought at first I was trans. But I know that I'll never be a woman, I can't fully transition due to a series of obstacles, so I settled with a nonbinary identity in order to express my disconnection with the masculine and how much I want to embrace the feminine. Perhaps I'm in denial, but considering my circumstances make it impossible to fully transition, I feel it's the best option I can settle for.

[bluetotoros]

ive been out as a trans guy for 7 years now, but it didn't feel like it quite captured everything, so i've always still been questioning a little. this brought up some interesting questions and leads, thank you💖

[SuperDiabloKin]

Thank you so much for this video. I identified as genderqueer early in my transition but it was 2007 and no one knew what that was so I leaned more to a binary position(I’m amab). I know that I am non binary but i like to check over and over again to be sure. So far it has been stable and I like where i am at. Your list of questions had me thinking about my process and I couldn’t help but nod my head over some of the thing you said. Like identifying as one gender exclusively because one gets tired of fighting an up hill battle every day. Oof, I’ve been there. I relate to some of binary trans women’s narrative but also at the same time the non binary one. I guess that makes me Trans femme? I don’t know but I don’t feel right calling myself a transwoman when I know i have another part of my gender that’s not. Times like these I feel non binary makes more sense.

[ystava]

I thought I was transgender for at least a decade when I was in my 20's. I couldn't relate to males and felt more connected to females. I definitely have body dysphoria and wish I had a female body. But after I really examined it realized I didn't feel female around females either. When I was young there weren't examples of trans women who weren't femme and weren't hetero. I'm not even sure I would have made the cut with medical transition because I believe that was the requirements in the 80's. Also, when I was happiest, I didn't think about my gender or my body... everything I love about myself it doesn't matter. So by the time I got to 30 I decided that my identity wasn't tied up in my sexuality and gender. Now 20 years later from that I realized that I am agender flux ... librafluid. I am gray asexual too... so I don't run into a lot of mind/body conflict over sexuality...

If I were younger, my path might've been much different... but here I am.

[RiftWalker]

Thank you AMAB here, for a while I've been feeling more androgynous and non-binary feels extremely right for me and this video almost cements those feelings for fir me. You dropped this video at such a perfect time, thank you.

[TonusFabri]

Good questions! I have always been completely comfortable with my AGAB (male), but all my adult life I have also been conscious of my feminine side, and value it. Way back in the 1970s the only word for this was "androgynous", and I was happy to accept it. I felt it made me more adaptable, more flexible. At times I would explore this more seriously: I remember when I was about 30, in a guided meditation, imagining how it would feel to be pregnant, and a couple of years later seriously discussing with my wife the possibility of my inducing lactation in order to nurse our firstborn. Now in my seventies I am delving even more deeply, experimenting with cross-dressing and makeup. For a couple of weeks I was in a high state of uncertainty, not sure if I was going trans, or just crazy. Then I discovered your videos, Dr Z, and you have settled my mind greatly. Now I am OK, I am not crazy, my subconscious is not driving me trans; I am at home with my gender, I am simply enjoying expressing my other side. Perhaps I am nonbinary; I am going to go over your questions again. But it's only a label after all; I am who I am! Thank you Dr Z.

[Mathster]

Thank you for your wise words, Gender Edna Mode. ^-^

[Joy-B]

Thank you so much for your videos Dr. Z. They are so informative and have really helped me while I'm in the process of questioning my gender. One question I have is how to tell the difference between if you are nonbinary or if you are a cis person who is a gender non conforming. I know gender identity and gender expression are different concepts, but I am not sure if the discomfort I have being seen as a woman is related to identity or if I simply desire not to have a stereotypical "womanly" gender expression and adhere to female gender roles.

[Anna_RetroSynth]

I keep coming back to this video. I don't feel comfortable as a man at all, but I also don't feel comfortable with the idea of being a woman. I don't like He/Him and I don't like She/Her. I am most comfortable being feminine, but I don't feel the need for a medical transition. I'm all over the place. I wish my brain would settle on a feeling and stick with it. Because I also really like to look like a pretty woman in private. (In private because I'm not looking for male attention at all). Dressing like a woman feels great! But I can't bring myself to do it in public. I wear casual women's clothing that is more masculine looking in order to curb the gender dysphoria and not get harassed. Life is so confusing!

[Mark_T]

Interesting thoughts, thank you. I take a very simplistic view of it all: I'm just me, and I don't give too much thought about identifying masculine or feminine, although I prefer to present feminine :-)