How to Identify Core Values in a Relationship

How to Identify Core Values in a Relationship.

In this video we will be talking about identifying your own core values in a relationship.

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In this video we review and identify what core values are and what they look like in relationships. We specifically break it down on identifying core values in romantic relationships and the importance for identifying them early on.

Comment below with any questions you may have on identifying core values in relationships.

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Comment below with any questions you may have on identifying core values in relationships.

[latricecarter]

Trying to identify my core values and see if my current relationship is aligned with them. I wish I could have known about my true core values before getting into any serious relationships! This video was helpful, thank you!

[patriciamelendez]

Great! I appreciate how thorough you had explained identifying core values! This was very helpful and encouraging!

[ihwidfs]

This was a well done video explaining core values. Thank you!

[agape]

Core values are just that….who you are at your CORE.
What makes you, you.
I think many either do not yet recognise their own core values, or chose to ignore that another’s core values do not match with their own, thus creating problems such as compromise and thus breeding resentment simply due to the fact your core values do not align.
I really hope people take this into serious consideration before engaging in a relationship.

[OllieSmiless]

This is super helpful, thank you! Do you actually have this conversation when you meet someone to determine if you share values? Obviously, you can have a conversation about kids or finances, but what about other values? Do you discuss communication values or honesty, etc? Or do you just observe they behavior and see if it matches your values?

[Felineska]

Thank you for this video. I'm in a relationship for 6 years (I'm 27) and I guess I knew for a while that my core values aren't aligned with his. I always wanted kids, he doesn't. Marriage is a natural and logical move in a relationship for me but not for him - and I'm tired of trying to explain why it's important to me. Another thing is that I recently realized that he is a serious homophobe (only verbally, he would never physically attack someone), but that is something I really can't get over. (These are just a few things but there are more...) I've mostly decided that I don't want to spend my life with someone like that but I still have trouble ending it. We live together so parting ways can't really happen overnight. And also, partly I'm still questioning if my reasons are valid. Do you have any advice, how to stay strong in this decision?

[missiejin]

Great video but I feel like you did not address the question of HOW to identify our core values, and rather you explained on the importance of core values and how core values of two people work in a relationship. Do you have any advice on how to go about identifying ourselves? How/where should we start from?

[IsabelleTurcotteTBA]

Thanks for that! 🙏 Do you know any relevant test or quiz or theory out there to clearly help identify them (values) & categorize them (absolute, flexible, not important)? Thanks!

[chrome]

I find myself constantly explaining good moral values with my girlfriend and she's quick to acknowledge her understanding to my concerns, but she never take any actions of consideration for the next similar scenario.
How long should i wait for a change before ending the relationship?

[chrisstange]

Vegetarianism is a core (or moral...?) value for my girlfriend. She wants her partner to not eat meat, but I'm learning autonomy is important to me, and I don't feel comfortable with someone imposing a dietary restriction on me. Autonomy is a core value of mine that I did not recognize until I got into this relationship with her. It has been very difficult navigating since this is the only core value I've identified that we have not been able to compromise on. Is there a difference between moral and core values?

[padmanathankv]

I am not very social or an extrovert, especially with the opposite sex. Its has nothing to do with self-confidence or self-esteem, but it is just how I was brought up. I have very few close friends including few female friends with whom I maintain healthy friendship. I value my relationship a lot.

My ex-fiancé was the extreme opposite. She is very social and friendly. Even in the relationship, she was spending more time with her best friend (guy knows for an year) than with me. She works from his apartment, goes to parties late night with him and so on. This made me feel uncomfortable and ultimately we broke up.

Could this be because of difference in core values?

[natsukitatsumakiniji]

If two people get into a heated argument on the second date and politely agree to change subjects because both parties are angry, but it never comes to a resolution, can that indicate core value differences from flexible ones?

[deborahthompson]

I broke up with my bf after 5 years because I did not feel normal when he always had some kind of party, holiday party or get together around women im not even around and hes never met and drinks . he tells me im insecure but I feel im not being how men are around attractive women. I feel its normal if we were around the people he was around together. Am i right to feel what he is doing is not right?