Common Mistakes That Will Ruin Your Relationships

The BIGGEST Mistake People Make In Dating

There is one thing that ruins more relationships than any others. And while the examples I give are from my own life, this is true for men and women, straight, gay, it doesn't matter.

That thing is neediness. It often looks like obsessiveness, meaning you start imagining what it would be be boyfriend and girlfriend after one encounter, discussing kid names, giving larges gifts, talking to them about your future together in early dates, or when you spend all day thinking about why they didn’t get back to that text you sent. And it’s repulsive. And it’s the biggest thing that messes it up right after you meet someone you really like.

And I want to give you three simple things and one harder thing that you can do to fight neediness - because if you’ve got it, it can kill a relationship before it begins. Trust me, I’ve experienced it plenty of times. Keep in mind this specific advice is for early in a relationship

0:51 Trying to contact them every single day
2:37 Pleading when they can't meet up
3:55 Changing your schedule to fit theirs

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[Raphanne]

I actually hate that dating game with a passion. My boyfriend texted me the day after we met and I appreciated it. He wanted to talk to me and so he did. He didn't play games. I liked his honesty and straight forwardness. He invited me to go eat something, I couldn't that day, so I told him "What about monday? I'm free on monday." We texted everyday until we met again because we wanted to speak to each other.

[MicahBuzanANIMATION]

Dating is such a mess. Humans are weird animals.

[MichelleVisageOnlyFans]

How did our ancestors even get together and mated without advice from youtube???!!!!

[artemissunandmoon]

When a person mistreats service staff on a date, remember that they are on their best behavior. Once they are sure of you, they will treat you much worse.

[MrSpvdes]

Why make someone your priority when you're just an option.

Valuing your time is the best thing.

[maggie_ik]

As a person with a bachelor's degree in Psychology, I must say you cover more useful material in this channel, than all my 4 years spent in my University! Congratulations, happy to subscribe!

[akman]

You're telling me that "Saturdays are for the boys" is actually a good dating strategy?

[anonymouslee]

Dating gets a lot harder when you work full-time, it's like just finding time to meet up is this grand production. Especially if you and your date have different work schedules. Kinda forces me not to be super needy.

[QShaque]

You make an effort and you are too needy. You take a step back, and you are not making enough effort.

[RSidd]

Ahh screw it! This business is way too complicated than I thought. I'll just get a dog or something.

[sventibaldo]

Flirting is fun and being in a romantic relationship is also fun....
The initial dating phase though...that's boring.
I wish i could avoid it entirely.

[ZZeke]

this guy literally mentioned all the reasons my previous relationship failed, wow

[GabeTwoThousand]

Challenge: Don't feel needy when being single for years at a time

Alternate challenge: Don't show that you feel hungry after not eating for 5 days

[TheRealBBC]

I definitely should have seen this video a couple weeks ago.

[jogolord]

I tried your advice, my life's going great! I take frequent breaks from my wife and I ONLY invite my kids over to my place every couple of weeks!

[touieg]

Neediness destroyed my last relationship. I’m in a fresh, new relationship now and already I feel the symptoms of neediness slowly seeping back in. I’m battling from the inside, against myself, so I need to win and not ruin this relationship like I had my last

[anonamos]

Number one mistake people make in dating is dating

[heathermuffins]

I got really mad and dumped the guy I was dating because he flaked out on me two weekends in a row and didn't ask to see me during the week. At first, I thought I overreacted and made a huge mistake. Then, when I called him to ask if there was anything I could do to repair the damage, we had a conversation that revealed his total emotional unavailability. He was playing games because he didn't know what he wanted(while claiming to know what he wanted). So, sometimes, you should just dump them. Flakiness is not okay just as neediness is not okay.

[mertgunes]

why didn't I see this video when it came why damn.

[lightningmonky]

This really opened my eyes thanks. I'm 3 months into my relationship and feel like I'm ALWAYS waiting for her to be free rather than the other way around.