The taboo of being estranged from elderly parents #narcissism #abuse #mentalhealth #taboos

Thank you so much for watching. If you are dealing with a toxic relationship, please look after yourself and get professional help if you are able.

Much love, Chess xxx

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This is a personal account of my experiences. I am not diagnosing anybody in my family as narcissistic. If you are in danger of physical abuse & harm, from others or yourself, please contact your local emergency services immediately.

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[sarahquinlan]

I never usually speak of the estrangement with my family it helps that they live in another state though. Though, I do rarely tell people if they are curious this: "It was my parents choice. They chose to continue abusive behaviour even when I gave so many chances cycling in and out of no contact. I didn't make this choice they did and it is out of my hands."

[sonicleaves]

It's ok to break away from abusive parents. It has been incredibly freeing for me. It's been 3 years since I've spoken to my mother and I never will again.

[karap]

Thank you so much for making these videos! Your honesty is so helpful to me.

[Rafael_]

I have been isolated because a narcissistic sibling has no shame and doesn't care to cause the wedge with my elderly father and myself...I am thru with being bullied.

[waltsudman]

Thanks for this video. I t helps me in my relation to my senior, older sisters. Your videos are very very helpful. Thank you. :)

[cindyvernon]

You can’t fix anyone, change yourself and your situation changes. Take responsibility for yourself. They can only abuse you if you react instead of responding.

[abedelosrios]

I love your videos, I'm so glad I found you 💗 I needed this

[seekingthemiddleway]

Snow White is a story where the harmless old peddlar woman turns out to be evil. It's an interesting allegory for narcissistic mothers, especially as the jealous evil queen was Snow White's biological mother in the original story.

[awakening-le]

is no excuse. Exactly what I conveyed to my mother, lest she use that angle too.

[efish]

My Mom has dragged me threw 6 marriages, my Dad being the first (a great guy), then a string of abusive men. I was always expected to honor these abusive men as my step Dad, and got in trouble when I didn't, and she would just watch these guys beat me and would say nothing. I was used as a prop for my Mom, a cute little 3-8 year old to draw in her bait of the week. On top of all the marriages, I also caught her in several affairs. She finally settled with a millionaire narc, "they have been married 15 years". When your narc has lots of money, it's a whole different battle that you must fight, as they use their money to trample your boundaries, lure your children, and entangle you in "interest free loans" and free trips, anything to get their supply....But the mask always slips, and when you see the reality behind the mask, the treachery, you realize it's all been a game of manipulation and they never really gave 2 shits about you. You want to get rid of the Narc ? HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS, and watch them slither away... I've been 2 years no contact and it's been the hardest thing to break the Trauma Bond, but I'm happier now, I've weeded out the flying monkey's, and the cognitive dissonance and the ruminating has gone away. I still miss my Mom though, or is it the "illusion" of who I thought my Mom was....

[valeanton]

There is more than abuse. There are attempts to financially exploit you and make you pay for their messed up life choices. My mom has actually cut me off and it is painful (she is a victim of family violence but also a perpetrator) and I am starting to realise every day more, how necessary it was.

[joerudnik]

Estrangement occurred in every recent generation, (last 4), of my family. It seems, that being the oldest child, increases your odds of scapegoating. Up until, the last 20 years, therapists seemed to treat it as a ‘misunderstanding’, a ‘miscommunication’, a situation where just ‘behaving’ and ‘ignoring’, would be steps toward a reasonable compromise. It isn’t. My parents, would say, I’m sorry that I can’t give you what you need. As if, kindness, encouragement and fairness were outrageous requests.

[alforliniteaching]

Yes, I see the trouble.
I have Christian standards to keep me away from toxic relatives.
Compounding the seperation.

[marthaoschwald]

Hi! I enjoy your videos but have a hard time hearing them at times. Would it be possible to make upcoming content a bit louder?

[therealspixycat]

It's not even accept by the siblings

[EveningTV]

Such an important video, but I could barely hear you. It was good for your analytics though because instead of giving up I watched it twice!! It is a terrible problem, and is the best of only bad choices.

[ingriddenzin]

Borderline pd can be helped. So can complex PTSD.

[marenbarr-qbeq]

The movie Tangled. How about Cinderella

[ALHhome]

My child is no victim. Ruthless and cold. Calculated. Dumped everyone on both sides. Lone wolf. Heartless who could not give a hug. Hated expressing any emotions. Flat affect face. Saw the shark eyes on multiple occasions.